Sunday, 26 July 2009
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My Girlfriend Constantly Wants to Get Friendly
Guys are always accused of being horndogs. I'm not saying there aren't tons that are. And I'm not saying I never have been.But nearly all the girlfriends I've ever had have wanted to get it on a whole lot more than me. I enjoy having conversations about normal things. And it seems like there are many girls that refuse to talk about anything but sex.
Ladies, when I'm wasted drunk, unless I'm openly trying to get in your pants, I want to go home, eat a sandwich, and crash. And sometimes, I really am tired. It doesn't mean I don't love you. It doesn't mean i think you're fat and unattractive. It just means I've had a long day, and I'd rather go to sleep than have sex.
On another note: Once in a while, it's really fucking awesome to have "don't lift a finger" sex. You know what I'm talking about. It's no secret that it takes a bit more effort to get a girl off than for a girl to get us off. Sometimes its nice to be able to climb into bed and not move a muscle while your primary goal is to please us and not have to worry about being romantic or getting you off.
I've had that on my mind for awhile. Thanks for listening.
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That was all pretty disorganized. I'm not sure what the main point was.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - I'm thinking the same thing. I thought this was a response to "my boyfriend constantly wants to get friendly parts 1 & 2" but this seems like a stand alone thing. Plus I see no mention of a girlfriend, just a mashing of previous experiences.
I kinda like the pun on the "my boyfriend..." posts, but yeah, this is just a guy saying, "I like to be lazy sometimes not just in bed, but in the bar scene." Ok dude, great.
Haha, that's what you get for posting in a female-dominated world!
But seriously, personally, I only get off about 1/3 of the time I have sex with my boyfriend, and I think that is the case with most women. And it's 1/3 of the time with someone who is actually quite attentive. He doesn't get me every time, but he makes a point to make it about me sometimes. Guys don't seem to realize that half of their sexual encounters are wam-bam-thank-you-ma'am experiences, and we're left blinking and thinking "...that's it? It's...over?" So yeah, I understand your plea for "don't lift a finger" sex, but how about getting us off every now and then, too?!
Well,
Ienjoyed the change of characters [gender].
@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - ..and I thought it was a response too.
I was thinking that I'm probably too sleepy that I didnt get the point. Seems like I am not the only one with the same thought.
GIMME SECKS NAO!!! AWL DA TYME!
um... can you say lucky? my girlfriend gets aroused without intense effort MAYBE once a month. it really sucks, and it didn't used to be this way. she just stopped getting horny all of a sudden. it makes me feel like shit because i can't hardly ever arouse her. and the sucky part about it is that there's never a time when i don't want pleasure, and for her it's just like "just do it and get it over with" when i try and pleasure her.
I can see what you're saying. Basically, you are lazy without much sex drive. But I guess it also depends on how much she's trying to "get friendly" compared to how much you don't want to. Because being in a relationship where the other person CONSTANTLY wants to have sex could be somewhat frustrating.
As for "don't lift a finger" sex...sure that can be nice once and a while and I have no problem doing it but it sounds like she wants to be more satisfied than she is right now so maybe your lack of effort is a problem.
But that's just judging on the information you gave which may not be entirely complete.
@harmonyminusmelody@xanga - Wow, that sucks. I definitely feel worse for you than the guy in the original post.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - Yeah, I thought the exact same thing. D:
So...you have really low sex drive.
Cool.
I prefer when my boyfriend is the one who's feeling me up all the time. Guys tend to not get their feelings hurt as much when their girlfriends aren't in the mood or are too tired.
Idk what to say. lol I like sex, but I'm not saying I want it all the time.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - I agree
srsly dude?
how can you not get off to your partner getting off?
not lifting a finger?
epic fail.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - it was just a rant. Rants are meant to be just thoughts rambled off the top of one's head with no real organization whatsoever
@harmonyminusmelody@xanga - u need to dump the frigid bitch, u r young have fun dont get into that funk alread man, there are women who will enjoy sex with u
Well said bro ala 'don't lift a finger sex'. Â This is especially true after a long day of work and you just want to lie there and our woman please us. Â It does take more effort for us to get the women off than for them to get us off but I guess that's how we're built. Â
I also know what you mean by the long day of work and just want to get home and crash but the woman wants to cuddle/talk/sex etc. but we're really JUST TIRED. Â There isn't another woman out there and it's not that we don't love you but we're just tired -_-. Â Also someone up there mentioned it's due to a low sex-drive well I'd like to think working long hours has something to do with it.yea right dude!! u aint getting no pussy!!!!! judging by ur pic im guessing chicks are NOT throwin they panties at you screaming "fuck me fuck me!!!" but maybe im just being mean. my bad.
my boyfriend wont have sex with me is often as i like . when we 1st got together he couldnt get enough of me but then after a few years he put the brakes on. "im too tired" "im so sore" " i dont have the energy" and i have learned not to force it because then i will have a shitty time and the sex will not be good. i understand that he is working 12 hour days without much sleep.he doesnt really neglect me i guess we make love 4 times a week sometimes more.but i want it everyday.i told him that if he doesnt keep me satisfied i will get it from another man. sex and love can be two different things baby. even tho i want it everyday i kno that it is best that we dont because my vagina wont be able to go back to its shape and i will lose tightness. he has a big dick and he fucks very intensley . i dont want him fucking a sloppy pussy.
what is dont lift a finger sex????
haha.
i actually think you deserve "eProps" for the worst datingish entry i have ever read.
(but i know what you mean about the girlfriends who always want it. next time, just think before you write.)
Holy Jesus.
This guy is too tired for sex sometimes, it's really not that big of a deal.
I can't say that I relate, but I accept it without trying to force my point of view across, say something rude, or say he thinks in an un organized manner.
Write what you want, feel what you want.
I'm noticing that you didn't ask for advice, so I won't try to force any on you. :]
Finally, not another girly piece of shit about their boyfriend..
Calm down, the boy was just writing his thoughts, not trying to impress everyone.
To most of you, I wrote this post in about two minutes. I'll try to put a little more thought into the organization next time. Thanks for the advice.
And it's not that I don't like sex. It's just that when a girl is wanting it three or four times a day, every day, I'm not up to it.
@Iluvgillian@xanga - @Leitey@xanga - Thank you! Finally someone seems to understand.
@at_eex3@xanga - I don't think I've ever seen someone write a shittier comment. Congrats.
My boyfriend likes to do the pleasing of me, just because I do a lot for him. But sometimes it's fun for me to do the work. I think a lot of guys like to watch their girls get themselves off haha. I think a girl should be willing to get herself off sometimes.
But this is a good post. Girls can be the more rowdy ones sometimes, especially if they've had some drinks. At least that's how I am!
@Sammyhellsyea@xanga - Shittier, how? But thanks, it's all gooood.
I've read before that girls and guys reach their sexual peak at different ages. Maybe the two of you are just at really contrasting points on the graph.