Friday, 17 July 2009
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Cut Down Your Complaints about Men, Please
Right after this, I have a ready blog used to exorcise myself of the sudden drop of appreciation I had with women. But before I do that, I have just one thing to state.I realize when I say this, I'm going to wind up backing myself into a corner, but I just want to pass on a message from guys like me to girls like you: Cut your complaints about men down, please! For any man hoping to actually get a true girl and any woman who know what a real man actually consists of, and for the sake of men who already lost faith in themselves as one, cool it. It was cute when Carrie Underwood did it, but now the smack at all men, as some bluntly state it, is just childish.
Not to mention, that if all men do it to women, it's called misogyny and hate. Shouldn't that tell you something?
Now, I saw a comment once that said all men are pigs. This reminded me of a very naive comrade of mine who openly says to me that all men are stupid, like I'll grow bigger breasts by the time I turn 24. Any time someone gets to the point of even subtly dissing men, knowing they have some stuff to figure out themselves, it makes me wonder if they even know what that does to men who just happens to respect women and doesn't have as big of an ego of the jerk who gets his rocks off daily.
Now, I could have approached this like a Chris Carrabba type. The calmer, easy type, but I have been hearing that snipe so much, I am starting to believe that I am nothing but a childish little manwhore inside, when I am not telling my girlfriend how much I love her, and the truth is the reason I can't approach women honestly to get myself a wonderful girl is because I am not that guy you complain about everyday. It's like me saying that women are realistically whacked out, when it comes to differentiating their feelings and the hardcore reality of people they meet. And I know you are not. I do.
I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends, I go out of my way to give presents on Valentine's Day no matter how much I resent the holiday, yet somehow I feel low everytime all men are put down. I had to remind this female comrade of mine and all of the girls who will openly say it that I am still a man. Albeit, a pretty good man, if you knew me. If I cut off my penis, make my breasts out of clay like Hedwig, and all that, I'll keep you posted. Till then, it's best to watch who you spit upon.
Men, when you hear women complain about you behind your back, what are your thoughts?
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Um....it's just something people do, and will probably do until the end of time. Men and women are different, and it causes general shifts toward certain types of behavior.
It's just annoying. For anyone, male or female, to do.
Aw. I dislike when people put groups of people down.
Not all men are the same and I know that. But sometimes they do tend to act the same as one another, but that's because of testosterone. I like men more than women, to tell the truth. So many women put men down but they refuse to go out with the cute not hot guy who is actually willing to treat them nice. They want something to fix for some reason. Ahg.
But men do put women down sometimes too.
It's a vicious cycle. We should all love each other
heheh!
It's more widely to blame the man for anything in this country because the women provide the sex. Or so I assume.
Either way I think it's annoying. I don't complain about women and their emotional needs, even though once and a while it's nice, but still; the fact that I can't say to a woman what's good about her be it her breasts or butt, or how bitchy they may be, it's never gonna happen.
"Hey Adrianna nice breasts" *slap*
"Hey Dan, nice six pack" "Thanks"
Equal rights? Pfft. Draft women D:
I'm sure I'll get a bunch of remarks on this comment but hey. Sue me, I spoke my mind and yes ladies, I do in fact have one.
Equal rights at the right moments
Girl: "All men are stupid and jerks."
Me: "Are you declaring that you're a lesbian now?"
Ah, the misfortunes of generalizing. How it can make you look like an ass in a second . . .
I hate the trash talk too. Not all men are like that and I realize this. Thats why I hate reading some of the datingish blogs, its always putting down the male gender or talking about problems more than positive things. Good post!
It's pretty funny that when I have this up, they put up Carrie Underwood's picture. Haha! That really makes the blog a little better.
It does suck quite a bit to hear comments like that. I mean I for one am one of those guys who's self-esteem isn't quite what its cracked up to be so seeing those comments do hurt quite a bit. And usually (at least on my weblogs) I try to defend myself but end up getting torn apart by some of my more feminist readers. *ouch*
People need a life.
