Tuesday, 11 August 2009
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He...Loves...Me.
Wait.... what?!
"Why'd you say that? " "Please don't say that... "
THAT was what I told him after he said, "I love you."Throughout this whole relationship, I've been patient to hear those three special words. Each time I felt like saying it, I held back and pretended that it wasn't the right time to say it yet. "It's too early," "I'm too young," "I don't know the meaning of love." I've made countless excuses on why I SHOULD NOT tell him that I love him. Each of them made... some kind of sense. Sorta. Iunno. WHAT IS LOVE?!
Here's my prediction of the "three-word" magical moment:
I imagined it would be in a spectacular setting, somewhere romantic and memorable. I imagined us being close together, as intimate as we could ever be and staring straight into each other's eyes. I imagined myself returning those meaningful words as soon as he completed the phrase. I imagined myself honestly pouring out my heart to my significant other so he would feel as special as I felt.But here's how it really went...
He said it right after a brief argument we had where tears in my eyes were still present. He said it when I had least expected it. He said it when I felt the lowest and dearly needed someone to hold me. He said it in such a way where you definitely knew he wasn't lying. He said it with passion and fully meant it. I love him for being such a great person.... I love my boyfriend.As he held me in his arms, tears continued to flow. I cried because I didn't know someone that special could love me that much. I didn't know it was possible that I was able to express my love for him by just accepting those words. One thing that bothered me about that moment was my hesitation to reply back to him. I did not instantly tell him the same three words, even though I've been waiting for this moment ever since I knew he was mine. Something in me felt like I shouldn't have said it because once again, "I didn't want to fall too deep." But as I told him that I didn't want either of us to fall too deep, he replied, "Too late."
I think he's right. I think I fell for him....
Was your first "I love you" experience how you imagined it?
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It has yet to happen for me.
The way it came to me was surprising. I thought he was going to break up with me! Hahahaha, he looked all nervous, but then he hugged me and held me close and said "I love you" eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!! ^__^'
Aww. I wish somebody loved me. My reaction to that would be: "WHAT? Are you high??"
I said it to my boyfriend whilst we were watching Rocky Horror Picture Show, I'm surprised he said it back to me since I chose an interesting time. We still cringe when Rose Tint My World comes on XD
We say I love you a lot here we tell our friends I love you and our family it has many different meanings but it does get said. The first time a man I really loved in a romantic sense of the word said it he was one of those guys who was raised without hearing it much and he had already told me he would probably never say it and I had told him I didn't really mind because at that point we were just friends anyway. Then he was leaving for a long stay in India and suddenly he just said "I love you! There I said it! So sue me!" I just burst out laughing at the moment it took me a while to realize he did not mean it only as a friendly kind of love.
The first time my husband said he loved me I cried and cried and couldn't stop. I think I freaked him out! But...he proposed four months later so it couldn't have been THAT scary! :)
My bf and I have been good friends/best friends for a long time so we've always said it xD
Not at all. We had an argument then he blurted out that he loved me. And I meant to him just as much as he meant to me, maybe more.
The next day, he asked me to be his girlfriend. Officially.
We always said it to each other. I meant it as friends. He didn't. (I didn't know). He loved me for a very long time.
He asked me to marry him before we were even dating. I thought he was kidding. He wasn't. (Don't worry, he didn't have a ring or anything.) But he played it off as a joke.
I guess something finally just clicked. And I finally started seeing that he did, at least, like me. I didn't know if it was love...but definitely like.
Then after we were married, he told me about how he loved me for a long time and about the marriage thing. It's not the way I would have imagined it...it's better.
it wasnt as i imagined . . .i said it. he text messaged it to me later . . ."i love you too k." hmph. but we've been together for almost 2 years and he says it every single day :)
The first time a boyfriend said it, it wasn't anything like I expected. We'd only been dating 2 weeks, and I was 15, so it scared the hell out of me.
God no. We had just had sex, he was drunk, and it turns out he had slept with my best friend earlier that day.
The next day he told a mutual friend that he just said it so I wouldn't be mad at him for being drunk. WTF?
I remember telling a girl after an argument that I "f**king loved her so much that if we died, I would jump into the fire and lava till it burned me to death, so she could have a place in the happiest part of the after life. And that I appreciated everything she was, and could spend a whoole day looking into her beautiful eyes." Something like that. I meant every word then.
She broke up with me 2 weeks later, with an announcement that she had a new boyfriend.
That was $100 well spent (on flowers and a heart coin with inscription on it to make up for losing the one she gave me early in the relationship.) Now, to wait for a dive into the scathing pool. (sarcasm)
Mine was when I told my first boyfriend "I love you," as we walked together the night after his dad's funeral. I was trying to tell him I supported in however he needed me to. He sort of mumbled a "Love you, too," and I said it a few more times after that in our somewhat casual nine-month relationship but it never really caught on because he was kind of unenthusiastic and never said it first. Neither of us expected to stay together so it was kind of like, "Meh. Like you, maybe not a good idea to say I love you."
