Is There Really Such a Thing as "Smooth Sailing"?

Friday, 14 August 2009

Is There Really Such a Thing as "Smooth Sailing"?
Miss Walrus

Let me know if this is just me, but I don't know if there is really such a thing as "smooth sailing" in any relationship. Okay, let me explain.

When you first start to date & get all lovey-dovey, googly-eyed over each other there are usually little questions & doubts that pop up in your mind: "Does he really like me?", "Are we going to be 'official' one day?", "Does she really want me over so-and-so?" etc.

Then, once you're together for a while (& all those lovely age-old skeletons start to peel the cobwebs off & emerge, one-by-one..) other issues arise: "Can I handle his addiction to Playboy?", "Will she ever stop having panic attacks?", or "What the hell are we gonna do when she goes away to college?". Then, once you're over those hurdles & still truckin' after a couple years...questions of marriage, children & long-term life goals are bound to arise. It seems to me that questions, doubts & fears can appear at any stage in a relationship, for virtually any reason.

So, this begs the question: Isn't there always some issue, some "problem" or even some tiny little kink in every relationship that needs to be worked out? Is there really such a thing as "smooth sailing" -- or is any relationship really just a long sail on unpredictable waters, complete with periods of calm - but only before the inevitable storm?

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I think every relationship has its ups and downs.
It just depends on how we handle the situations in the end. It then determines if we really were meant to be together or not.
Some people can over come it and realize that they are perfectly matched, others... well then end up realizing he/she isn't the one.
either or.. sometimes the seas are calm and others have a whirlpool.
- 8/14/2009 4:09 PM
- givemecoke@xanga (message)
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Things have been pretty smooth for me. But I'm probably just very lucky.
- 8/14/2009 4:21 PM
- C0ll33Ncorps@xanga (message)
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the sun doesn't shine every day in the sky, nor does it in a relationship. I had a 2 1/2 year relationship in high school in which we never fought. but that's because we had no worries or issues to confront until college came around which caused us to peacefully break up. I'm currently in my second longest relationship (10 months), and we definitetly have had our storms. But we're so much older than high school. We both have stresses, bills, etc.. we have our own lives.. and trying to mesh it all into a relationship, well.... there's bound to be a few bumps in the road. but that's what makes a relationship so much stronger. enduring those bumps lets you get to know the uglies and the ins and out of your significant other. I would much rather have a bumpy, exciting road than a plain, flat, easy road.
- 8/14/2009 4:27 PM
- fatal_mess@xanga (message)
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I believe in the inevitable storm or the impending iceberg. At least, that's how it's always been for me. Maybe they were just all doomed anyway.
- 8/14/2009 4:30 PM
- Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga (message)
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@givemecoke@xanga - Agreed
- 8/14/2009 4:47 PM
- S0N1@xanga (message)
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Even with smooth sailing, you have to adjust the sails to the wind.
- 8/14/2009 4:50 PM
- methodElevated@xanga (message)
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Having a relationship is hard work. If they were such things at "smooth sailing," I would think a lot less divorces and break ups would happen.
Let's face it, if a relationship was smooth sailing, it'd be pretty boring to be in that relationship. I'm not saying this in a masochistic sense either. Those hurdles you and your SO go over could end up making your relationship stronger by working things out; of course, it could always break it too.
I think things should be great just as so long you are happy with him or her :)
- 8/14/2009 5:14 PM
- supersteller@xanga (message)
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there'll always be ups and downs in a relationship and most of the time, enduring those times together will build a stronger/tighter bond between the couple. "smooth sailing" is not too real for me, at least not in a relationship.
- 8/14/2009 5:36 PM
- wewong@xanga (message)
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no such thing. if there is you deserve a stuffed animal
- 8/14/2009 7:10 PM
- Ethonox@xanga (message)
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nope, there isn't. once you get over one hurdle, there's another one you have to overcome. it never stops. there's also hurdles that you never knew EXISTED until u look back and you're like...how could i have missed that one?! theres absolutely no such thing as smooth sailing, and there never will be. it only depends on whether both of you want to jump over them together. some people will ultimately get left behind.
- 8/14/2009 10:03 PM
- dearFLOPPY@xanga (message)
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well wouldnt it be a bit of a snoozefest if things were exactly the same and perfect all the time? nothing at all in life is like that, everyone grows and changes all the time.
i have enough trouble figuring myself out; its like a thousand new questions about my existence pass through my mind each day - i think a relationship, with a whole new brain added into the equation, is roughly that many complex things^squared
- 8/14/2009 10:08 PM
- Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga (message)
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yea, smooth sailing occurs when two mundane but pleasant people, neither of which worry much, date each other.
- 8/14/2009 11:39 PM
- ch4n2o@xanga (message)
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my smooth sailing consecutive days lasted about um, a week? lol
relationships are hard. i don't believe its always smooth-sailing, but there are definitely moments.
- 8/14/2009 11:41 PM
- pasaway4eva@xanga (message)
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the sun doesn't always shine in love-ville. but at the end of the day the moon always shine down on us. that's the way relationships should be. yeah you have problems and all. but at the end of the day, you're glad you're with that person and all
- 8/15/2009 1:08 AM
- UnopenedSuitcases@xanga (message)
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There's never really smooth sailing, I suppose. There's always problems in life, and relationships are part of life. But there should be times when you aren't thinking about these problems because you're with the one you love, and maybe, these problems aren't as important as they seem to be.
- 8/15/2009 1:17 AM
- patience_isnt (message)
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I look at life as a rollercoaster. There are ups and downs along the way, and you deal with little issues and the big issues, and as long as you continue to make the choice to love each other and most of all, COMMUNICATE, you won't be problem-free, but your relationship will be good. A "bump in the road" doesn't mean it's a problem... just something to be dealt with.
- 8/15/2009 2:59 AM
- Morningstarrising@xanga (message)
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how about finding out that your boyfriend has a 21 year old daughter he never mentioned to you before when you asked him BEFORE you were dating hey soo you got any kids ya know since i have a 2 year old and what not. minor details.
- 8/15/2009 3:41 AM
- lovely_rayne@xanga (message)
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i think it's possible but it isn't permanent.
- 8/15/2009 3:42 AM
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- 8/20/2009 12:40 PM
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