Sunday, 09 August 2009
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Is Love Enough?
Is love enough to make a relationship last until death comes upon you and/or your partner? Or does it take more than that? Do you think a relationship can last when you care for a person so much but yet fight almost everyday about the littlest things in life? Or having disappointment as an everyday occurrence or the other person whining about your nitpickiness?
What if you're completely happy with that person but you can't seem to find any love or chemistry with that person?
Is it really that hard to find someone who you are compatible with, who also make you swoon head over heels in love?
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just love is never enough. it never is. it takes a lot of work to make things right. sometimes even then it' wont work. and yeah it is hard to find someone you're compatible that you're completely head over heels in love with. at least for me
Love is never enough. I was a fool once to think it was. A relationship survives on more than just love itself, but love is a key factor.
It is easy to find someone whom you are head over heels for....but it is harder to distinguish lust for love sometimes.
Is it really that hard to find someone who you are compatible with, who also make you swoon head over heels in love?
in my opinion, falling in love is easy, what's difficult is staying in love and staying true to the commitment you've made...
i was engaged to a guy for about a year and we'd fight constantly. it was really stressful, and though i wanted to see us married and for us to stop the fighting, we ended up splitting. i actually saw him for the first time in 6 months and in that short time we were hanging out, we almost got into a fight. we're just not meant to be.
i'm seeing this great guy now. we've been together for 7 months now and wow what a difference it is. we've never fought, as of yet. we've gotten upset a little, but some how, we're just able to talk and discuss. it's never been yelling or throwing things or anything.
i believe love plays a huge part, but i think people also fail to realize that it does depend on how much effort you're willing to put in to keep a marriage together, because it's not always going to be a walk in the park. at the same time, though, i also beleive that there are some people you're not meant to be with. like with my ex and i. we're not a good match.
it's love you need and committment to make a marriage last
I can like a girl without being compatible with her. I dunno if it's contentment but I think of it more as laid back? Anyway, if she's the same, we'll last lol if not, she'll probably be the one to break it off.
@blind_shooter@xanga - Completely agree with what you said.
With love you must learn to trust, believe, and realize things. It'll be hard to stay in love without trusting your SO. Love can never be enough.
Love can be enough with the right person. But for most part love isn't enough. Love and a relationship builds with trust, communication, feeling/emotions, openness and the littlest things that count. It begins and builds from a friendship. But sometimes love can start in any different angles. I think it really just depends on the person. Everyone is different. But I think communication is the key to love or how you feel from the heart and not by the words you say nor speak.
Love is never enough. If that were the case, I'd still be with my first boyfriend...
Love is not enough. Not at all. You need to put in the effort, just like you would with your best friend. Best friends wouldn't fight everyday over small stuff. First, they'd just talk about it, listen to each other and be respectful of the other's feelings.
When you are really in love, the small stuff doesn't matter... habits aren't annoying, they are endearing. No one feels the urge to pick a fight, and when you slip up and take your frustrations out on your partner, you catch yourself and apologize. You work on not doing that and your partner cuts you some slack because it will be reciprocated. Real love is peaceful, and in your partner, you have a safe, comfy place to retreat from the world and enjoy it more because you are in good company.
And yes, it IS possible. First you have to ditch the idea that it doesn't happen that way, then stop settling for part of what want you want and start looking for the whole package.
Love is never enough.
Love is never enough. Disappointment alone can kill a relationship.
Love is not enough. We need more to live on. We need to pay the bills, the emotional ones too, and love isn't the currency that all life runs on. We need humor and chemistry and willfullness and courage, and kindness and blindness, and stupidity and street smarts. Relationships are recipes, and love may be the heat that makes the other ingredients meld, but heat alone is not enough to create a nourishing, sustaining feast.
Sometimes, "head over heels in love" mellows out into a more constant, less flame-like love--at least, that's been my experience. And that love is worth so much more than anything that may make you swoon.
I definitely agree with @cheddarsox@xanga.There are too many outside factors for love to be all that's required.
what if you argue everyday, have a real 'passionate' type of love..? would that last?
Love is only the catalyst. Your staying power is determined by how much of a masochist you are.
What if you're completely happy with that person but you can't seem to find any love or chemistry with that person?
Love is not enough. It's an anesthetic. People who truly believe that love is all they need are the ones who get ripped off by jerk-off spouses who take their money and run or are the ones who keep dating losers.
Love and its Chemistry are completely abstract concepts. Why can't you find love or chemistry with that person with that same person? Why is it that hard to do so? If you've found somebody who can make you happy, then why not at least TRY to make yourselves happy? If so, then you've found your soulmate and dare I say, the one? If you don't or can't, then obviously you two aren't as completely happy as you say you are. To find somebody like that, the one who we can have a love and happiness with is easier than you think it would. Sometimes, ya just aren't looking in the obvious areas.
You can have both compatibility and love. I believe that if you really love a person, you will learn to compromise or forgive their faults. Sure you have pet peeves and so does your partner, but all it takes is some communication and a willingness to work together and you will have a long lasting relationship. Love is accepting their flaws and making sure both sides improve on their understanding of each other.
Love is never enough.
For example, LDR. Even if u love someone so much but only get to see that person once a year? Love can't fill the loneliness of being alone here without ur loved one. Never enough
True love IS enough. If you're meant to be everything around you will fall into place. That's not to say that its always going to be easy, but if you have the faith then it will all work out.
I used to think love was enough. But now I don't think its enough at all. You may love someone and even be in love with someone but life can be cruel and sometimes no matter what you do it just isn't enough to keep people together.
Takes alot more than just love, it takes money, attraction, and the ability to eat shit from time to time. It takes excitement and diversity; ability to avoid routine.
I'm a complete example of that.
So many things in my current relationship have gone wrong within the past 3 years... but I can't let go. I'm so in love with him.
My view on relationships, is that if you love the person, there is a way to make it work.
Sure, that may sound naive, but it's the only way for me...
It always confuses me when people break up with eachother and then call/text back and say "I love you." (something that's happened to me with this same dude) 1st of all, why break up with the person if you love them? I don't understand it. If you love them, you make it work.
2nd of all, why tell the person that after you just broke their freakin' heart? It's causing them another dilemma. I hate that.
Anyways,
I have gone through so much shit with my current relationship, but my view is that as long as we love eachother, we can get through anything...
So far, a lot has happened. We have gotten through it.
In my opinion, love is enough.
Oh, and someone mentioned about what if you love them and only see them once a year?
Well...my boyfriend happens to be a marine. And if that isn't the reason, then it's my situation at home that keeps me from being able to see him often. He also works a ton, and is in school. We don't see eachother once a year, but we have gone maybe 2 months without seeing eachother. It's hard, mostly because he has somewhat of a different outlook on it, but in the end, something always pulls through.
But believe me, I've tried to give up on it and move on. It doesn't work that way for me.
I think that breaking up because we rarely see eachother is more hurtful than the fact we may not see eachother. Because, when we're together, at least we know we have each other.
Maybe that's selfish, but I just can't stand thinking about him being with someone else...maybe 3 years does that to a person, I don't know. But love is enough for me.
I used to think love was enough.
Its definitely NOT enough. You can get treated like shit and still love the guy/girl but why?? Because you 'love' him/her?
Its more than that. :3