I have been dating this boy, S, for close to 8 months. We have similar backgrounds, mentalities, feelings. Of course, we argue and cry (mostly me, really) and become frustrated with each other but in the end, we always resolve our problems. Except for one thing.
I love pork. I grew up eating roast pork buns. I salivate for chicharrón, Korean fried rice, pork chops. The problem: S is Muslim. He drinks, smokes, does everything he’s not really supposed to do, except eat pork, and when I’m with him I’m not allowed to eat it. He says it’s like “second-hand eating pork” – indirectly eating it.
We have gotten into so many fights over this because I’m really not willing to give up pork for him. We have similar tastes in food, but it gets frustrating at the fact that I can’t eat my favorite dishes whenever he’s around. And whenever we talk about our future, one of the main obstacles is this particular meat. I’ve tried to offer compromises, but he’s steadfast against it, and for now, I’ve let it slide.
So, have you ever had to give up something for someone? Something that you were adamant about? If you didn’t, how were you able to find the middle ground?