Sunday, 12 July 2009
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Anniversaries: What Do You Get For The Guy Who Has Everything?
I've been dating my guy for nearly a year now.He has everything he needs. Buying him something for Christmas was a challenge, his birthday required a bit of imagination and now comes our first year anniversary.
It is the same case with me. He doesn't know what to get me 'cause all of my needs have been taken care of.
We are both working adults who can afford whatever they need and want (based on our income, of course). We even ask each other "What do you want for your (birthday/Xmas/etc...)?"
I don't want to ask him what he wants for our anniversary. Two months ago, we got a puppy together and it was "our" anniversary gift to each other. However, I still want to get him something for that special night during dinner.
What have you given to your SO for your special occasion? Maybe I can find an inspiration from your posts.
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I'm planning on approaching my own first anniversary by suggesting we write each other a love letter. As the first anniversary is the paper anniversary.
Don't ask me, I'm horrible with gifts.
you could write a song, re re-write the lyrics from a known song and sing it to him, you can write a poem, you can make something handmade, like a cup or bowl or little things like keyring or phone strip, etc.
...Victoria's Secret. He seemed to enjoy it =]
Well, I'm still a kid, so I might have more time on my hands than a working adult.
But what I made for my boyfriend was a homemade calendar. Except this calendar started on April 2008 (when he asked me out) and ends on April 2009. I have a REALLY great memory with dates and events, so I started recording down all of the things that we've done together in that calendar. And you know how at the top of the calendar, there is always some kind of picture that goes with the month? I put a picture of me and my boyfriend for each month. :)
I'm not rich, and I did mention I'm still a kid, so I do not have much money since I do not have a job. So the best way to go for me is to hand make my presents.
I love making original, homemade stuff. One time for Christmas, I emptied out a big glass jar and layered marshmallows, hot cocoa mix, latte mix, cappuccino mix, irish coffee mix, etc. I decorated the outside of the jar with glitter and ribbons, and tied a big gold ribbon under the cap, and that was the present. =)
@xsherryxkimx@xanga - That's a really cute and creative idea! kudos to you(:
tickets to a show? (broadway, cirque, etc) it would be a good gift and a fun date night together.
@Wait_by_Moonlight@xanga - that's rly sweet! I like
@xsherryxkimx@xanga - wow I've never even heard of that before, but kudos for creativity!
@xsherryxkimx@xanga - Wow that souns awesome. I don't have such memory to pull that off. =O
a scrapbook!.. .if you have enough time to make one.
or buy a scrapbook that has the pages decorated and just fill it up with pictures, letters, etc!
Money ?
I had this problem with my guy who is now my husband and I am already pondering his birthday and Christmas. Do you have any crafty talents? I have made paintings for him and gotten them framed (best to pick a paper size that photo frames can commonly be bought in- I learned the hard way how ridiculous framing costs can be). One time he got me a really sweet picture of us framed as part of a set of gifts. Once I got him a leatherman multitool, only to find out he already had a Swiss Army one. But the one I gave him does look and work better.
For an anniversary, I've made a list counting down something like this- twelve favorite memories, eleven things I like about him, ten fun places we've been, nine things that always remind me of him, eight physical features I love about him, seven words that best describe him, six reasons he's the best boyfriend/husband ever, five jokes between us, four songs that are special to us, three foods he makes amazingly, two reasons I love kissing him, one thing I can't wait to do with him (whatever it is usually planned in the near future). My husband is the sentimental type and he likes things that I put time and thought into, especially things I make with my own two hands.I also have to agree with the person who said a purchase from Victoria's Secret is usually quite enjoyable.
I agree with the person above, don't make it about something physical, making it a date. Take him out to a nice restaurant (your first date resturant?), a Broadway show, sign you guys both up for a class you like (weekend dancing lesson, photography class, etc.), take him to a concert of a band he likes, take him to a sports event he likes, treat him to a sensual night with lingerie and ask his other fantasies for you to fulfill, drive out and hike somewhere etc.
those types of things he can't buy and have on his own
i like to take trips on anniversaries.
Memories are priceless.
maybe just plan a really nice evening for the two of you. i once dated a guy who basically had everything and on our anniversary, instead of going out to eat for dinner, i made him dinner, i asked him mom what his favorite dish to eat was and i cooked it the way his mom cooked it for him. and then we just hung out at my place that night and watched our favorite movies together. he told me that it was the best gift anyone could have given him. same like you, we're both pretty fortunate in our jobs and life to have whatever we want but sometimes it's about the small things that count more. also, i've never really cooked dinner for him before so he was pretty amazed that it turned out so well.
