My friend Sarah, who I have known for many years, introduced her coworker friend Maggie to me. I met Maggie a while ago, and since then the three of us have gone out about three times. I will now begin to recollect our most recent encounter at a downtown pub.
The three of us are getting along great and having lots of fun. Sarah gets up to make a quick phone call. Now, I am sitting there alone with just Maggie. Suddenly the light atmosphere dissipates; instead, it's replaced with an austere ambiance. Maggie looks me in the eye.
Maggie: "Can I ask you something?"
Me: "Uh, sure." (I never seem to understand people who asks that question).
Maggie: "Are you and Sarah boyfriend-girlfriend?"
Me: "No. Why do you think that?"
Maggie: "Well, do you like her?"
Me: "Yeah, she's a great friend."
Maggie: "No, I mean like her, like her"
Me: "No. Where is this coming from?" (She sounds like she is five).
Maggie: "Have you guys been together?"
Me: "Not in that way." (Slightly annoyed).
Maggie: "It's just that she is really good looking. Don't you think she is good looking?"
Me: "Yes, I guess. Where is this going?"
Maggie: "Nothing. Just that all of her friends like or have liked her before?"
Me: "Okay...I'm not gay if that's what you're wondering."
Maggie: "Hmm."
Me: (What the heck?!)
Sarah: "Hey, what'd I miss?"
Maggie: "Nothing."
Me: "Nothing...important." (So nothing really means something).
In summary, I have this friend who is a girl, but she is not my girlfriend. Frankly, how many times does it take before it is all right to be annoyed with the question "is so-and-so
your girlfriend" ? I mean, if she is my girlfriend I would tell you, you would know, or don't ask (isn't it rude?). The aforementioned scenario happens whenever I hang out with Sarah. What do you think? (What is there to do?)
A) I am too sensitive.
B) I need to ask Sarah out.
C) I need to punch the asker in the face next time.
D) I should change sex preferences.
E) I am gay.
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F) All of the above.
Heh...I've been a "Maggie" in a situation like this before. The reason I asked the guy those types of questions was because I was interested in him...and felt threatened by "Sarah".
@socially_a_reject@xanga - Yeh same here lol
she seems dumb lol. But I get annoyed, my best friend is a guy and EVERYONE asks me if he's my boyfriend, and he's definitely not hahahah.
I am no good at standardized tests!
@socially_a_reject@xanga - i agree with you on this as it has happened to me.
It seems like everyone's so quick to throw around the "gay" title these days. I know quite a few good-looking girls I'm not interested in "that way." In fact, the thought of getting involved with them seems kind of creepy, because they're like sisters to me. Girls seem to think that the only thing guys think about is sexing any and every pretty girl they see. So, when a guy is just friends with a gorgeous girl, he's automatically "gay." It's incredibly annoying.
How about none of the above? Just because you like a girl as your friend doesn't mean that you have to like her as more than that! I'm still very good friends with a few guy friends from college, and I'm happily married (and was never interested in them as more than friends). People have weird expectations.
@Morningstarrising@xanga - I agree.
sounds like the whole "can men and women just be friends" question (think When Harry Met Sally). in truth, i think that you can't really both just stay friends forever. one or the other person typically develops feelings. maybe sarah even likes you and maggie was going a recon mission. you never know.
i think you're slightly too sensitive. but personally i try not to get defensive because it just further convinces the other person that you're trying to hide something.
ur a fuckin homo bitch!!!!!!!!!!!
hm... thinking about it too much. if you don't like sarah, don't let it get to you. if otherwise... well, you're on your own lol
i hate girl mind games... we aren't freaking JEDI knights... if this was a mind-game, i definitely would be mind-****ed right now lol
yeah, it means you're the 5 year old girl now.
Go with C.
I'm a girl. I have a bunch of guy friends. My two best friends are guys. One of them is dating my cousin, so there's no confusion there. People always ask me if the other guy is my boyfriend though, because we're always hanging out and joking around together. We're really comfortable with each other. He's been there for me through all my breakup drama. Despite the fact that he's a nice guy, he's not my type, and I'm not ready for a relationship anyway.
Guy friends are awesome. They're more honest than most girls, and they're protective. Nothing will make you feel better when an ex walks in the room than having your two best guy friends on either side of you staring him down waiting for him to just say one word out of line. Lol.
idk prob no good for this; my best guy friend WAS entirely platonic up til a year ago but now we're pretty deeply in love. anyone's choice lol
Hahaha someone asked me exactly what she said.
Me: sure, I like you
Him: like like?
Me: what like like?
Him: you know, LIKE
You're a certified worrywart.
Chill dude
I have a best friend who is a guy and we have been best friends for years. We get asked all the time if we are boyfriend/girlfriend or if i like him or if he likes me, honestly I find it really funny. I dont really understand why you would get upset about it to be honest with you... i feel like that means you do have some sort of feelings for her that you have to deal with. yep.. thats my take
maybe sarah put maggie up to asking u these questions because maybe sarah likes u and wanted to see how u felt about her and yeah its imature but shit its not a crime ok. relaxe and think a little harder about who u think is ur friends because that friend could be a little more intrested in you more then just a friend...u should be flattered dammit. ::takes a breath::
C
but this could also be the case of the 'inner shy teenager girl with a bold friend who offers to ask up'.
Lol I thought girls ask that because she likes u? Haha or maybe sarah asked maggie to do that. I dunno..
are the people asking stuck in highschool or something? seriously.
don't ask her out. she may be pretty but if you haven't thought of asking her out yet, then you're probably just not attracted to her.