With my now-husband, it was completely different. (This is his first-ever "I love you" experience.) We waited until we had been 3 1/2 months to say it because with everything we were trying to take it slow and do it right. We were sitting together on a bench at night after a walk (what is it with romantic nocturnal walks?) and he just... said it. And got teary. And so did I. It was very beautiful. We cried at our (his first-ever) kiss, too. After waiting eight months (*groan* awful, awful waiting... I'd never do that again) to finally kiss, it was a big moment. I guess Matt always waited long enough for every special milestone to be a big occasion.
I said to my past long-term girlfriends because I wanted sex. Only three people out of everyone that I have ever known are still in a relationship from high school, and I suppose those rarities are the predictable outliers to any theory. I expect the circumstances will be different now that I'm older and more capable of rationally understanding the idea of love.
Girls should not believe guys when they say "I love you" until they're over 20 and have been in a relationship with the guy for a year. Anything less, and the guy just wants to get laid. Anyone that disagrees is either lying or in for a rude awakening.
@aspire_achieve@xanga - If my husband and I waited a year to say "I love you" we would have said it for the first time on our wedding day... lol
My husband and I were about a month (if that) into our realtionship and we were partying with some friends next door to my house. He asked me to go next door and get him a beer and I said "Only if you love me" meaning hug on me, kiss me, etc. You know, love on me. He grabbed my arm and pulled my face upto his and said "I do love you". I just froze and said "what?" and he said it again. We have said it 400 times a day everyday since then. =)
It wasn't real love, but it's a cute story.
I was in eighth grade and he was in ninth grade. We were going out for five months already, and I'm that kind of girl who loves everything. Y'know, like, DUDE, I LOVE MY FRIENDS. Someone does something nice to me; DUDE I LOVE YOU. Y'know, stuff like that.
Anyway, he was sitting with me while I was waiting for a ride home (it was 6 o'clock, kind of dark) when he just looked at me.
"What?" I said, weirded out, ahaha.
He looked at me with a meek smile. "I love you," he said.
"Oh, kay, I love you too!" I smiled, cheeky happy self.
He grabbed my arm. "No, Arianne..."
I turned back to him. "What?"
"I.. love.. you."
I smiled and kissed him on the cheek.
It's a cute story, and we went out for eight months before breaking up, but when he and I look back on it, we figured that it wasn't real love. It's still the first time he felt so strongly to say it, though.
@aspire_achieve@xanga - AND THE AMAZING PART IS THAT WE DIDN'T DO THE DIRTIES. Hahaha.
I was talking on the phone to a guy and we were kinda like dating but not calling it dating and as we are about to hang up he said "I love you." It freaked me out I said ok bye and hung up. Another time also on the phone years later different guy says it o me and I almost said it back out of habit but I got the " I lo" out and then I was like wait what. lol
@XDaemonessX@xangaIf I may ask, how old were you when this happened? I think I worded my sentence wrong- what I meant to say was that you should be "over 20 or wait over a year". The point being, I don't think that people can know if they love another truly until they are on the latter end of their college years or if they are in that small sect of people that can commit long term at an early age. I don't think that adults wait as long as teenagers to pop the "L" word because they're more experienced and aware of what they're looking for in a significant other. In regards to the 16 year old girl above, she's experiencing "puppy love," as are most kids that "love each other."
@HiArianne@xanga - Hahah, that is a cute story.
WHAT IS LOVE
BABY DONT HURT ME
DONT HURT ME
NO MOREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
lmao i love your post you're so spastic and funny :)
first ilu... uhh, dont remember. been too long. probably something really normal. lmao. FAIL
Sadly I don't really remember my first "I love you" lol. Although I'm not too bothered by it. I remember when I first said it to the guy I love NOW though, and the first time he told me.
Anyways, he's in the Navy and came home on leave last summer for 2 weeks and it was amazingggg oh my God lol. The morning he had to leave he told me that he was falling in love with me (or something to that extent anyway hah) and I couldn't stop smiling! I don't even remember if I said anything, I was pretty speechless.
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - ouch.
my first "i love you" that was said to me, i wanted to let the whole world know that he loved me. i felt my blood rush through my body and i said it back to him because i totally felt it. i had butterflies in my stomach, i was nervous, and i really wanted to cry because that was my first "i love you" and i don't like throwing that phrase around like nothing. plus, i've said that to 2 guys that i've dated so far that so it means a lot to me when someone says that to me.
the actual 'i love you' experience: no. [i was leaving a hangout he was at, and he walked me to my car, exchanged a few words, said 'i love you' and then shut my door. it took me for a loop].
the time spent with that person: yes.
but heres my take on things: my boyfriend of over a year broke up about a week ago. Granted, there were some misconceptions on my part of things, but one thing i did learn is you cant take people for granted and you cant second guess people [their feelings as well]. I didnt have all the facts, which led to this string of events. I guess the most important thing: you have to step back, with all the facts, and look at things from the outside without any emotional ties to the situation and then make your assessment of the situation at hand. Things get ruined when you make accusations about people's feelings and taking those feelings for granted. i took him for granted [that he would always be around and nothing like this could happen], but now look where i am..i feel like i've lost my best friend [sorry if that sounds too childish or stupid]. so when someone tells you 'i love you', make sure you do not dismiss them as a mirror image of someone else with whom you have crossed paths.