Wednesday, 05 August 2009
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WYD Someone in Therapy?
Therapy used to be a dirty word - it had a huge, awful stigma attached to it. Now, it seems like anyone whose anyone has been to some kind of rehab or therapy.
If you met someone tomorrow who divulged that they were in therapy - would it change your opinion about dating them? Or if your current SO decided to start seeing a therapist, would you stick by their decision & support them or run for the hills?
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It would really depend on WHY they were going for therapy, and whether you are quite a strong and supportive individual.
But from studying psychology, I would say that it could be more healthy for the individual in therapy to not date, so as to not add coal to the fire. Then they have the freedom to solely concentrate on themselves and work through whatever it is that they are going through.
I wouldn't really think twice.
Not to mention, it would be hypocritical of me.
Yes. I feel like I need some therapy sometimes... but I'm cheap--or is it because I like being a lone wolf?--so no paying for that for me. :P
(This answer is completely serious just without the serious tone).
and agreeing with @silvermoon_lauwa@xanga - in about for what reasons the person needs therapy.
there's nothing wrong with therapy. i've heard a lot of monologues from people i think would benefit a lot from it.
It would depend what they went to therapy for. If they went to therapy because they were addicted to sex or if they ran out in full moons howling and attack people because they thought they were a werewolf is two complety different things.
I would rather date someone who was actually trying to better themselves through therapy than relying on drugs to make them more stable. But, it would also depend on why they were in therapy too.
I think most people should seek out professional help at some point or another in life. Therapy isn't just for people who have mental disorders. Therapy can help with a rough spot, life transitions, etcetera.
So- yes I would.
Yes. I'm in therapy regularly, and my boyfriend sees no problem with that. It's hardly a big deal. I'd totally date someone who was also seeing a therapist.
heh, more people need therapy. if anyhing, this person is actively trying to improve him/herself. i don't see anything wrong with it.
I've been in therapy, and would date someone in therapy. I'd just be extra careful to be honest and not to use them.
Of course I'd date someone in therapy and, providing I had an SO, I'd support his decision to seek help. I have been myself. It did a world of good for me. Some people think it's weak to seek professional help. In my opinion, the only thing weak is NOT getting the help you know you need.
Sure I would.It shows that they're trying to better themselves.I'm all about that.
Of course. The person is hopefully trying to improve himself and there's nothing wrong with that.
I think it would depend on how supportive one is willing to be. If you are willing to be with the person even if things get bad and support them, then I don't see anything wrong with it. On the other hand if you are the type of person who needs someone to be their rock then dating someone in therapy wouldn't be a good idea. Being in therapy shows that the person is trying to better their life in some way, which I think is a really good sign.
@pawnshop_heart@xanga - I agree with you completely. Seeking help really shows courage & strength! I wish more people would seek out the help they need, then things might be better for not just them but all the people around them.
If they want to better themselves and had a good reason sure. If they just want attention then they can jump off a cliff.
The fact that they're in therapy I think is only a positive thing. it means they're proactive. they're willing to and trying to be a better person. they're able to seek help when they think they need it. Everyone has issues and therapy isn't just for crazy people (that's a bad myth that makes people not want to seek it when they should). Everyone goes through things and therapy gives us ways to cope. it gives us someone who can listen to us objectively and who has the tools to help you help yourself.
I am actively encouraging my boyfriend to go into therapy because he's feeling like he lacks direction and is having some depression about it.
Anyone who wouldn't date someone just because they were in therapy is ignorant and closed-minded and doesn't deserve someone who is willing to better themselves and seek help.
Whatever it takes to break down and understand her inhibitions. Dating her could only get better.
If I didn't date someone in therapy that would make me hypocritical. People have dated me and I was in therapy for 7 years!
Clearly this person is taking the steps to make their life better and that's very admirable.
I think that there is nothing wrong with being in therapy. If you think you need it then it is better to go than to not go. I would date someone who went through therapy, seeing as I went to a couple sessions myself.
If my SO was debating on taking therapy of some sort I would highly encourage it. Healthy people have a better chance at having healthy relationships. Good datingish theme! This is actually really practical to think about.
I wonder how he would feel if I felt I needed therapy for something?
Physical therapy is fine.
I suppose it depends on the context that they're having emotional therapy done on them.
Many people in therapy are more stable than those who go without therapy. Even though they are "sick," they learn coping skills that most "normal" people do not have. In reality, everyone could use therapy just for ways to deal with everyday life.
Just the fact that they were in therapy wouldn't bother me. If I found out later they had very serious problems which interfered with their ability to be a good SO, then I would stop dating them, but just finding out they're in therapy wouldn't bother me. I have plenty of friends who are either in therapy or should be, and they're often the more interesting ones.
It depends on the reason why he's in therapy.
Depression I can handle probably. But borderline personality kind of stuff, no.