Wednesday, 05 August 2009

  • Watching People Check Out Other People

    New York City is probably a city of eye candy in many ways. Then again, I guess any large city is the case too. But I think NYC is the most diverse eye candy available then. [hahaha]

    Today I decided to walk from Union Square down to the financial district. The distance is about 2.5 miles, so it's quite a long walk. And then I had to walk back still...so overall I walked 5 miles this afternoon.

    I chose to walk on Broadway for most of the way of the 2.5 miles. There were tons of tourists, so I walked on some side streets like Mercer for a while. And while doing this, I walked behind a lot of different guys - some in groups, some with their girlfriends, some with family, some just by themselves. And through all this, I watched these guys check out other girls...or sometimes guys depending on orientation.

    I'm quite sure girls check out guys too but it's never as obvious or as blatant as when men do it. And it seems there are different levels. From what I've seen after this 5 mile hike, I have narrowed it down to these levels:

    Level 1: The guy just looks at the woman's face - longer than just a passing glance. A double take you might say.

    Level 2: The guy looks at the woman's face, then does a quick look over her body and then continues on walking.

    Level 3: The guy looks at the woman's face, body, and then as she walks by, he turns briefly to follow her, but his head doesn't pass over his shoulder.

    Level 4: The guy looks at the woman's face, body, and as she walks by, his head turning completely around and his upper torso slightly turning with it.

    Level 5: The guy does all of Level 4, then turns around for a second, only to turn around again to see her walk away - checking her out from the back.

    Groups of guys seems to be the most obvious/blatant when it comes to checking women out.  At one point in my walk, I was behind three guys, probably in their mid-20s, and this one woman with her boyfriend walked by and all three of them just turned their heads to watch her walk away. They started smiling, obviously talking about her amongst themselves. Then, they turned around once more to catch another glimpse of her, then turned back around. And then two of three guys turned around once more for another glance. By now, I'm just thinking, "Can you even see her anymore?"

    And all this time they didn't notice that someone was very aware that they were doing this. Hint: meaning me.

    Another common one are business men standing outside their buildings talking in groups. These men are in their late 20s, early 30s, and a young woman will walk by, and they will stop momentarily in their talks to just watch her walk past, and then continue talking like nothing happened.

    Or, as I neared the apartment, it was just around the time when men were getting off work in Wall Street, so a lot of them were out on the streets. And I could probably just count one by one as each one caught a glance of an attractive woman, and turn briefly to see her, then continue on their way to the subway station.

    And all this time I'm just watching them with intense interest.

    Now, from what I've seen, if you want to raise your chances of being checked out - or just dressing in a style that appeals most to men, then it seems you should do the following:

    1. Grow out your hair and wear it down. Short hair is fine too, but most of the women I see being checked out have long hair, that's worn down.
    2. Wear shirts that show that you have a bosom. Yes. I mean your breasts, ladies.
    3. Wear shirts that show some neckline and shoulders. Think Cleopatra with her long, beautiful neck.
    4. Wear heels.
    5. Wear flattering bottoms. It can be shorts, skirts, pants - whatever it is, it doesn't seem to matter, as long as it looks good on you and with the rest of your attire.
    6. And some make-up probably doesn't hurt. Not too much though.

    So there you have it. What I've learned in these 5 miles of walking of watching people check out other people.

    How accurate do you think this is in your own opinion?

Comments (51)

  • xpialadocious@xanga

    Long hair, show neck, hint at cleavage (not necessary to SHOW it, but wear something that LOOKS like it does, or might), and flatter the bottom.


    CHECK.  You've got my gaze for sure, but I'm usually polite about it.  Yeah, I think this was a pretty good formula.  I'm generally indifferent to heels and makeup, though. 

  • PenaltyLife@xanga

    wow, you should have labeled that list as things you should AVOID at all costs.

    men are such pigs. i understand looking (everybody does it), but to turn all the way around? or to casually stop your conversation? come on. most of the time, the woman doesn't want you to look. if i saw somebody completely turn around to look at me, i'd give him a death glare. haha

  • ViciousGrin63@xanga

    I try not to make it so obvious, but I've seen a lot of people do it and this matches up very well.

  • quotes3085@xanga

    hahaha im just laughing at the picture =]

  • addyorable@xanga

    I agree with you about your second bunch of points. If I do all those things you mentioned, I will get lots of stares (such as today, ha). If I don't, I don't get as many stares. Men. Gosh.

  • xjadersx@xanga

    I've seen some guys check out girls and then they make comments. I sometimes watch my boyfriend to see if he checks people out but he doesn't. I look at people but I don't make it obvious.

