Thursday, 16 July 2009
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Forgetting Your First Love
It's not like it was even love, to be honest. I just want to stop thinking/caring/wondering about my first boyfriend. It's almost two years since I first entered into that relationship with him. It's almost six months since I've had a conversation with him. It's been about three months since I've seen him. I blocked his screen name on AIM, took his number off my phone, and set his Facebook updates to "hidden".
I go out of my way to avoid seeing him. And yet I still think about him a lot. I can't wait until I move to the east coast, where I'll be safely 3,000 miles out of his way. But that won't be for another year.How much longer must I wait until I forget about him? Or will I ever forget about him?
Have you ever forgotten about your first love?
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I have not, nor do I think it likely that I will.
But being in another relationship helps so that you don't obsess as much. Until then, just try to do things you love to do and whenever you catch yourself thinking about him, think about yourself and how much you've grown and gotten better at Scrabble. (Or whatever.)
With me, I was like that for a while and was wondering when they would freakin' go away. Everyone's timeline is different, but after some time and experiences the intensity of that feeling will indeed go away. Wish I could give you an exact time, but I can't unfortunately.
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You never forget them.
I'm not going to forget mine.
I don't want it to end.
But it has to.
I'm not happy anymore =/
-Sorry for the weird/emo spill =P
yeah i don't think you ever really do. most people who try just end up lying to themselves in my opinion. my ex and i are on rocky terms because she's a psycho, but i'm not gonna sit here and act like our relationship was a waste and forget about it. i won't. i don't really ever forget people in general though. i remember friends from camp back in like 2nd grade.
You don't forget. But you can at least forgive.
I don't have a first love, BUT I did have this major obession/crush on this guy my first two years of high school. Totally could have had a chance with him but I ruined it. Well anyway, I think of him from time to time and even dream about him. I don't mind it. I'd say yes if he were to pop into my life right now. haha
I think the first cut is the deepest. I have and will not forget my first love. If fate had not gotten in the way, we would probably still be together. But that's a whole another story there. In time, you will find yourself wondering, caring, and loving him less but I don't think you'll ever forget him as your first love. Who does?
I don't think that's the sort of thing you forget. I can totally say that I think about mine almost every day and that without feelings as strong as they use to be. I think the feelings you have for your first boyfriend never really die and that forgetting him is almost impossible. No worries though, you'll get to live with the thought better.
You'll never forget him. But you WILL reach the point where he won't cross your mind daily. I know it's terrible to hear "it'll take time"... but I've been there. It was all I wanted; just to be able to go a day without thinking about him. It will come. But you'll never fully forget him.
Sadly, you don't forget. However after a while the memories become happy and you only think of them on occasion. It just takes time. It's been a year since my first love and I broke up and I still think about him every other day.
Gonna miss him, aren't you?
Well I dont think about them unless they're brought up. I hate him because he pressured me into losing my virginity with him and I have a feeling he was cheating on me.
So I don't think of him. However recently I've started catching up with a "long lost" friend from high school who still talks to him. Apparently he's spreading lies about me.
I just ignore him.
You never "forget." But you do move on. Here's to embracing the passage of time...
i don't think i would ever forget my first love, he was my first everything but i have realized that it would have never worked out if we stayed together. we are not different people and i was way too young back then, the things i know now, aren't the same things i knew before. he will always hold a place in my heart, but that's all.
You'll never forget about him. It hurts like hell but eventually you move on. It took me a long time but one day you will talk to him and you'll say to yourself "that wasn't so bad" and then you know you are about 75% of the way there. Oh, and I don't think distance helps at all, only time.
you'll never forget. however it will get better and easier as time goes on. and then it will just be a fond sweet memory.
you never really forget.
but over time, you learn to accept that it didn't work out for a reason.
and there are always better things in store for you, especially when you least expect it.
good luck.
yea time and space, you are doing all the right things.
this site is great..
http://www.2knowmyself.com/How_to_forget_someone_you_love
I don't think about my first love anymore and why should I because he cheated on me. But I must admit I couldn't stop thinking about him straight after we broke up. I thought that he was the one and then all of a sudden my whole life was turned upside down, it was the worst feeling ever!! The only reason I started forgetting about him is because I found someone else and that guy (even though we're not together now) showed me that I can do better.
Sometimes I think that it wasn't love and maybe I was just comfortable in the relationship and that was it. Anyways, to this day I am thankful my first love did the dirty on me because I think if I did end up with him I would have been miserable.
im with my first boyfriend now and im terrified of when it will end, if it does.Â
the sad part is that it is a huge possibility since im not even allowed to be dating him, let alone really anyway outside my culture :( it'll be hard.Â
I'm still with my first boyfriend so I don't really know much about forgetting a first love situation. But I don't think it's easy at all to forget a first love. :/
Just take it slow. Good luck.
no, you'll never ever forget your first boyfriend (or crush in my case). for years afterwards i still remembered his phone number, this number was stuck in my head even throughout my other relationships. until recently in my current relationship when i met "the one" for me, i realized i've already forgotten this phone number, and even if i try as i might, i still can't remember! which is great! its hard to not think about your first, but im sure when you meet "the one" for you, you'll slowly be able to put these memories in the back of your mind.
good luck!
I don't think you'll ever forget your first. Even though I'm with someone new, I don't regret my relationship with my ex because I've grown and learned from the experience.
Same exact thing happened to me - same amounts of time for everything. Then he found someone else and I found someone else who is WAY better than he was. You'll find someone, no rush.
you'll never forget him. you just have to accept it and then you can grow. just relax take a breath and accept it all went down. accept where you are and you still have feelings for him. so after that you'll be able to grow. it will add to your character. and i'm sorry.