I'm friends with my ex boyfriend of two years and when we're together, things are never awkward or uncomfortable. Most of the time, I forget that we ever even dated, as it was a few years ago when we were in high school and totally different people than we are now. However, the problem arises when my current boyfriend comes around too, and the testosterone levels rise to frightening heights.
For whatever reason, my ex seems to feel the need to boast and brag and drop little hints about how great we were as a couple. Inside jokes galore seem to make my boyfriend understandably uncomfortable, and I'm not sure why my ex is so territorial when he is clearly over me and has long since moved on with his life. Any idea why he acts this way around my guy? Has this ever happened to you? Let me know what you think!
I'm friends with my ex boyfriend of two years and when we're together, things are never awkward or uncomfortable. Most of the time, I forget that we ever even dated, as it was a few years ago when we were in high school and totally different people than we are now. However, the problem arises when my current boyfriend comes around too, and the testosterone levels rise to frightening heights.
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Hah, maybe he's not completely over you.
My ex was very territorial when it came to me (even when we broke up and he had a new girlfriend). He actually went over to this guys house to "confront" him about it. Like I was his property or something?
The guy that I was talking to told me it was because he wasn't over me (even though he was in a relationship) and that he couldn't stand seeing me be happy with anyone else.
Needless to say, I don't talk to him (the ex) anymore (for various reasons also).
You should talk to your ex about this, because it will cause problems in your relationship. Let him now that it isn't okay and that he is making your boyfriend uncomfortable. Otherwise you'll have to cut him off from your life altogether.
harsh? yeah, I know.
He thinks there's no guy that can have what you had with him. Face it, he's jealous that you're moving on. And might I suggest something that will help clear up this whole situation?
Stop hanging out with your EX BOYFRIEND. You're an idiot for bringing your current bf along with you to hangout with him. Cut the crap and stop hanging out with your ex. You should never ever do that.
Umm... yeah. He's not obviously over you, and obviously hasn't moved on with his life. This is why I don't encourage people in relationships to be friends with exes. I would be careful if you really want your current relationship to last, because that guy probably won't take it for too long, and if you're not willing to do something about it, he (hopefully) will.
Firstly, its what guys do, be territorial, its genetically programmed into them. Ask him to stop, and if it is actually bothering you, your boyfriend, and your current relationship this much - which it has to have done for you to write a blog on it - maybe you ought to cut down on how much you see him.
stop hanging out with the ex.
My guess is he's not over you completely.
being territorial, it's normal guy thing. but maybe he;s not over you yet
@Dustin_wind@xanga - I don't see what's so bad about hanging out with your ex boyfriend? Tons of girls do it.
@abcdefgaby@xanga - Yeah? Do you? It's a stupid choice in all honesty. I never hang out with any of my ex girlfriends. I'm smarter than that. Sure you can be friends but I would never ever do that alone. There's no need to be bringing your boyfriend to hang out with your EX boyfriend. That's just asking for problems. They are ex's for a reason.
@Dustin_wind@xanga - Yeah, I do. Back when I had a boyfriend, I would hang out with exes all the time (who were mutual friends of ours), and I would do it alone sometimes. He didn't really care, because he trusted me and he knew the guys really well. We would all hang out together sometimes too, and all of us always had a really good time.
But maybe we're just weird.
why do people keep there exes as friends?? i would never hang out with my man ex girlsfriends, even if she was one of the coolest people on the planet and i really liked her.
He's not over you. deffenitely not over you.
I never actually Dated this guy but we had a fling type thing. Anyways I'm still extremely good friends with him and he does that too. The other night He, his girlfriend, my boyfriend, another two friends of ours and myself were at the beach the the other night. XD Anyways we were all drunk and us three girls decided to go swimming {in bra's and panties} and over the course of that maybe twenty minutes he dropped hints continuously, left rigt and center about how We'd slept together *scowls* It's always fun when they do that to go and make out with the one your actually with or something :p
He may not be over you.
But honestly, have you EVER been in a situation with more than one guy around? That sounds to me how guys generally behave, anyway. We're very competative by nature, and love to show off and act like we have the one up over each other. To do otherwise would be to admit defeat and accept the feared title of "beta male". Yes, it's stupid, but how can you blame your ex for doing what guys do? Just tell him to stop trying to be so alpha. If he can't respect that, then stop hanging out with him, because he obviously then cannot respect your boundaries.
Jealousy. Solution: don't hang out with them together again. It's not fair to your current boyfriend or you.
It's weird to say that if he isn't over you- but it could be that he just wants your boyfriend to feel jealous when he says that. Guys are weird like that sometimes.... but maybe it's just me- if it was a ex girlfriend talking about a guy, I would think that she wasn't over her ex-boyfriend, if you know what I mean
I think hanging out with your ex boyfriend doesn't making any sense. Isn't he an ex-person you'd like to be with for a reason?
i think your ex still likes you .
Being friends with an ex is NEVER a good idea! Never, never, never!
dick contest obv
Guys are always like that. Whether he's over you or not. It's just because you used to date.
It's the nature of men to show off really. even if it's through between the two of you, he still wants to prove you he's better than your current boyfriend. It's food for his ego ya know. It's a guy thing. plus, i don't think it's a good idea to hang out with exes. I donot know about you. :)
You need to have a serious discussion with your ex and tell him that bragging to your SO about how great you two had it is not appreciated. Plus, if it were so damned wonderful, you two would still be together right now. That's immature high school shit, personally.
why dont u stop hanging out with both of them together...are they even close friends at all? if not then why bother....ur pretty much putting yourself into this dumb situation.