Miss Walrus
I thought I was over the world of internet drama - & smack talking - when I proudly exited out of the doors of my junior high school in 2001.
I was wrong.
With all these social media outlets available - from MySpace and Facebook to Twitter and LinkedIn - it's even
easier for bitter exes to tarnish your name than it ever was by passing nasty notes in class.
And I am a victim.
Here's the long-and-short of it: Boy and I dated (sporadically) all summer. I decided it was time for our romance to end because - sad to say - the seed of love never really planted itself in me (& it definitely hadn't started to bloom). Boy is not happy about my decision to call it quits & decides that his Facebook status is the perfect place to tell everyone what a jerk I am.
Not only that, but he also Facebook messaged some of my friends telling them how much "they stress me out" & "don't know me" in an attempt to cause more problems, I assume.
A wise friend of mine once said about internet drama: "Don't worry about it. The sooner you stop reading it, the sooner it's over." And that's true - but with everyone from my mama to future potential employers on Facebook, it sucks seeing my name tarnished all over the world wide web.
How would you - or do you - handle internet drama? Or exes who talk smack in the first place? Why do they do it - & what can be done about it on your part? I want to play it cool & let it pass, but that's a lot harder than I thought it'd be.
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eventually he will get bored of doing it and talking smack online. it starts to get old once it keeps going on and on and u may think its never going to stop but it will. It will stop as long as you dont feed into it or say anything to him. you can also delete him from every single friendslist he is on that way u dont have to see it and then he will be like "dammit sense she cant see it anymore whats the point" so that might also stop him from writing about you. the more u ignore him the better off you will be and the quicker this will all go away. it may be hard to ignore but its either that or keep going thru the same drama with him. goodluck
Frankly, I just ignore it. If someone starts it with me, I don't even respond. I refuse to argue sink to someone's level that way.
Lord do I know what you're talking about. Except it isn't an ex of mine who's talking smack about me. It's someone's psycho ex. What happened between me and her ex was in 2007, and to this day, Krista -- the Drama Queen here for me is still going strong talking about me.
She tells her friends that she's all I ever talk about, but the funny thing is, if her friends actually listen to her trash talk, I'm all that she's ever talking about.
It's quite pathetic. I thought I was done with online drama too when I graduated high school in 2004, unfortunately, this crazy ass drama queen who will never get off my tail, is still keeping it up...to the point where I wished bad things and death upon her because she really won't leave me alone.
I've ignored her for several months, and even stopped going to the place where I usually see her to see if she would stop talking about me...but she just won't ever stop.
So the best thing to do is just to not read any of it. That's what I'm doing now.
and honestly, i can't believe that my hater isn't ever bored of it. she's been keeping it up for the past 3 years no matter what i do.
I'd just ignore. If they took it really far though, I'd confront him.
drama; don't like it, and don't think anyone should cause it... it just shows how unprofessional and pussy one is (aka whiny crybaby)... and to use such method to get what you want (revenge, etc)... uhhh, disgusting...
but yeah, stay level headed (stay cool)... if you're able to handle that, you'll probably standout...
@S0N1@xanga - yeah.
xo
My ex hacked into my stuff, we had to get the police involved to make him stop because he was taking it too far.
Ignore it, if you don't act on anything he does he has nothing to validate what he's saying about you and in the end he'll dig himself a hole big enough the only thing left to do will be to bury him in it.
Ah there was a comical but informative video about facebook netiquette that I think everyone needs to see before getting a facebook account. The risk of cyber-smack-talking is something you have to accept when you have an online social life.
all you can do is just ignore. and honestly if people asked, just tell them. Things didn't go the way HE wanted, so he got mad and did an immature thing by spreading shit on the internet. But you didn't want to stoop to that level, and chose to ignore it
He is just bitter about the breakup but doesn't know how to express it maturely. I went through the same thing as you!
it's sad to hear that people are still resorting to that even after middle school. but i guess we all just express our emotions how we see fit. and girls do mature faster than guys do. i guess he just didn't reach that stage of maturity yet.
Well, he does it obviously because he's not over you. Even if he doesn't like you anymore, you mighta hurt him, and bitterness might linger.
That's the reason I made fun of the first boy I 'loved' for months after our initial drama. (Not one of my better moves, really, but it managed to open up the conversation between us after over six months of silence.)
In my case, I wanted a reaction, because I'd never seen him give me any emotion whatsoever. I had no motivation to do anything annoying or cruel to him after I got one, slight as it was.
My suggestion as to how you should handle it? Try talking to the person and asking why they're doing it. If that doesn't help things, then ignore it.
ahh, i've been there, except it wasn't plastered all over facebook. anyway, i chose to ignore it all. proved i was the better person in the long run.
my past relationship didn't have internet drama.. but i tried not think about him and what's going on between us. it was hard to ignore it because my friends use to hangout with him a lot and are still good friends with him.. it did take quite a good few years for me to recover and move on with my life.
lol. for me its more like my exes ex. shes jealous jealous jealous. talks so much smack. plays games. makes me LOL.
Tell him, "Go to your favorite hotel and go to the top floor. & jump." Kidding, my sister told my niece to tell that to her teacher (she wasn't doing a great job on being a teacher.)
Since Guam is so small doing that whole internet ex bashing deal is.... not the greatest idea. It's usually the younger ones who do that. Around middle school.You seriously thought the drama would stop in high school? XD
my friends and I have a rule. If the break-up was a bad one, we all un-freind the other (unless of course, we were friends first), but if the break-up was and ok one (aka mutual) then we all put them on a limited profile list for at least a month.
Facebook is the fucking devil, that's why.
Xanga FTW.
honestly like seeing when my exs talk shit or even ex friends makes me laugh and say to myself...wow what a f*ing loser so why did i like them?? and then laugh at all the smack they say......sticks and stonesss babbbby
delete him. block him. do whatever it takes so that what is going on does not come to you UNLESS told to you by someone. its his freedom to do what he wants, but its your freedom to not have to be a part of his mockery or be associated with anything he does. if your friends really know who you are, it wouldn't affect them the slightest bit.
Ignore him. He's acting like a little prick to get a reaction out of you and by the way he's talking smack everyone knows he's the bitter one. Be the bigger person and just walk away...
I have been harassed online now for almost a year. I've tried ignoring it, responding to it, going to the police with it, etc. Hopefully they get bored soon because it's really starting to piss me off. If you need someone to talk to, message me. I know how you feel.