Miss Rhino
A couple summers ago, I worked as a waitress at a country club. My time spent in the food service industry was short-lived, but in that time I established myself as the worst server to ever set foot on this earth. I knew the only way I could survive was to depend on the kindness and generosity of others. And it just so happened that the majority of the servers I worked with were males. Perfect.
I flirted my way to easy street. I could always depend on at least one or two of my fellow co-workers to come to my aid whenever I needed help with the cappuccino machine. I never once had to do wine service, leaving that duty to someone else. I would follow dutifully and gratefully behind carrying the wine glasses with a big smile on my face.
Sure I felt bad. But it was survival of the fittest at that country club, and in this scenario I was the crippled sloth struggling to figure out the 52-table seating chart.
Have you ever flirted for favors? Perhaps batted an eye at a police office to get out of a speeding ticket or something of the like? Has it ever back-fired on you?
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Oh yeah. My hips don't lie.
lol yes
Perfect example was when we went to Warped. A couple of my guy friends were trying to take pictures with a certain band member and had a failed attempt.
Later we see the same person & they said "Don't bother he's a douche"
I go up nicely and ask for a photo. We got autographs, pictures, and even a cd!
My guy friend stated "He wasn't that nice earlier..."
me:"that's because I'm a woman. Stick with me and you'll see how privileged we are."
oh ho ho ho
we're so evil
>;D
flirting is so fun and natural that sometimes you cant help but do it. And hey, if it helped you out, cool =)
i flirt all the time so i get what i want. or i just act cute. it pretty much does the trick.
When I tried to speak intelligently about my car problems with a mechanic I got brushed off. When I played bubbly flirty blonde I got far more help. If flirting and play-acting get me what I need, then so be it.
Hell yeah, I did. And no, it never back fired. In fact it... Oh, never mind.
Flirting sweetly for little things is one thing but I dont like seeing girls (or guys) act stupid to get what they want. You may get it but you may get a few choice words thrown behind your back for your behavior or it may blow up in your face. Take Jessica simpson for example. I USED to like her, she had a great voice & she didnt need to do anything but sing to command attention. I mean I dont hate her but when she started playing dumb for the camera in Newlyweds & started acting sexy, she lost alot of respect & I personally think it played a part in breaking up her marriage. I know she isnt stupid & she just wasted years of her time doing that. She could have gotten so much more done but now she has to start from the ground up since her label dropped her & no one takes her seriously.
I think a person goes far in life by being themselves & acting on common sense than just being flirty. I may get flamed but that's just my 2 cents. I'm not saying I never sweet talked to get out of trouble or get a favor but I dont live on it.
@trebleclef402@xanga - Mechanics irk me to no end. They only make money when they find something wrong & they think they know everything. My mom beat them at their own game once. She marked parts in the car with red nail polish, not a lot just a little mark she'd be able to see, when the car was acting funny. So she took it to get it fixed & when she picked it up, the guy told her what they fixed & how much it was. when she popped open the hood & saw they didnt touch a thing, she threatened to report them if they didnt do the job correctly.
After that we learned how to fix minor car problems ourselves because they overcharge & underwork. We're having issues now & we took the car back twice but they "cant find the problem". I bet when we take it back when the warrenty expires, they're gonna find an assload of problems to fix...
It is kind of ridiculous what a well placed flirtaious smile will do for a girl. I too had a very short lived stint in waitressing except I was the only one in a small cafe, so instead of getting help flirtation got me out of trouble and fairly often a good tip :P
Well I love to flirt, but I dont think I necessarily do it for favors......except when I get the oil changed in my X-terra. The guy at the dealership always cuts me a deal if were my cute shorts!
contrary to your experience, i think im the waitress that did everything in spite of the easy way I could have taken to get out of situations. i didn't like relying on anyone to do the job better than me, of course that also led to many occasions of burning my fingers, bumping into doors, and almost crushing my foot in the process....I do not miss those days.
I talked my way out of 2 parking and 1 speeding ticket. The first speeding ticket made me cry because I was SO SCARED what damage it can do to my driver's record. The parking tickets, I was off by a MINUTE each... of course, I tried arguing, then the wet-eyes-with-tears came up, in the end I think I ended up getting hugs. lol
I have gotten very far in life on being cute and acting sweet, innocent and helpless....i almost never need to open a door or carry a package and strangers are very kind and helpful when i'm in need. lol i once had 6 guys helping me with my flat tire
Flirting for favors is all right I suppose, but I would still make sure that I was capable of doing whatever it was (changing a flat tire, pumping gas, etc). It's all well and good to bat your eyes and get other people to help you now, but what if you're stuck somewhere without people to manipulate, or what about when your looks start fading? So while I have no problem with taking advantage of looks/gender while you can, I wouldn't want to rely completely on them.
When I was a waitress, it was more of an "I help you, so you'll return the favor" thing. But I did my fair share of flirting, just because it helped pass the time on those sometimes 14-16 hour shifts.
Acting cute, flirty, non-threatening and helpless is effective, manipulative, bullshit that works.
lol. I'm a line cook at a restaurant that seats 288 people. Imagine having to do 100 covers in an hour. That's making a new dish every 30 seconds.
I have ahah
I have issues with realizing someone is flirting with me... and I think I flirt without noticing. Buttttt, I have flirted with a guy... just so he could buy me an italian ice yah LOL
I can't pull it off. Kudos to those who can!
it's one thing if they help you out and then you help them out, but if you're having other people do the work for you, and you're taking credit for it....
this post doesn't allow you to shine in a positive light. you come off as manipulative and incompetent.
oh hey this is surprising
i flirt to get out of trouble or get favors as needed i dont like to but you gotta do what you gotta do
lol i'm not sure. i may have. but not realize it.
haha aww HELL yeah i have flirted for favors!! warnings instead of tickets, free drinks, help on the floor (i thought I was the worst server!), ice skate rentals, oil changes, a couple of parfaits once....
there's nothing wrong with it- it's how the world goes round! the trick is to be subtle, then it can't backfire. wearing a low-cut shirt doesn't hurt though