I initiated a "date" with this guy for this past Saturday. That day, I was on my break at work when I received a text message that read...
'Hey, I'm really sorry but i have to be at my cousins today do you think we could get together another time?"
I was bummed, naturally. I convinced myself he was lying about his whereabouts. This wasn't our first date; our last date consisted of our first time getting [somewhat] physical.
So I replied, trying to act really cool about the whole thing and told him to have a good time.
I initiated this "date" and now am afraid of doing so again. Like a lot of people, I'm very afraid of rejection. Do you think he was being vague about when we should rescheduled for a reason? Should I leave it up to him to decide when the next time we hang out is? Or should I?
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He could have something he needs to take care of that's none of your business.
Uh. He wouldn't ask to see you another time if he didn't want see you another time.
i understand your feelings... however, think you need to chill
Don't assume that he's lying. He could be lying, but he could be telling the truth. Let him make the move since he's the one that had to reschedule.
i read this as him being vague. i think he should have been more specific as it was a previous engagement that he forgot about. if it was me i would have offered an alternative date to show i was still wanting to be with you and not be so vague about an other time. if he really wants to be with you he should call you soon to set up a time. but i would wait an other day or 2 and then contact him again to set up another "date" if ya still want to.
then again...he just might have given you the the big brush off.
i think he has something to do but since he mention asks you "do you think we could get together another time?" then go on a date with him next time.
He texted you and cancelled the date. If I am doing something like that, usually it means I am done with that person. I try not to do it too often but shit happens. But as ColdBeverage87@xanga said, he could have told the truth... Don't pester him into another date though, this way you won't have to deal with rejection, uncomfortable shifting, and humiliation. If he is interested, he'll make a move.
i think that since he asked if you could do it another time, he's still interested. at least, that's how i am. if something honestly comes up, i make a point to ask if another time would work. if i'm "done" with that person and trying to make up an excuse.. i do NOT ask for another time. just my opinion.
Well, if he didn't want to see you anymore who wouldn't have mentioned getting together some other time. He could be lying, but then again, he could be telling the truth. Chiiill out.
i think its kinda fishy. if he was genuinely feeling like he wanted to see u another time he woulda said " hey can we reschedule to next (insert day here) ? "
Just ask him what day is best for him, and hope for the best.
Seeing as it was you that initiated the date, and he couldn't make it, it sounds a bit wacky but he could be waiting for you to offer another date and time? But I wouldn't pester him, if it's been a few days, and you haven't heard from him, you could text and ask if he had fun and when he's next free?
Not sure if he is lying or not, but if he is interested in you, he will definitely call you.
Let him make the next move...meanwhile, try not to cyber stalk him!
Thinking about it too much. That ends relationships lol
ok this is where I get confused.. aren't u about to be married? I am lost o.o
Leave it up to him to do the next scheduling. If he doesn't, consider it his loss.
I'm in the same boat. Me and a guy had gone to the Military Ball together a while back and we've always talked ever since and hung out a lot with groups of people, but we haven't seen each other recently. I wasn't really looking for a date, but I was hoping for it (does that make sense?), and when I asked him if he wanted to hang out he asked if I wanted to go to see the space shuttle take off with him. Well, I wasn't able to, so we made plans or the following Saturday to hang out at his house and play board games and watch movies and play pool, but he called me up the day of (like two hours before we were supposed to hang) and said he would be staying in another town longer than expected and wouldn't be able to make it. I drop hints that I still want to hang out, but right now I'm letting him make the plans if he wants to hang. In my opinion, I already opened the door to hang out time with him, and since my try didn't work out, if he wants to hang he'll invite me out. Same for you. (:
Hmmm, I would ask him out again if I wanted an answer to why he canceled last time. But that's just me. :)
afraid of rejection? welcome to the real world, hon. better get used to it.
i think the guy's still interested--otherwise he wouldn't have made a counteroffer--but since he's the guy i'd say the ball's in his court at this point.
I think if he really wants to see you, he'll make the effort to call you up.
Thanks guys. Its been a major help! I think I'm just going to leave it up to him....
hmmm
i'm assuming that this is a fuck buddy situation
since you keep putting date in quotations
so he had another plans ...
don't over analyze it
Let him choose the date.
I think the ball is in his court now. If he wants to go on another date, he'll contact you.