Yeah, I'm very guilty of this. When I realize I'm about to say something I don't mean, I just close my mouth and walk away, even if I end up hurting my boyfriend, I know it's less than what I would have said. 

I'm kinda 50/50 on things like this. I understand people CAN say things you dont mean, but sometimes when you're angry or caught up in the moment & not thinking, things will slip out you normally wouldnt say. My thing is why would you say it if you never thought about it atleast once before? Or if you know it'll hurt down to the soul, why even bring it up as a cheap shot?

I'm not trying to overanalyze the situation, I only say this because it's happened to me before & their explination was "I normally wouldnt say it, it just slipped out" or "I just said it to prove a point but I didnt mean it".

I don't think I've ever said anything that wasn't true... other than one time I said something like "you don't love me do you?" ... i don't even think we were fighting. Then he said it was a really low blow, and then it became a huge fight. I didn't even mean it, I was just trying to get him to give me a kiss because he was being difficult. But as we have with many other things, we don't mention it. He's not like that.

I try really hard to hold things back that I know I will definitely regret saying. I just stay silent and cool off before talking again.

When I'm mad, I usually shout the things I long want to say to him and that is very true imo of him.  I mean, what better time to say it?  

No, I say exactly what I mean.

I just go for long walks and rant to myself and get it all out of my system so that by the time we're back together again, I've already said the things I would really WANT to say but wouldn't because it'd only make the situation worse.

Fortunately, neither of us are into big screaming matches on the rare occasion we do have our disagreements neither of us ever say anything that we later end up regretting.

i try hard to avoid being a hardcore bitch to my boyfriend when we fight and say horrible things, but sometimes i do. i feel so bad as soon as it leaves my mouth. i always say i'm sorry. he forgives me, but i know he will never forget what i say.

usually i say things, when i feel like hurt. then i attack.

xo

I regret saying all of those things to my significant other when we were still together. :( I usually just think about the regrets and the storms people are facing in their lives, and it reminds me how wonderful it would be if you could settle the fight in a simple way, even if it means they hurt you with their own words. 

Whenever I get into intense verbal fights, I tend to take each word as the truth - even when I know fights stimulate harsh words that aren't always meant. This makes me quite the hypocrite since I most definitely expel nasty strings of sentences I later regret and wish to take back.. ):

if you say them then you mean them, at least to some degree.  you're most honest when you're emotional and you just release what is on your mind, if you think about what you said enough to actually say it, you meant it, don't lie to yourself.

I agree with C_UNIT42@xanga. At the moment that your mad at each other you saying things that are harmful and it express how you feel in a way, but only at that moment. If you don't want to hurt him then tell him that "I am mad at you. What ever I say next is going to hurt you. So I need some time to cool down." Then walk out, but reassure him that you're not breaking up with him, but you're really mad at him right now. After you have cool down, explain to him why you're mad.