    There are some guys who make it obvious, but some girls do it too.

    As long as they're not being rude about it, then it's nice.

  • snapeful@xanga

    You got it covered. There are higher levels like the whole coming-up-to-hit-on-the-person.

    Also... some girls aren't very subtle. XD Girls do it too in groups I think. XD Just not always like that.

  • dragon_king@xanga

    There's a girl in my class who checked out a guy like that-she clearly was looking at him with a smile on her face and then made a comment about him being "eye candy" 

  • ingiardino@xanga

    It is insanely interesting to people watch, and like you already know, to watch other people people watch.  It disgusts me and interests me at the same time when I hear or see a guy checking out a girl and talking to his friends.

    Thank you for posting that part about "if you want to get checked out, do this..." 

  • onlyjustbegun@xanga

    hahaha great post! It must've been so entertaining to witness those incidents throughout your walk. I've never really noticed this behavior in men... maybe I'm oblivious. Or maybe I never thought much of it, until now. Next time I see something like that happen, I'll probably think of you. =] 


    That's crazy how businessmen will stop talking just to watch!!!! But.. hmm, I guess girls do that too. 
    Nice list. 
    And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!  
  • aphoenix_rising@xanga

    @PenaltyLife@xanga - Lol. I agree.


    I fit that list pretty well (minus number two and sometimes three), and yeah, I do notice guys turning to stare. I don't like it, though, so I'm making it an agenda to NOT follow that list.


    I'd say it's pretty accurate. Some men stop walking, too. Or else they slow down. Be wary of eye contact.

  • eatdrinkandbemaryy@xanga
  • pasaway4eva@xanga

    Lol spoken like a true new yorker! Haha
    I catch guys like these all the time too!

  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    that's a lot of stuff covered over a 5 miles span...

    it's a lot easier to check out girls on a hot summery day...  all you need is a pair of sunglasses...  and without moving your head, just move your eyes...  if you want to see her longer, walk a tad bit slower...  lol...   that's how we do the full body assessment to determine whether it's a go or no go; if it ain't what we like, we move on...

  • xSayakax@xanga

    LOL...I've never "people watch" before, but some of my girl friends say they do and they can tell/guess what's going on between people, their intentions, etc.  I don't really notice people around me unless they are my friends/family/acquaintences.  This is nice to know and maybe I should "observe" people sometime =P

  • Coke0@xanga

    I do this all the time...its so interesting to people watch. I always watch people check out other people haha. The worst though is when I see a guy with his girlfriend on his arm check out another girl....tsk tsk and it happens a lot too. Come on guys!!

  • istickit@xanga

    i think its really funn when old ass people check out girls... its just weird but cant help that they are males ?? huh.

  • TheScaleDiaries@xanga

    I think it all depends on how hard the guy is staring at the girl and his facial expression. Some men creep me the f out when they stare down attractive women/girls like they were prey. CREEPY! And I make sure to glare at men who do that disgusting stare downm so they know I know what they look like (incase they are rapists...yes I actually assume a guy is dangerous if they stare down women intensely like that lol)

  • AnchorsAwayx@xanga

    i check people who check people out haha... lately ive been seeing a lot of level 5s. they annoy  me.

  • happyobligations@xanga

    Haha "bosom". What if you have no bosom? 

  • BlackJackBebe@xanga
  • TaraMcClelland@xanga

    I am a people watcher, by nature, & I've noticed the same things, but this post should be titled "I felt like stating the obvious today, here it is!"
    Everyone knows that if you're scrubbed out & you're standing next to a woman with long hair, her breasts hanging out, a mini skirt & heels, you're invisible.

    I'd rather avoid the gazes of every man in NYC than have to dress like that daily for attention. I'm so happy I have a boyfriend & I'm not out "looking."

    xtara

  • TaraMcClelland@xanga

    @TheScaleDiaries@xanga - I am that way as well, I always assume a man is dangerous if he is "eye-fucking" me, so to speak. I have one of those bodies that my friends are jealous of, but instead of showing it off I normally cover it up with t-shirt & jeans because I just hate the way men look at me, & the bf does too.

  • TaraMcClelland@xanga

    @aphoenix_rising@xanga - sometimes they also turn their body fully around & walk backwards. that is so immature in my opinion! I hate it!!

  • TaraMcClelland@xanga

    @PenaltyLife@xanga - I completely disagree! Women are scheming beings & they dress that way for 1 of 2 reasons. They either way MEN to look their way & want what they see, or they want women to look their way & wish they could look as good.

    People say "I dress this way for self confidence"
    but where do you get the self confidence? From the eyes of other human beings, of course.. & I also believe that anyone who says otherwise is lying.

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