I don't bitch about guys, and I'm one of the first to say that not all men are pigs when I hear someone saying it. However, women won't quit complaining about men any sooner than men stop complaining about women. It goes both ways, and there are probably an equal amount of complaints on both sides.
it pisses me off and they do it infront of me then i clear my thought and all they say is your one of the girls....
one of these times i am just gonna start saying how would you like it if a started saying all women are b!tchs...
i also respect women so it hurts when i hear them say it
@laytexduckie@xanga - Haha!
you know this is something I have heard women do since I was in high school-and it really doesn't seem to stop. real talk, man bashing makes most guys feel like they can never be enough for a woman. I know because my own ex-girlfriend did it to me. She would tell me things like how she would be happier being with a girl because a girl would know exactly what she wants. And you were dating me because you want to make me feel like i can never be enough of a man for you!? Um.....not cool. That's was the tip of the iceberg-I can't count how many times she would ASK me NOT to hit her or try to abuse her (for clarification, this was during my junior year in high school and I had NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER laid a single hand on a female-the thought NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER even went through my head)-and I had to affirm her by telling her that I would NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER laid a hand on her to hurt her-so why in the world was she assuming that all guys beat on their women? Now she did have a rough past with other guys she dated but the man bashing she did was over the top sometimes. I must have had one heck of a high tolerance because I would probably have broken up with her after the first week (we dated for 2 months-there is MUCH more info about our relationship on my page).
carrie's a hottie. that's really all i had to say LOL
I hate it when girls say that all men are whatever adj you can think of. I personally try to become the best in the dating community and it seems like a huge slap in the face that Women target the general male society instead of targeting the select few.
i hate it when chicks say that all guys are jerks and all that, the truth is that 10% of the people cause 90% of the problems, especially since it seems like a lot of women like confident men, and a lot of overconfident men are mean to women
this blog made me think back to all the times i could have said this dudes a jerk or he was such an ass hole etc ...
but to be quite honest i dont man bash, personally i would ask why he comes off that way directly versus going behind his backbut some men like to hide things, mainly their emotions and thats where i believe things go south for a relationship@xjadersx@xanga - I agree with you about liking men over women. I mean, sometimes the things I hear other girls say are absolutely horrible, but I have never heard anything like that come from a guy's mouth. At least not to that level of cruelty. Besides, I find it much easier to talk to a guy than a girl. (And I'm a girl myself.)
And as far as this blog goes, yes, some men are annoying/stupid/childish/etc. but then again, so are some women. Not everyone is the same and I'm sad to see that some women are putting down all men. Cut them some slack; there are quite a few great guys out there who are feeling bad because of these kind of comments.
I usually say something like "Men are jerks" out of frustration, and only to my female friends. Of course I don't think ALL men are jerks, which is why I leave the "all" out of it. But for the past year, the majority of the guys I've met or dealt with have been jerks, douchebags, or just stupid in one way or another. But I feel the same way about a lot of women, too. They can be just as bad and worse.
@splitsecondshot@xanga - hey, i would love it if somebody told me i had nice abs! i probably won't get a six pack. i think those two are just different. women feel like you're complementing their breasts because you want to have sex with her, since breasts are sexual objects. if you're not already in a sexual relationship, it's simply not acceptable. talking about abs, however, is fine because you worked hard to get into shape etc. it's not a sexual part of your body, just something that's attractive. people tell me i have nice hair, and i thank them. :P
and i like to complain about men because they don't have to go through getting a period!!!! hahaha but i'm kidding. all in good fun.
women think men are jerks because women go for the wrong men. they go for the confident strong.... jerky man. so when he treats her badly, she thinks he's a jerk. then she moves on to the same type of man... and he's a jerk, too. so all men are jerks! but i do think that if women didn't swoon over assholes, then less men would act like assholes because they wouldn't be rewarded for acting that way. at least, those are my thoughts on it.
You just need thicker skin. It doesn't bother me when people generalise, it happens... and sometimes with such frequency that I expect it. Hopefully you can have some kind of rational discussion (YMMV) with them and if not, it's always fun to trade jabs.
One thing is certain, I never allow their comments to affect how I feel. Maybe I'm a jerk, but frankly... I just don't care.
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"Now, I saw a comment once that said all men are pigs."
That reminded me...
A man is driving up a steep, narrow mountain road. A woman is driving down the same road. As they pass each other, the woman leans out of the window and yells: "PIG!!" The man immediately leans out of his window and replies, “BITCH!!”
They each continue on their way, and as the man rounds the next corner, he crashes into a pig in the middle of the road.
If only men would listen.
That is a generalization I will not make. That Could be due to the fact that I am with one of the good men. But for all that you do get the moron jackass men but I also happen to know that you get the men that will go out of their way to make you happy, and defend me against friends, and will continuously notice when something is not right and will react in the correct manner to help. Women that hate men tend to be the bitter ones, the ones that allow the bad to outshine the good. I personally like men, I recognize there are the bad ones, but I am willing to see the good.