Okay, so I read
this absolutely hilarious (and slightly annoying) post on Datingish and here's a reply to it:
This post is to all those men who are unable to understand women - that is, practically all you men and me as well even though I'm not a man. Yes, I agree that we do get a wrong impression about you men, for most of you are very simple creatures. But you need to know certain things about us that'll help you understand us.
Most of us women are unfortunately born with the talent of guessing things right. We are intuitive and so in innocent oblivion expect you to be the same. Sincere apologies for that. We are also capable of knowing what hints (of all sorts) mean and we usually act accordingly. Sorry for that. Our minds are specially designed to think about things other than sex, cars, hunting, fishing, the shotgun formation, hockey, baseball, basketball or golf. We beg your pardon for that. Forgive us for not understanding the concept of Sporty Sundays (no sarcasm... seriously). Okay, done with the apologies. Now the tough part.
We thank you for the beautiful home we live in, but you know we also want to feel that way. We don't like waking up and thinking, "Hey! I live in a boys' hostel! Oh no wait! This is my home!" That's why we keep telling you that your shoes like the shoe - rack (where they get the company of our shoes) more than the dark and lonely area under the bed.
We understand that you just LOVE solving problems, but you know what? We have brains too(that too much complex ones that enable our eyes to see and identify more than 16 colours)! News? Not anymore.
We can solve our problems as well, but you know we follow a seperate procedure and one of the most critical steps involves 'talking' about the problem to someone that matters. It is then we gain our balance back and becoming that girl who you fell for. So next time when we tell you how disgusting our boss is or how bad the weather is for our hair, just keep that big, helpful mouth of yours SHUT. You look loads better when you do that. Always remember - we have brains too. And if you still continue trying to 'help', we will refuse to take charge for that black eye.
"You seriously want to wear that?" - well this isn't exactly music to our sensitive ears. We have a lot of ways to kill time and so we won't try dresses just for the heck of it. Polite criticism like, "You'd look loads better in..." is welcome, but "Seriously wanna wear that?" is just infruiating. YES, we're gonna wear that - you have a problem with that? If yes, keep it to yourself and express it curtly. We know we take centuries to dress up and this irritates you. But we want to look good. We like looking good and feeling good about ourselves. And a pinch of (honest) appreciation from your side makes us feel even better - it makes us glow from within.
And when we say "Nothing." or "It's okay." when something happens, just look at our facial expressions (and don't worry our face has less than 16 colours so your eyes are comfertable analysing it) and pay no attention to words. You'll know what we mean. Sometimes we just keep things in so that you don't get annoyed or upset by our 'drama' or 'over - sensitivness'. And that explains why we're so resentful at times for absolutely no reason. We know we're complex and it's hard for you to deal with it, but face it men, if you can't live with us, you can't live without us either!!!
Thank you for reading this, and I won't sleep on the couch tonight because I'm 16, single and perfectly happy. But I would have to encounter a lot of angered men. But you know what? I don't give a damn! But I do not intend to offend men through this post. It's just a counter - post. Cheers!!! 
Editors' note: This post was not changed from its original form and does not necessarily reflect the opinions of Team Datingish. Seriously.
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Comments (107)
Ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...what?
Wow, so I don't know about other women, but when I say nothing's wrong, I really mean nothing is wrong. I have no problem saying what's on my mind. If I say nothing, I mean nothing. Seriously.
And no way I would have guessed this was written by a 16 year old. Seriously, no way.
I feel like the only times I say "nothing" when my boyfriend asks me what's wrong (besides when nothing is wrong) is when he sounds exasperated or irritated because he has something else he'd rather be doing listening to me.
So it's more like, "Nothing's wrong, go watch your stupid football" or whatever, since that's what you want to be doing anyway. You think we can't tell the difference between a sincere inquiry into our feelings and a curt, obligatory (and therefore empty) gesture?
This post better have come from the kitchen...
And I want my bacon.
1. our minds are not "designed" to think (or not think) about anything in particular. i hate "hints." what an excuse for the hinter to be all sulky and passive-aggressive when we don't get what he/she means.
2. why would i give a black eye to someone trying to help me? just keep that big, helpful mouth of yours SHUT. You look loads better when you do that. can you imagine a guy saying that to a girl? yikes.
3. if a guy thinks my clothes don't look good, he can tell me that. i don't need to have it sugar-coated and be told that something else would look better.
