There is currently
a post about a 16-year-old girl confessing that she has knowingly gone after guys who have girlfriends and that to an extent she enjoys this. This is quite shocking; when I was 16 I had very little experience of men and wouldn't have even imagined doing this.
But what is more shocking is the tone of about a third of the comments made to her and the fact that a lot of those were made by grown, married (and some Christian) women and men. She was called a slut and a whore and dismissed as that. So few actually made any attempt to show any kind of compassion or understanding. And yes, I
do understand.
It doesn't take a genius to see why she feels the need to do what she does, even if it is not a stage you ever went through yourself. In fact, if you didn't go through it yourself then you should make even more effort at compassion.
So what if you were "never a homewrecker". Good for you, I'm thrilled. Now why not take that important moral you hold and try to help a 16-year-old who for some reason does not. Or is that too much like hard work?
She is 16 for Christ's sake. She is not an adult. She is not grown up. She is not a slut and she is not a whore. She is a misguided 16-year-old. I find it impossible to comprehend how you can see such a misguided teenager and think that the appropriate course of action is to call her a slut, whore and a bitch. Because
that' s going to put her on the right path. Which leads me to suspect that these people do not in fact want her on the right path. They want to dismiss her as an eternal whore so that they can take their anger out on her and feel self-righteous about it.
She needs to know love, what it is like to love and be loved. She needs someone to guide her. And yes, maybe it isn't your job to do that. You can't help everyone. But the least you can do is choose not to throw insults at her. The least you can do is pray for her, or tell her that you hope she finds someone who
can help her. And if you can't do that, say nothing. It is better then further destructing an already partially destructed soul.
