Thursday, 06 August 2009
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I'm Absolutely Straight...I Think
Every relationship I've been with has been with a guy. I've never even thought about girls in that kind of way. I'm absolutely straight. (or so I think?)
I have a lesbian friend who is always flirting with me and lately I've been doing it right back, but it doesn't feel weird or wrong at all. She told me her feelings, and I actually liked hearing it. I don't know where any of this will lead, but it has be absolutely confused! Has anything like this ever happened to you?
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Never happened to me, but I can see myself doing the exact same thing. The words probably feel right because it's what you usually say to guys, but it doesn't feel wrong because she's your friend.
It's never a bad thing to experiment.
Yes but shes not my friend
give it a try...its funn =)
maybe you're just a flirty person :-\ I think the question to ask yourself is if you're attracted to your friend. Can you see yourself in a relationship with her? This hasn't happened to me but I imagine that would probably be the questions I would ask myself and then go from there
So, you liked what she told you. Your feeling has a lot to do with your thoughts on her. Ideas can change once you have walked a mile in the shoes of those actually bisexual.
Who cares what sort of consequences it has for your "sexual identity"? You could be unknowingly bi, or, like many people, just feel that sexual and romantic attraction shouldn't be reserved for just one sex or the other.
I think flirting is quite healthy. Everyone have a certain amount of playfulness in them. Don't think queer or gay, just have fun. It doesn't always end up in bed.
happened and I found out that I was straight as an arrow....and I lost my best friend because of it.
hasn't happened to me, but you should experiment with it and see where it takes you.
yes :)
you just like the attention, it's not like you like her or anything. it's normal to feel flattered by extra attention and if she's your friend then it's fun to tease her back. It doesn't mean that you're lesbian or anything :)
My lesbian friend and I will hold hands walking down the hallway, she knows that I'm completely straight and that's just the way I am. We tease each other constantly, but I'm not lesbian whatsoever. :) don't worry, it's normal.
It's Not Wrong I have Straight Friends and we flirt and say things to eachother all the time.It's fun to see how they react or to see how the people around us act.its super funny. I think it's all about having fun.could you actually see you and your friend being anything more.if so persue it.if not continue to flirt because you know it isnt goin anywhere anyways.besides Flirting is fun ;)
Yeaaah. The last thing you want is leading your poor friend on and having her fall in love with you when you don't feel the same way. Make sure you both know where you stand. Also, sometimes curiosity just gets the better of us. So don't take it too seriously.
Sex plays a small part in life compared to other things - men seduce & women attract seducers.
It's possible that you're just liking the attention and trust her 'cause she's your friend.
Or maybe you are genuinely attracted to her on a romantic level.
(I am so not eloquent in the morning..sorry.)While they obviously have their purpose, getting too into sexual-identity labels (or any other kind of label) can be harmful, IMO. When we decide that things like "I'm straight" (or any other label) are part of our self identity--period, the end--it does limit our growth as a person.
Also, from a scientific standpoint more and more people are adopting the viewpoint that sexuality can be fluid, not fixed. So you could have been totally straight in the past and totally bi (or gay, or straight again...) in the future and none of those feelings are necessarily un-genuine. That doesn't mean that everyone's sexuality changes over time, only that it can and occasionally will--and it doesn't always mean that people were "repressed" previously.
Anyway, my advice to you is this: If you want to pursue your friend by all means go for it, but be totally open and honest with her about the confusion you're feeling--she may want to hold off on anything serious until you're sure, which is totally fair.
I think our society encounters a lot of "sexual identity" problems because we tend to think in very black and white terms: you're either straight or you're not. I think that the sexuality spectrum, however, is much more fluid. I am very happily married to a wonderful man, but in the past, I have made out with women and thoroughly enjoyed the experience. So, if it feels good and right and healthy, don't let societally-imposed boundaries stop you from exploring the full extent of who you are.
lol just ask yourself whether you just like the attention or the fact that you actualy like her like her
No.
No thank you.
Mm I think it's easiest if you think about what gender you're capable of falling in love with, versus which gender excites you. I get turned on so much more seeing x-rated pictures of girls than guys (penises are just so...blah), but in the end, I could never think of a girl as someone to be in a loving relationship with. I fall in love with boys. :]
Plus, I hate boobs. I hate them even more when I have to come in contact with them. >.< Ughhhh fatty, useless bags of disgustingness. I HATE BOOBS.
I don't know about flirty, but my friends and I use to tease each other and it's just our jokes. I think you may just be so comfortable around your girl friend that you girls can flirt back and forth not being bothered by it. Girls sharing emotions is normal too, but this is something you have to discover yourself. Is it just the fun of the moment or do you really have emotional attachment to this girl? If you hug a person you like, then you'll feel it. So you can test this by giving the girl a casual hug (girls do that, it's only a greeting) and see if you feel anything. Instead of suspecting anything, you have to find out for sure. Good luck!
I've never had a girl flirt with me but I've always been slightly attracted the women although I only date men. It's a mild interest.
flirting is harmless.. just dont lead her on.
and if its something u really want to explore then why not. there's nothing wrong w/ trying new things!
In the end your sexual orientation is about who you are predominantly drawn to and interested in. Flirting with someone of the same sex, or even taking it further in the heat of the moment, doesn't make you gay.
my bestfriend told me that her sister thinks she might be bi. i am totally straight, but ever since she told me that, i started thinking about how hot her sister is.. :/
I have lesbian friends that heavily flirt with me all the time. Instead of getting weirded out and making things uncomfortable I flirt back and tease. I don't like women in that way AT ALL. It just doesn't do anything for me. Women are bitches, in my opinion. It's not weird for me to flirt & I don't find women attractive. I suppose you can say I do it for the attention.