4. i don't say that a situation is ok when it's not ok. people who do that annoy me - i can't read your fucking mind, and what's the point of saying something (not in jest) if you don't mean it.
thanks for the warning, datingish. :)
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - chill chill chill it's just a sarcastic counter post... These are not meant to be taken that seriously... Even I agree with what you're saying...
I think women tend to say nothing's wrong when obviously something is because it's built into us not to burden others unnecessarily. I read about a study of a group of hospital patients, half female, half male who all had access to call buttons that would summon a nurse if needed. Most of the female patients did not want to burden the nurse by summoning them, even if they were in pain. The male patients had no problem calling the nurse when they needed attention and therefore were not as stressed or pained as the women were.
@AasthaKathy@xanga - it's hard to get when people are joking online. sorry i took it seriously.
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - oh babe that's okay...you don't need to be sorry...that happens... You know what? I'm 90% guy myself and I enjoy seeing with the perspective of both the sexes! Anyway, thank you so much for the comment!
By the way, lovely profile picture!
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - yeah I know this is one general tendency among most of the women...
@Murphy_Rants@xanga - just a stupid counter post
@katiwitz@xanga - another thing you couldn't guess - I've never been into relationships!!!@Kevin_is_a_pirate@xanga - ask your mama big boy! I ain't making you any bacon...
Just reading your About Me tells me how seriously to take this post
you're seriously going to spell like that?
I would say I can be guilty of the "nothing, I'm fine" comment, when something is wrong, but not to be purposely awkward and later bring it up, but because I know it could just be me being over-sensitive, and I'd prefer to think about it on my own, instead of launching an attack everytime I feel upset/angered. Plus, we all get pissy sometimes, and I can just be in a bad mood in general, so would rather saying "nothing, I'm fine" then take it out on someone else!!
I will agree with males "mr fix it" attitude though, which you "shut your mouth" comment was amusing at! I wouldn't go that far, I'll sound trait now, but I just want him to listen so that *I* can feel better by simply letting my feelings out. He just has to nod appropriately really, not offer solutions that I probably already have in my mind!!
just as insulting as the other. credits!
What's up with the disclaimer?
Ehhhh...
I agree that when I'm bitching about something going wrong in my day, I really don't want his opinion. But I won't tell him to shut up if he throws it in anyway. I can also agree that we really don't want to bother you with what's wrong sometimes, so it's easy to just say nothing. If it's really serious, I will let you know. I understand Sunday Sports, which is really just NASCAR for him. And I completely leave him alone during the entire race, every Sunday. That is his time only.
hmm i agree with what u're sayin
My boyfriend knows when somethings wrong, I only have to say 'nothing' when it should be so incredibly obvious whats wrong. And no, guys, its not that hard, it really is obvious whats wrong when I say 'nothing'. My boyfriend can just be a little dense sometimes. Like when he forgot that I had a horrible headache two minutes after he asked me what was wrong, then he turned up the stupid booming radio really loud and he saw the look on my face and said..."What's wrong baby?" I promptly came back with 'NOTHING.'
You do know that the how men feel post is a rip from a spam email that's been circulating for ages right?
@katiwitz@xanga - i totally agree with you. i don't have a problem saying exactly what's on my mind either. for me, what you see is what you get, there are no hidden agendas.
@iguessyoudonthavespellcheck - well actually I dictated as my cousin wrote this post... I haven't typed it in... so yeah I can see there are certain errors in here...
@Ethonox@xanga - oh yeah?
@Pisces_Girl@xanga - yeah... and chill this post is just a counter post and I don't intend to insult anyone... men and women - both are great at their own places.
@maxxi2031@xanga - I can understand... happens@lnc10@xanga - women usually need men's support when they're having a bad day... they don't need solutions... the shutting up thing was not serious.
@trickery19@xanga - it's for those people who don't understand that the original post and the counter post are NOT serious
@MilkyWhitesezMoo@xanga - none of the posts were meant to offend anyone... learn to NOT take things that seriously all the time@silvermoon_lauwa@xanga - thumbs up sister! I'm glad someone understood that I'm not trying to offend people out here
why are there so many posts about one gender being misunderstood, followed by counter-posts by the other gender? almost every month there's a datingish post similar to this. i think each gender is smart enough to understand compromise at this point. gender-misunderstanding-posts (and their refutes) need to be filtered out to once a year.
@AasthaKathy@xanga - lol well i'm not really seriously offended - its just datingish. but both posts made mad crazy generalizations about both sexes. then gain, hard to avoid, eh?
(2 MORE credits! yay!)