Dang, you're such a hypocrite. You dredge your number and you are insecurity about your number. Therefore, when her number is higher than your, you freaked out. Normal people are not afraid their number and it seems that you are. Your insecurity is affecting your judgment in my opinion. The poor girl told you the truth about her ugly past and how she changed for the better, and you decide to put that against her? Maybe you would prefer that she lied to you? The truths hurt, but at least it someone you can trust.
Think about it this way, maybe the next time you decide to have a relationship with someone. Let them know about your number first. See if they are willing to go out with you.

@annawolfy@xanga - Aw...that was kind of sweet.

It's understandable on the distress you are having.
No one said accepting is an easy part in a relationship.
However, must I remind you, if you truly L-O-V-E  her, take these into considerations:
1) Were most of intercourse,  if not all, were consensual?
2) Were most of intercourse, if not all, out of love?
3) If the answers to the previous two answers deem unsatisfying, ask yourself, can you tolerate a love life without sex with your partner?
4) Is she practicing this sexual habit any longer?
5) Do you truly love her, are you willing to do anything for her?
6) Do you plan to take the necessary actions to change her from these habits, since she is your partner, you should think for her, not in her shoes?
7) Take a deep breath and ask yourself, do you think she was not hurt from any of these 50 - 70 people she was with?

Look man, she might have been with that many people... but she opened up to you and obviously, she feels embarrassed and ashamed for what she did. She needs no further condemnations, she needs comfort. Out of the 50-70 men, she finds something that she has not found in anyone: a loving and caring man. You are the special one out of the 50-70. I am sure she is a special one out of however many you have had. Be special for her, be there for her. No one can make that choice for you. Love conquers all, and I am the living testament to that axiom. I am in a relationship right now too, and I can tell you, I treat her with the utmost respect and love anyone can give. I don't care how many guys she's been with, I don't even care if she loves me the most. When she asked me, I answered :" Babe, I don't care who you love the most. I just want you to know, I am and will be the guy who will love you the most, because you are worth it." It was my call and I am glad I made that call. We are in love more than most couples I know. It's hard enough for us to meet, it's even harder for her to live through the past, as a real man... nothing should matter when a man is concentrated and focused on the one thing he truly loves and treasures. A real man does that... so dude, take your pick and I wish you luck to whatever choice you are going to decide.

This has disgusted me entirely. I find it hard to respect a hypocrite who has the nerve to get upset because his girlfriend's had many partners when he's no saint either regardless of whether or not he had less than her. At least she isn't getting funky with anyone besides you. Get over yourself, and if you can't or won't do her the favor and call it off with her. She doesn't deserve this shit because you can't let go of something you had nothing to do with, that happened before you ever came into the picture. I wonder how your previous girlfriends felt when they found out they weren't your first, but rather your 22nd or 23rd.

Mine has a much bigger number than I do (which isn't hard, lol), and it used to bug me; but I still love her, and she still loves me. She made her mistakes and it's in her past. Now she's with me, and I'm all she wants. I knew her then, and I know her now, and she changed everything for me. There's no way I could be upset with her about it.

@Wait_by_Moonlight@xanga - way to hit the nail on the head right there. Love without trust and respect is not real love at all.

grow up and get over it, she has. 

well, since we are throwing around the word "town whore," you should look at yourself. your number isn't that great at all either. my boyfriend has slept with about 13 girls. only three were girlfriends and the rest were fuck buddies that he had known for years and up before he slept with them. i'm a virgin. i knew going into our relationship that he wasn't a virgin, seeing as he is nine years older and has two kids. i think you just need to learn that the past is the past. clearly, you knew she wasn't a virgin, sure she might have slept with a lot of people, but how do you know why she slept with every single guy? she knows, if she is the type to fall in love quickly and did it out of love a few times.

i think you should talk to her about this. be honest with her. tell her, the fact that she has slept with more people than you, freaks you out. don't tell her, you don't respect her, because you shouldn't throw stones in a glass room, sir.

talk to her. tell her what's up. if you can't move past her past...then move on with her.

xo

you have had quite a few partners yourself, kiddo.
unless you do not respect yourself, you ought to respect her.
she's changed and is obviously a wonderful person to you
because you say you are in love with her.

but i don't think you are.
love is forgiving, understanding, and nurturing
love knows that when someone cries over such a confession
it is because they truly have changed and are hurt by what they have done
and when that happens, love knows it's role:
not to judge
but to show that girl how truly remarkable and beautiful a flower she is now
even if she grew from an ugly and ungainly seed.

Wow.

For one, you're a hypocrite. As far as I'm concerned you two are in the same catagory. You've both had a very experienced sexual past. So instead of losing respect for her you should be able to relate and understand her situation. At least she was honest with you! Or is it the double standard? Is it okay for you to sleep with a bunch of women (and yes, you've slept with a LOT of women!), but not okay for her to sleep with a bunch of men? Hmm. I think you better re-examine your own past before you start ridiculing this girl's.

Sue, of course no one wants to think about their SO's past lovers, whether they've been with 3 or 30 other people. But other qualities a person posesses are much more important. Obviously this issue outweighs all the good qualities she has though (in your eyes). And honestly I dont think you really love this girl. If you did love her you'd be able to forgive her past just like she has forgivin you for yours. I know you said this isnt an option, but I really honestly dont think this girl is "the one" for you. A HUUUGE part of being in a sucessful relationship & marriage is respect. If you lack that then you're going to end up miserable and she's going to end up miserable. And that's not fair to either of you. You need to do what will make you happy and whats best for you. And she deserves someone that will respect her and love her ragardless of her past.

Numbers doesn't matter, you idiot! If you love her than that's good enough but then again, respect is also important. I think that you need to 'forgive and forget' and also tell her how you feel. Since if 'numbers' starts to have an affect on your relationship then, you're doomed, you might even lose her. Sorry if I sound harsh but it's the truth.
And I think that you two can work things out, she can even tell you how she felt about your 'numbers' (if you've even told her).

I think the commenters are a little bit too harsh on you. Mind, I don't think your numbers are great, but I still think the commenters are too harsh. 

Dont ask, don't tell.

and they all lived happily ever after.

and can I have her number?  Just kidding.

I understand where you are coming from. I can imagine how you must feel, but im hoping maybe my ramblings could help even in the slightest. I myself have had many emotional issues in the past, steming from every kind of fucked up disorder or mental status you can imagine, so of course, my numbers did rack up. When I was in that stage, I was searching for something, I wanted to be wanted because I felt like I was disgusting, and I needed to be validated by some outside source. It did not work. At all. I searched guy after guy, looking to fill the gaps in my life, that only I could fill. After serious soul searching and a three month hiatus in Utah, i was able to let all of that go. I met a boy, kyle, who was different from everyone else. I didnt NEED him like I needed the others. I simply wanted him. We could spend any amount of time together, hours, days, or weeks, be in the same room, and not have to tear our clothes off and pounce, because what we had was stronger. Now of course there was sex, and there is sex still in our relationship, but its not the main factor. THAT is what makes the difference. Those boys from the past, I was only with for the sex, to fill a void that couldnt be filled. They meant nothing to me, and I honestly dont care if I see them again or not. But kyle, if I never saw him again I would be devastated.

She may have beeen with other guys, but YOU are the one she chose for the right reasons. Shes trying to make herself right now. Shes ready to be a big girl and grow up. She chose you as the one she could settle down, and be with, not just for the sex, but for everything. You are the one she trusts and can tell things to. I hope this helps, I know its hard to get someones past out of your head. But everyone comes with baggage, of some sort. hers is just a little harder to accept.