I hate everything about gift-giving and gift-receiving. One of the greatest things I learned from being raised in a Christian home came in the form of Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages. Basically, Chapman's premise is that all people do not communicate their love in the same language, but communicate their love in five main ways: Quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Considering you've been with your guy for a year now, you should know which of these (or which two of these) speak the most directly to him. You should do something radiating that kind of love. :)
If you don't need anything, don't buy anything. I hate unnecessary consumerism. "I bought you this watch because I thought maybe you might like it... and I didn't know what else to get you. But who couldn't use a watch?" This is the reason I hate my birthday with my extended family, they always buy me useless stuff that I don't want when all I really want is to know that they love me. Buying me shit that I don't want shows me that they don't know me, not that they love me. I'd rather they took me out for coffee and spent time talking to me and getting to know me, personally. So if you have everything you need, why don't you arrange a picnic or something. Rent a movie he's been dying to see. Get a hotel room. Buy a sexy outfit. Go on vacation. Be a tourist together in you own town. Cook him a meal. Write him a long letter about how great the past year has been. Make a scavenger hunt.
You don't have to buy him anything. Love is more creative than gifts will ever be.
@DistantStarlight@xanga - Great great great comment, and great ideas. :) It's all wonderfullll. :D
I agree with the person a few above me. "memories are priceless"
Do something that brings back the first memories of you dating. Perhaps going to your first restaurant? Or making him something hand-made. Orrrrr.... victorias secret, im sure he'd enjoy that loll.
I made him a framed poster-sized collage to hang above our bed. Its not just pictures of us, but notes we've wrote each other and an entire year worth of movie ticket stubs.
Thats just the home-made portion of the present. I also bought him a wii fit, and he got me an iphone.
I made a scrapbook, putting all our pic in this one year for my boyfriend (well now my ex). I think its a cute gift because you guys can enjoy the pic and remember those moments!
The scrapbook package is a fast one!if he has all of his material needs met...
then why not fulfill one of his sexual fantasies? do something you wouldn't normally do.
or go on a trip! to somewhere neither of you have been before.
If there's something he's been wanting to do since lilke forever (maybe rock-climbing, sky diving, camping, fishing iono, haha, etc.) maybe you can get him something related to that. Even if it's not worth like $1000. It'll mean a lot to him. :D
Good luck!
I have the same problem with my boyfriend.
I used to be so creative in my past relationship that I've run out of ideas.
But slowly as this relationship develops into something more serious,
I'm becoming more inspired by different ideas.
Because every relationship is different.
My one year passed. And I was thinking of so many things to come up with.
My boyfriend has parents that spoil him, he has everything he needs,
and possibly wants.
As for me, I'm the opposite.
I was never spoiled in my life, except for my long on and off relationship with my ex.
My boyfriend doesn't have a job to get me anything, and I have a job.
So for his birthday/valentine's/6-month/christmas gift I got him a 1TB external hard drive.
Which he loves.
He got me a camera, which I love, since I needed/wanted one.
For our one year anniversary, I still haven't received his gift.
But I gave him mine.
Which was based on creativity and bought with money.
I wanted to do this "12 things of LOVE" like the "12 things of Christmas my true love gave to me"
But not the 12 powered by 12. =P
Just 12 individual gifts.
Each gift representing something significant we've done together each month/a memory.
It doesn't have to be too crazy. I gave him simple gifts.
And I wrote a note on each gift explaining why I got it.
I bought him a handle of Captain Morgan. (Yes Captain Mo is cheap and disgusting)
But we're college students and poor, so it was the only hard A we can afford our 1st year.
And that's basically why I bought it for his gift.
He loves to drink, and Captain Mo was our first alcoholic drink together.
Before we started to date. =)
I guess sentimental things.
Another gift I bought/made him.
I bought a scrap book, but instead of using it as a SCRAP book, I drew on the pages,
and created a story book of how we became official. All the events leading up to the final "Official Status" =)
I also did it because the way we did become official isn't really romantic and would probably most likely be looked down upon... lol so I did my own twists and turns. But he understood what I meant and appreciated it. =P
But in almost all my gifts I always give him a card explaining how I feel for him. =P
I also was going to use my camera to record myself playing the piano and singing a parody song I'd make up but I didn't. I can save that for later. ;)
Good luck to you. =)
@reminisce - That is effing awesome! Stealing that too!
@xsherryxkimx@xanga - I love this idea! Stealing it!