I thought his family cut off all contact with him?
Talk to your boyfriend about it. If it's not true, why should it bother you so much?

That sounds so much like my situation with mine and his grandfather!! Because I'm older than him, I always help him with his homework and make sure he hands things in and that he stays out of trouble with the huge drug population around where I live.  His grandfather told him one day that I was ruining his life!! He thinks that because he spends everyday with me that I am ruining him when I'm helping him but his grandfather doesn't know anything about his own grandson. Every time i see him I want to shake him and tell him to wake up! It is frustrating because he is my first love but every other guys' parents loved me and his grandfather hates me.

Maybe his mother and grandmother are just bitter that he's living with you now.  And it's possible that your boyfriend hasn't said anything to correct them about the situation because he knows it won't change their minds.

Considering all you've done for him, you have the right to be upset. He should be defending you, no questions asked.

I would reconsider my relationship if that were the case. I am in a similar situation (though not ENTIRELY) where my boyfriends mommy and daddy think that I don't do anything for myself and I control his choices. They don't say anything that includes the word "bitch" but they do tell him right in front of my face "Make her do it herself."

That kind of thing is really hurtful, especially if you are doing something for someone because you LOVE THEM and everyone else thinks its for whatever reason.

I dont think your boyfriends family has room to talk, so I would ignore them and tell your boyfriend to grow some balls and tell them to STFU. (but much nicer of course.)

at least he sent you flowers. That's got to mean something...

I think that his mother may have something to do with this. Maybe deep down she misses her son and is jealous that he has another woman caring for him.

although the situation is admittedly a very difficult one, it's important to remember that family is forever; you can cut them out of your life, but it doesn't mean they aren't still related to you.  as such, your boyfriend is stuck trying to prove himself to a family that seems (from the limited information given here) to want him to fail, and the girlfriend who is helping him and encouraging him to succeed.

keep a level head and always be kind when you deal with his family.  if you stay calm and are always nice and welcoming, they will hopefully eventually come around.

Hi family sounds envious of what you have.  They obviously don't care about him in  a way that a family is supposed to (they kicked him out!!).  I wouldn't let it bother you one bit.  They are just jealous that he is going to have a much better life with you than he would with them.  Bitter.  I see no reason he should stand up for you, because it will only create more drama and negativity between you. I would just keep in mind that the things they say are obsurd.  As long as he tells you he appreciates you, and he doesn't agree with them, that should be good enough.

If you're not friendly with his side of the family, you should not care what they say about you. He has already chosen you over his family. People will always say ill things about other people. You should ignore it if they do not know you.

You might hate me, but maybe look at it this way: His mother pushed him out so he'd learn to live on his own, stand on his own two feet. Instead he moves in with you (I'm assuming you've already established your own house/apartment/home), which defeats the purpose of him learning independence. His mother, in an admittedly wrong-minded attempt to get him to gain his independence, tells him you're a controlling bitch to get him to break up with you so he'll have to be on his own. Just maybe.

On the other hand, you claim to be the "only one who cares about him". If they don't care about him, why does he keep going back to see them? Putting your boyfriend in the situation where he has to 'choose' between his family and you is a tough one, and unless you're absolutely very certain he'll choose you, I wouldn't push him there. Family is tricky to deal with, and you have to remember, this is the woman who raised him that we're talking about.

No matter how upset you are, there's obviously more to the story. Your boyfriend might not even know why they're saying the things they are, either, so there are probably things HE doesn't know. Does your boyfriend agree with the assertion that you're controlling? Because if it's not his opinion, and he's just telling you what they're saying, then it matters less. If he's letting their words influence him, then it's a bigger problem.

Your boyfriend is, I assume, a big boy. He can make his own decisions. As long as he's not mistreating you, I wouldn't try to make him pick a fight with his mother and grandmother just to defend your honor or whatever. If they say these things to your face, you can stand for yourself if you need to. You're a big girl, too, and don't need some man to do your fighting for you.

His family is probably making you the scapegoat.
He gets kicked out and ends up living with you.
All the more reason to blame you for it, right? It's easy for them to talk shit, in that case.
Um, i understand that it bugs that they're all against you. But i realized that it'll only cause unnecessary stress if you let their words bother you. And you probably don't deserve that either. Make sure you let your boyfriend know everything that you feel. But being with him should just be enough to make you happy. Screw his family. If they don't like you, then you don't need to like them. Oh, one more thing... Try to figure out how your boyfriend feels about this. This... rift with the family. Even if he was kicked out, it's still his family. For him, he might be pressured to choose sides: family vs. girlfriend. So uh... try to work that out.