Miss Rhino
I recently found a
list of 276 questions you should ask before getting married. Some of my favorites were
- How often do you need or expect sex?
- Do you believe in prenuptial agreements? Under what circumstances?
- Is weight control important to you? Is your spouse's weight important to you? What would your reaction be if your partner were to gain a significant amount of weight?
- Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
- Have you ever been physically aggressive with an animal? Have you deliberately hurt an animal?
- Are there household responsibilities you believe to be the sole domain of a man or a woman? Why do you believe this?
There are a lot of questions that need to be asked before you can commit yourself to a life with your SO. You don't want to find out one wedding day too late that your husband/wife kicks kittens and expects sex six times a day, every day, for the rest of your life.
What are some questions you would ask your SO before tying the knot?
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Do you snore or talk in your sleep?
Are you able to run a 6 minute mile?
Does it matter to you how often I shave my legs?
@suttone2@xanga - i like that one.
but i don't think that asking all these inane questions would be very wise... you would come off as if you weren't sure you wanted to marry him. because when i think about marrying the guy i love, all the little things that annoy me about him will become things i love about him.
I like question number 5.
I don't think I would have any question for him. When you're married, it's a learning experience. You learn things about him/her each and every day. Even things that you thought you knew but you were completely wrong about it.
That's why you date and get to know the person as best as you can until you say your "I do."
Do you love me?
@suttone2@xanga - Ahah that IS a good question. In the winter I rarely shave my legs. Luckily my boyfriend doesn't care!
@jeezshoua@xanga - "That's why you date and get to know the person as best as you can until you say your "I do." "
That's how I think. I'd think it's best to know the person you are planning on marrying before you marry them. I think people get caught up in the moment and don't slow down and really realize what MARRIAGE is.
xo
I recommend asking if he/she is addicted to porn. Unfortunately, if they are, they probably won't be honest about it....
@jeezshoua@xanga - I agree. You should know the answers to these questions before you even get engaged.
@jeezshoua@xanga -
"That's why you date and get to know the person as best as you can until you say your "I do."" <------very much agree. isnt that what dating is about?
@JessxMaxine@xanga - yes!!! yes!!! yes!!!
i think all of these are very good questions. i might add.....
who is going to control the money and pay the bills? will you have joint and or seperate banking accounts? will parents or in laws be living with us? will we share discipline of childern/step-childern?
i'd have to agree, dating should be the process in which those questions are pretty much answered for you. Although certain couples dont agree on living with each other before marriage, I think that's ultimately the best way to understand who your partner is. Whether you can really "live" with them or not. I think some people notice certain habits that they dont like or understand a little too late. I honestly feel like you shouldnt have to question any aspect of your partner when you're about to get married, but I guess it wouldnt hurt to keep the excitement alive with things that you dont know about that person yet.
Am I the only you love now and forever~
How about if your SO expects sex with the kittens he kicks? Should I still marry him?
"Are you expecting me to change myself for you?" Quite an important question for me since changing myself would be an impossible task.
@jeezshoua@xanga - I agree with you.
@beetunes@xanga - all the things that annoyed me about my husband before I married him still annoy me. That doesn't mean I don't love him, infact, it means I must love him if I'm willing to deal with some of those things that annoy me.
@merquryd@xanga - HAHA. That is soooo true.
this is so helpful wow :)
I think that getting all this information is a good idea, but I think that dating should be used as the "information gathering" part of your relationship.
@cmdr_keen@xanga - Best question on here.
can you imagine spending the rest of your life with me?
do you love me?how do you feel about my family?I think I've asked ALL these questions to my last ex before... plus "do you grind your teeth in your sleep?" is pretty big. and "would you wear pink?"