For his birthday, my boyfriend wants a threesome. At certain times during the day, I’m fine with that idea, but almost every time he asks me for one, I say no. He was always joking about it before, but he says that this would be the best birthday present I could give him for his 21st. My original intention was to just get him some strippers and hang out with his friends in a hotel room or something. Strange, I know, but strippers I can accept that idea, but a threesome – just no. And I know it is something that he really wants, but I’m just not sure if I’m comfortable with the idea of him getting it on with another woman...
For those of you who have, what was it like the “morning after”? I’ve said yes once but only under the conditions that it would be me and him and another guy, but of course, he didn’t agree to that. Was it anything like you had expected? Would you even agree to one if it was only for the sake of your boyfriend?
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If he's demanding one then he's an asshole.
Ps if you're doing it "for the sake of your boyfriend" then you're basically giving him the okay to (in your mind) cheat because you aren't comfortable with the idea. A boyfriend should be happy with just you or else get out of the relationship if he wants to fuck around.
If you were okay with it 100% then it would be a different story, but it sounds like you're having doubts. If I were you I wouldn't go through with it, and if he's pissed then dump his ass.
umm..... well.
Ive been in this position before and I would just like to say that it is the worst possible thing you can cave into.
My ex and me were together for a year and 1/2 and he wanted to have a threesome with someone.....preferably my best friend.
I let is slide because he kept pushing it on me and I really trusted my friend....i had known her for about 6 years.
So it happened....I turned out having a nervous breakdown afterwards because I made a rule he couldnt kiss her and I pretty much got shoved out of the way so they could have sex.....
It ended with a week later, me walking in on him and his ex getting busy and as for my so called friend, she finally caved in and told me she had been sleeping with him also when I confronted her about it.
BIGGEST mistake of my life.
In my opinion.....never do it unless the relationship really doesnt mean that much to you.
I was reading on cosmopolitan that this one girl gave her boyfriend an imaginary "threesome." She made her boyfriend close his eyes and she'd say things like "X is touching you on your thigh, I'm touching your hair"... Maybe you can try that instead? Help him imagine a threesome but in reality, it's just you and him.
An actual threesome sounds like trouble and will cause a lot of problems. Good luck.
it will be foolish not to follow majority of the advices here...
You should be enough for him, in my opinion. He sounds really selfish.
If you know who the great Dr. Drew Pinsky (VH1 Celebrity Rehab, MTV Loveline and Sex with Mom & Dad[not like that]) is, he always says that when couples think about having threesomes and go with it, 9/10 they ruin relationships
It might be okay if yall weren't together, but if you plan on marrying this person, its gonna be really really tough
the fact that he wants to have sex with you AND another girl says something already. if i were in your position, my heart would be absolutely broken. he wants to fuck another girl, touch another girl, and have you help/watch. it would be one thing if all three participants did not significant others, but a couple having a threeway with another person? that doesn't sound right at all.
i realize that you have prolly laready done, or not done, but here is my two cents worth... first of all, i think the idea of threesomes is fucking hot. insanely so. both MMF and FFM. f he is not comfortable with MMF then you could try explaining to him that him and the other guy do not have to interact. explain positions like eiffle tower, or such like that. He can have his cock in your pussy, while you suck the other guy off, or you can suck him off while the other guy eats you out. (MMF threesomes should be all about overwhelming the girl with all the sensations possible untill she screams in ecstacy thorugh multiple orgasms. its all about her. the guys should be pleased by knowing they are making her feel so intense, or at the most, by the knowledge there is another cock in her other end, not by pleasing themselves with each other.) MFF treesomes are about pleasing the guy. only difference is that a guy can be pleased and usually is, by watching two girls going at it, or knowing his girlfriend is watching as he pounds another girl's pussy. but he should get pleasure out of that only if it is turning her on. not if it is making her mad or jealous. either way, i would say not to let him kiss her, because it is definately more intimate then casual sex. and def dont let her stay. she needs to leave once you guys are done, and you two needs to have some seriously passionate follow-up sex. and you should pick the girl. dont let them really talk, either. it shold be about her body, and her skill. not her personality
BUT if you are really considering this person for a lifelong relationship, a marriage, then you two should be in love. and if you are not enough for him, if it doesnt thrill him just getting to touch you, then he is not in love with you, and you shoul not consider him for a husband. that's what it sounds like.
if it's a semi-casual realtionship, follow my earlier advice.