I recently got married. A few days after, my husband and I were walking by a little Italian restaurant, and I mentioned that we should go on a date there one of these days. Then we had the following conversation:
Haha! Forget about that. Dates don't exist after you marry.
Me: What!? That's not true! We go on dates all the time.
Him: I know, I don't agree with it either, but apparently that's the way it works.
Me: What do you mean?
Him: When we were engaged, whenever I would tell my friends that I was going on a date, they would say "with who!? Aren't you engaged!?"
Me: Ha! So what do we call it then?
Him: I don't know. We don't. People assume that we stay home all the time and rot.
My husband and I both agree that going on dates is a perfect way to keep a relationship fresh. There's something about going out all dressed up, or even visiting the movie theater (and I don't mean to watch a movie).
Do you think dating ends at marriage?
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My parents have been married about 27 years and still go on dates.
And I have friends who recently got married and have what they call date nightsDates with other people stop. Going out with the person you're married to shouldn't stop. That'd just be fucking boring.
Of course it does! But I just the only difference is that instead of calling it a date, married couples begin calling it "going out." Whatever, it's still a date! Just a different term used...
I don't think they should. I worked in a grocery store and couples would come in a Saturday night and make jokes about grocery shopping on Saturday night being their "date night." I always thought that was so sad, I believe that married couples awe it to themselves to make time to go on dates, real dates, like they did when they were dating. Even couples who have been together for awhile and don't go out alot should.
Get dressed up, go to dinner, movies, concert, whatever you want. NO KIDS! And have a good time. Go once a week, once a month, whatever.
What one married couple I know also likes to do is send the kids to friends or grandparents house for the night or weekend, and have a nice weekend IN.
Unfortunately, the only time my parents do "dates" anymore is for their wedding anniversary or Valentine's Day. Other than that, it's just watching TV together in the evenings. They're still happy, but to me that kind of marriage sounds boring. Or maybe it's not about what they do; just the fact that they do it together is enough.
maybe we need a different word... dating brings up the connotation of meeting someone new and getting to know him/her
i agree with black lie. I think in marriage terms it means going out to eat.
Ehhh, my parents go on dates for special occasions... but bring US along Lol.
I still don't think dates should be discontinued after marriage. Some people call it "going out" but it's still a date.
dating is romancing someone just because you mairried them does not mean the romancing is over it has only just begun
@ViciousGrin63@xanga - agreed.
If not, then what do you call a couple who lives together then? They go on dates, too!
date: noun/verb: a social appointment, engagement, or occasion arranged beforehand with another person: to go out on a date on Saturday night.
Not in my relationship it won't. Going out to new places (or even same enjoyable ones) is healthy for a relationship and keeps you from falling into ruts. Sex is another things that will not end in my future marriage (if I have anything to do with it). I don't care if we're 70, it is going to happen haha
I love dates! I better be dating when I get married... hehe :) I don't think people should stay home and rot... haha!
dating your SO is wonderful..
it adds a new spice to the term of marriage..
and you SHOULD GO ON DATES..don't stop..god damn..
u're fucking stuck with them..might as well make the best of it..lol
with other ppl yes.
no. dating should never end when marriages begin. that's just dumb
Dating is what keeps my marraige happy I reckon. My parents used to go out every Saturday night together, no kids allowed, to keep the flame going I guess.
No way.
dating doesn't end when you get married....it does when you have kids!!! lol.
My son will be six weeks old on Monday and my husband and I had our first "date" since he's been born last night. So....technically it doesn't end...just becomes less frequent. :)
I don't think dates should end at marriage. You're right, it's a way to keep things fresh and add some fun to your lives. Everyone knows how stressful life can be sometimes, so sometimes it's nice to just have something fun to do and have that experience.
"They assume we stay home and rot"
LOL
of course the engaged/married/elderly couples can still go on dates!
It really shouldn't. lol
Dating should *not* end in marriage... I think it helps keep the relationship fresh. Kudos to you!
My husband don't go on dates persay, but we have small children. We did before they came! But now, we spend our 'date time' at home after the kids go to bed watching a movie or doing other ....ummm, activities =) We keep the spice alive, without actually going anywhere.
my parents have been dated like 30 years? they go on dates. they invite us with them, but we always deline and let them go to a movie and dinner. they even go shopping or just run errands together. they didn't do that for a lot of years, but i suppose since their baby is 15 now, they have more free time to do as they please and not have tag alongs.
i don't think dates with your husband/wife should stop. it just gets boring fast.
xo