Sunday, 16 August 2009
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I Don't Know If I Can Trust Him
Q. I met this guy during my freshman year of college. He lived a few floors up from me. We met it was just before Christmas break, but luckily, he got my number so we talked through break. I was, also, kind of talking to someone else.
The someone else was a disappointment because he wasn't over his ex. He was talking to her at the same time he was talking to me. This new guy is really nice. We're on the same track team, so we see each other a lot. Not so much now because it's summer, and he lives in Michigan (I live in Ohio). But after the other guy was out of the picture, this new guy and I actually began to talk. I really like him, but I don't trust him. I don't want to be hurt like I have been so many times before.
He talks about getting together when we get back to school but I'm skeptical. He's got a lot of lady friends, which is fine because I have a lot of guy friends. But I don't know exactly how many of those lady friends are just friends. He used to have sex with some of those girls. I know we can be friends, but I just don't know if I can fully trust him or not. Every time I tell him I don't know if I can, he tries to reassure me. So now I'm just like thinking well he seems sincere, but is it just an act? Is he really being honest does he want to be with me and only me? Or am I just going to be a girl he adds to his list?
A. Be on your guard. You already have your suspicions, and usually intuition is right. Be careful around him because it also seems like you don't know that much about him. You should wait until you both get back to school, see how he still interacts with those girls. You can ask him about it directly, just to clear the air, but if you're still suspicious, I would say to move on with a different guy that you're more willing to trust.
