Friday, 17 July 2009

  • What Am I, Chopped Liver?

    Got a quick little rant and question for y'all:

    So last night I was hanging out with my BFF and some guy friends. These guys were originally her friends from late high school, but she and I have been BFFs for 3 years now, so we all have hung out and what have you. My girl friend has this game with one of her guy friends called "Chicken" where they pretend to get intimate and whoever chickens out loses. She has a boyfriend and he is single, so it isn't serious and they both end up laughing. However, last night when we were all watching movies and drinking casually (we're all of age), they played a round of chicken and she laughed at him because he backed away. He said though, that if she was single, he would have kissed her and not backed down.

    Now take me, I'm single. Have been since March and am enjoying it. Though like any normal girl, I like to flirt. So later on when we were all joking around again, the comment came up once more that my BFF was in a committed relationship, so she goes, "Okay then kiss Jane*! She's single!" And he was like "Eh, no"  like I had a third eye or something.

    Now I believe that my best friend and I are of equal attractiveness. She's blond and skinny and I have light brown hair and am also skinny. We're both about the same height and have similiar (though not identical) personalities. Its why we get along so well. So the only conclusion would be that because she is in a relationship, I've heard that if a guy is in a relationship, that girls tend to find him more attractive and vice versa. What do you think? Or do I really have a third eye somewhere?

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Comments (37)

  • ange_callie_cassie@xanga

    no..he probably likes her. and i don't think u could literally have a third eye on your forehead. personally i like guys who can get into a relationship and make it last. that's hot. i'm not a guy so i don't know what guys like.

  • InTheThin@xanga

    Maybe he's just not into you. Maybe he has a crush on her. Not like I'd kiss any semi-attractive guy I was presented with.
  • MangoWOW@xanga

    It's on your back. Thats why you cant see it.
  • Ethonox@xanga

    ...
  • aiinos@xanga

    @ange_callie_cassie@xanga - I agree. 
  • cswilik@xanga

    Oh boy, that's terrible. Guys can be so mean! But, he probably didn't mean it like "no, she's an ugly freak," but more like "No, that's awkward." Maybe because he doesn't know you as well? Or like they said above, "Nah, I like you, not your friend, you fool."



    I don't know, that's always a tough situation. He's probably not worth kissing anyway.
  • flyawaysuperman@xanga

    i think this boy is just a dumbass.

  • LovesNotPerfect

    he's probably just head over heels. Don't let anyone tell you you're not beautiful!  Everyone is beautiful!
  • binonuts@xanga

    ill make out with ya ;)
  • DistantStarlight@xanga

    He probably was cool with messing around playing "chicken" with her because he knows it wouldn't go anywhere... but with you, being single, it's actually OK to kiss you! Thus he could do it! And he really might not want to kiss anyone or start anything, just play around at it. Like you said, it isn't serious, and maybe he's just covering his ol' behind making sure it stays that casual. Since he could get away with kissing you, he won't. I bet if she were single he wouldn't do that with her. Unless he has a crush. Maybe then.
  • jeezshoua@xanga

    I have a feeling somewhere in his little heart and brain, he digs your friend that's why he reacted the way he did when your friend offered you instead of her.  It might just be a "game" to them but I'm sure they secretly have crushes on each other.  I mean, you just don't mess around like that with someone you're not at least attracted to unless you're a horn dog and especially if you have a boyfriend.

    And btw, I am not attracted to or find anything attractive about a man in a relationship.  It's just simply tells me that he's off the market for now and I better respect him, his girlfriend, and their relationship unless I want a big stamp that said "home wrecker" on my forehead and/or drama everywhere I go.
  • xourlastendeavorx@xanga

    If you're not ugly he probably likes her. And just is being 'iffy'.
  • throwmeapiece@xanga

    Don't worry about it. I have a friend that likes to play chicken but only with me... it's one of those things where you have to crush on the person. Nothing to take offense at here.
  • tribong_upos@xanga

    gay
  • findingliberty@xanga

    Yeah, I got the feeling he have a crush on your BFF.  But, I can understand why you feel upset when he refused to kiss you because we gals assume all guys are dogs and would take advantage of any situation to make out with an attractive girl.  This would work if and only if he did not had a crush on someone in the room.
  • Southeast_Beauty@xanga

    @jeezshoua@xanga - Right on. I've always loved reading your comments. They're so insightful and logical.
  • pillowpixies@xanga

    If you're both equally attractive, and he wants to kiss her but doesn't want to kiss you, then what does that tell you? If he's saying that he'd kiss her if she wasn't in a relationship, what does that tell you? Third eye, perhaps; I'd believe it. However in this situation I think it's because he likes her.
  • candyhearts13@xanga

    maybe he just doesn't like you.
    you shouldn't take things so personally.

  • Camouflaged_by_night@xanga

    I agree with most of what's already been said. Even if you have similar personalities and looks, that doesn't mean he should be attracted to you just because he is to her. It's kinda like how people can be attracted to one identical twin but not the other.
  • MissKatieSue@xanga

    I've experienced where I attract more guys when I am in a serious relationship than if I am single.  I have no idea why this would be the way it is, but for some reason it just happens this way.

    It could be also that he is attracted to her.  Not necessarily unattracted to you, just more so to her.  He probably already liked her from the start, but didn't want to cause drama because of the fact she is in a relationship.

    Whatever the reason may be, just don't take it personally and find new guys to play the game with.  ;)
  • just_the_average_jane@xanga

    @MangoWOW@xanga - LOL exactly what I was thinking.

    To be serious though, I agree with the other commenters that say he's probably crushing on her, and it has nothing to do with your physical attractiveness or her being in a relationship.  You're kind of making the assumption that because he's a guy, he should be interested in trying to hit on every attractive female out there, and not all guys are like that.

  • Viserys@xanga

    Man, "game" or not, I'd be flipping out if I knew my girlfriend was doing that kind of shit.
  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    I always back off from guys in relationships.
  • chiod0s1234@xanga

    When someone is in a relationship they have that I don't care I am free, happy, and confident attitude.  It is because they show more confidence and are trying not to get into a relationship so they get more attention from people.  In this case it seems like he had a crush on her.  We generally like the person based on a 70-80% of similarities.
  • GiantUnicorn@xanga

    I read somewhere that guys like girls in relationships because they are having a lot more sex than someone who is single. typically. So with having so much sex, they give off a glow and send out pheromones that say "Hey, I'm having sex and you're not having any with me." Something along those lines. So those pheromones attract men to non-single women.

    Plus everyone wants what they can't have.

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