Now that I live in the city, I tend to overestimate the time I'll need to get somewhere - I figure I can always get there early and read the book I have in my bag. But back in the day (and the midwest), I would underestimate traffic time and leave a little too late...meaning I would arrive way later than I should've.
They say you shouldn't show up to a first date late, but what about subsequent dates? Would having to wait around for your date be enough for you to call it quits, or would you laugh it off and slip in "and maybe you should check out this watch I found online" into the conversation?
I think I'd have more sympathy for a less-than-punctual guy because of my occasional lateness, but having to wait around for half an hour each time you'd go out is not cool.
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Been there, done that. If you know for a fact that the person is going to be late (they can't help it sometimes) then just tell them to be there let's say half an hour before the actual time. Then you show up at the time you originally planned for. If they've been waiting for you already, just shrug it off. If not, the chances are you will arrive at the same time.
No. That would be annoying & I find it rude. I go by the 15 minute rule. If you dont call & say you're going to be late, I go on after 15 minutes. Not just on dates but with friends too. I call once to see where they are & to make sure they're ok of course. Being late once in a while is one thing but all the time is a sign of bad organizing.
Why not. Just tell them to be there earlier. And then bring some knitting to do.
I got used to him being 10-15 minutes late, and sometimes it was later, and I got frustrated. When I had to go meet him though, I ended up being half an hour late and he wasn't mad at all, so I learned to get used to not having a strictly set time.
I have habits of getting to places early cuz I time and plan everything... -_____-
But, if he was late a few times, then I'd let it go. I'd tell him to get to places early though. My ex was never late, so that saved me a lot of frustration :)
I would and have... I am a habitually overly punctual person, I dislike the idea of making people wait... If my schedule allows for it, I will be at least 30 minutes early even if the girl is usually late. I do not mind waiting as I am use to waiting arriving early.
I'm always on time if not earlier. I just don't like to be late. Period.
First date, if he's going to be late, please call in advance. If not, I'll wait but I'll be annoy. I just find that to be extremely rude when you know you're running late or going to be late but don't call to tell your date.
if i really liked the person, i would. but i'd get pretty annoyed eventually; i value punctuality.
I tend to try to avoid this problem by asking so and so to pick me up or I pick them up at the house...10/15 minutes late is fine.
However, the other day I was meeting two friends for lunch, I texted them to tell me when they were half way there, and that was when I would leave from my place.
They were always there before me luckily so I didn't have to wait for them. :P
being habitually late would be such a deal-breaker for me. i'm never late, ever. i'm habitually early. and by early i mean like 15-30 minutes early.
to me, being raised and having this mentality my whole life, being late is rude. rude rude rude. it shows disrespect and a lack of regard. so to me, definitely a big deal.
If a guy really likes you, he'll do anything to make it on time. Honestly. Find another cool guy.
I actually have it as a top priority - I will not date someone who's habitually late. I grew up with a dad who was always, without fail, at least five minutes late for everything ... and it still drives me insane. In response, I've learned to be habitually early or at least on time - I am rarely, if ever, late for something. I consider it rude, and inconsiderate... and I think because I grew up with it, I've become determined to go in the opposite direction ... and that includes not dating or marrying someone who displays this behavior. Maybe to some people it's nothing - but it's really not, if you live with it constantly.
nooo. dealing with it any time really sucks
i could not date someone who is always late. that would annoy me. and i hate waiting around.
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no it's annoying after a while
my BF is always late to classes, to our dates, almost to everywhere. sometimes it gets irritating. but he's only like 15 minutes late so what i always do, when i need him to arrive at 830pm, i'll ask him to come at 815pm. i will estimate his time a bit earlier for everything. i sometimes tell him, "the world isnt gonna wait for you all the time". i'm already used to to it. so it's no biggie now.
If he's late from time to time that's no big deal. If he was late on a regular basis I'd talk to him about it. I don't think it'd really bother me all that much, but it could be somewhat irritating depending on what we're gonna do.
i think 15 minutes late is acceptable. 30 minutes, you're stretching it. an hour, its over. if its traffic, then don't let it happen again. no other excuse is acceptable.
I HATE it when people are late. Once you let it go without making a point, they start expecting you to accept that being late is part of who they are. Being habitually late is not part of who they are, it's due to bad time management and lack of respect/consideration for other people's time.
No, if the guy I'm dating has a habit of being perpetually late, he'd never make it beyond the dating phase. Time is money for me; my clients pay me for my time, and I expect someone I'm dating to understand and respect it just the same. If I'm on time (usually, I'm EARLY), I expect him to do the same. If he can't see eye to eye in the importance to that, then no point. Oh well.
If they don't call me within 15 minutes of the appointed time... then I start worrying. Then I think that I came too early and that it was actually some other time. Then, I start thinking that it was actually another DAY and I heard everything wrong. Maybe around the 30min point I just HAVE to call, wondering if they died. Uhm, so usually I blame myself. But luckily, my boyfriend and I are always there around the same timd
ee, that doesn't show respect for you. 10-15. Ok. 1/2 an hour? not ok.
definitely not. big turn-off if a guy is habitually late.
i have a guy friend who's like that, but its okay, just a friend, but he was always late to our hang outs and stuff, which tells us that he doesn't have discipline to freaking wake up and get ready! so i always tell him, "you better not show up late to your wedding because by the time you get there, your bride-to-be would be long gone"
now, he's not so late anymore. maybe i helped or what not, but he grew out of it! LOL
Yeah, i dated one of these.... She actually WAS late to our first date. Turns out she was running late from her house, and got pulled over while she was on the way. It was actually kinda comical when she wound up at the theatre all frazzled and appologetic. What i didn't realize is that the relationship i was stepping into was with a girl who was chronically late TO EVERYTHING. Not just dates, but stuff like church, random hang outs at friends houses... work... school EVERYTHING. I once sat in the mall that we were going to meet at for an hour waiting for her to show up. I mean, she knew she was chronically late... And she got teased by everyone for it... so it just ended up being just one of those things you deal with with the person you're with... it was ridiculously annoying tho
probably not the same idea, but my best friend always waits for me
i guesss we're both aware that i'm always going to show up 10-15min later than the time that we originally agreed on
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I'm always fashionably late