I hate to even admit this right now, but it's something that has been eating me up lately.
I STILL GET JEALOUS OF MY EX.
Well, not really. I get jealous that him and the new girlyfriend do things together hat he never would've/couldn't afford to/would've made fun of me for even suggesting to do with me.
I'm not jealous that they're together really, that went away as soon as I saw the official FB status staring back at me that first day.
But I am jealous that a lot of the things he is doing with her, I really and truly believe he never would've done with me. I can see that the two have attended a plethora of concerts together, ridden several roller coasters (while holding each other's hands, I can guess) and I even saw pics of him grillin' out with new girl' s friends and fam.
It wasn't that he didn't do these things with me (actually, he DID refuse to ride roller coasters!), but actually gettin' ex-boy to engage in most of these activities was almost-torture. You'd think that's what I was asking him to do, too: endure torture.
So, I wonder: Was he just not that into me? Was he just not into a serious relationship then (this WAS almost two years ago)? Or does new girl just have some crazy magical power over boy that he succumbs to her every whim?
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Just sometimes other people just bring certain aspects of a person out in the open, Maybe he is just that into her...
Im sorry but......
He was Just not that into you. On the bright side, look at it as...thanking him for letting you go, to find someone who will fit your heart.
I know how that feels ... believe me.
I find that understandable.
I'm one of those people that gets jealous when their ex moves on.
Getting jealous of things he never did with you is much more rational.
Everyone one and every couple is different. Things that the two of you did will be completely different to the types of things that they will do together.
Sometimes people will purposefully avoid what they did with another SO to make sure that the memories, good or bad, don't come back to haunt them.
I guess there's always a part of "What if... " in all of us, but you'll need to remember that the two of you broke up for a reason, and eventually you'll find your own significant other who probably WILL be able to do all the things that you've always thought you would like to do with them. :)
Two years is a long time. He probably grew up and hit puberty. A lot of things can change in two years.
I wouldn't be jealous of the things he's doing with her now. Instead, find yourself a man who is willing to do those things together with you.
God I hate Facebook.
hUN DONT FIGURE OUT WHY HE DIDNT WANT TO DO THESE THINGS WITH U ITS TIME TO MOVE ON AND LET IT GO AND LET HIM HAVE HIS FUN AND U SHOULD DO THE SAME HUN. IM SURE U WILL FIND SOMEONE WHO IS GOING TO WANT TO HAVE SO MUCH FUN WITH U AND NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT IT.
mY HUSBAND IS A HOME BODY, HE WORKS AND COMES HOME. BUT WE GO ON CRUISES AND GO TO SIX FLAGS. WE DO ALOT OF BIG THINGS LIKE THAT SO I CANT REALLY COMPLAIN. HE ISNT A MALL PERSON BUT WE DO GO TO THE MOVIES AND OUT TO EAT HERE AND THERE WHEN WE HAVE THE CHANCE TO. I GUESS EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFRENT.
You said it yourself. He just wasn't that into you. Move on and find your own boy who will do all those things with you.
@Super___Connected@xanga - Best comment I have read all day.
1. Get off the computer.
2. Put on a nice outfit.
3. Leave your house.
4. Met some new people.
My ex never wanted to do anything.He was too scared to tell his parent's about us and meeting parents was way too much for him. That was In December. His girlfriend now looks a lot like me just has a horrible attitude and is really well known for who shes done but his parent's love her. haha, just sayingg.It's pretty amazing(:
Wow reading that made me feel sad. Best idea is not look at his FB page anymore... you're just adding salt to the wound.
People change. People find others that they are crazy about and would do anything for.
Just meet some new people, and hang out. Find someone who will do all that you want to do.
Good luck!
On a side note, related to a different post on "Mancouch".. I believe it was called Cleavage ftw... there is a new ad for that Evony game with even MORE cleavage. Haha.
one day, someone will treat you like the way you're ex is treating his new girlyfriend also.
it's part of life. you will find that one guy whom you will marry...and some of your exes will think...wow she has found this one guy who she will be with for the rest of their lives...so the jealousy thinking starts yet again...
he probably changed his way of thinking for some things and was more open to change. two years is quite a long time, and people even change in a year. so why not two. just dont take it so harshly. and there is always someone new that will be willing to do something for you right? ;]
Two years? It's definitely time for you to get over this. People change. And the person he is with now suits him now-- whether he's changed or she's just a better fit is irrelevant.
I understand how you feel; I've felt the same way in the past, although not about exes. My best advice would be to either meet some new people that you can do all that stuff with, or even take yourself to do all those things. I guess my basic point is, cheer yourself up.
And stop looking at Facebook! It ruins people's lives. :)
Every relationship is a learning experience, as corny as it sounds. People evolve as they go through different situations and relationships so they're constantly growing and maturing. It's possible that he learned something from the experiences, or lack thereof, that he had with you and is trying to better himself. I wouldn't take it personally because, hopefully, you've learned something from your relationship with him that you'll take to your future relationships.
its been 2 years. people change. and you should move on :)
Move on & find someone who is willin to spend time wif u. It's not goin to help 'comparin' ur then-relationship wif his current-relationship.
It's been two years, get over it. The fuck are you doing, spying on him? who gives a shit what he's doing with who, instead focus on your own life. Leave the jealousy at the last stop, it's ugly shit.
My bf does things with me that he would never have even considered with his past girlfriend's. He says he just doesn't mind doing them with me, for whatever reason. He's not really sure why it is, so I can't really help you about what's going on with your ex, but I can safely say that if you stop obsessing over the things they have done, you can start looking toward the things that you can do and maybe you'll find someone there that is willing to do all of that with you and more.