i don't get why he couldn't take you instead? wouldn't he want to take this as an opportunity to spend this vacation to have a good time with you? i understand that she's his best friend and all, but i think that if they've been friends for as long as they said they have, they've got to have had a lot of good times and spent a sufficient amount of time together. him saying, "i'll buy you lots and lots of presents" kind of gives it away that he knows what he's doing isn't really right or fair to you. he's already trying to make up for something that didn't even happen yet. does he not have any other best friends? or even really good friends that are guys? are they sleeping on the same bed? it could be a room with 2 beds. who knows? it's kind of unfair and i wouldn't let him go too easily, but then again.. that's just me. i don't know the guy so.. use your judgement wisely. good luck :) 

You mean your BF is taking another woman on vacation, without you, and you're okay with this? You are a better woman than I am. First, if he was told to bring a friend, wouldn't that include you in the selection process? Second, does he have NO RESPECT for you and your feelings? (He should know that taking another woman on vacation, instead of his GF, makes them all look bad.) Third, hotels ALWAYS keep a few rooms open for emergencies. It doesn't matter if they stay in separate rooms or not, they're going on vacation and you're left at home wondering.
Ditch him.

there are parts of this situation that sounds a bit sketchy - the hotel being booked solid, how he asked her a long while back, and how she wouldnn't consider how you would feel with them staying in the same room together.

but if he has never given you a reason not to trust him, everything might be ok.
and to tell you the truth, if something happens between them 2, there's nothing you can do to stop it.  obviously you're going to worry and think "ok, i wonder what they're doing now" and that's completely normal + understandable. 
but if it happens, it happens right?

i hope everything works out for you.

Um........ I was okay with this at first. But now, "loads and loads of presents"? I'm really not sure about that one.. it's sounds like he's already feeling guilty. If it was me, I would first call the hotel to see if they have any extra rooms on X nights... and then I would tell him to bring another (guy) friend instead.

@xthread@xanga - agreed.

also, since your boyfriend never really indicated when he asked his friend, perhaps he asked her before you guys were even dating and then did not want to go back on his word. i hate that everyone is treating the best friend like she's some tramp whose willingly staying with another guy while he has another boyfriend. we do not know the circumstances of her life nor of the author's. it's unfair to say things about this girl when we don't know her. the same goes for the boyfriend. what if his best friend is slowly dying and this will be their last time together? (granted that usually happens in movies, but ive seen it happen in reality too.) (or what if she's going really far away for college and wont be able to go back home and make calls because she's halfway across the world? emails and letters can only suffice so much.)

what if the boy's parents dont allow his girlfriend because of the fact that they are in an established relationship? why would they allow him to take one girl but not another? because they believe that nothing will happen.

perhaps his other good friends dont want to go or they are too busy, as this post indicates that these kids are college-bound. and obviously have summer orientation, summer classes, and college-prep to attend to.

the poor friend is trying to be respectful to both the girlfriend and the boyfriend by trying to accomadate to both of their wishes. how do you know what went on in the phonecalls between the three of them? the author gives no insight into what the girl is voluntarily doing to keep the author comfortable and assured. instead she subtly attacks the girl under the cover of "concerned but understanding," while seemingly suggesting things about the girl's morality and respectability. she does not give information regarding the number of beds in the room, which is probably 2--since his parent's booked the room.

how do you know if the girl didnt offer to back-out and let the girlfriend go? you cannot judge the girl based on the limited information given. i dont believe that her character should be questioned in this.

so to sum it up and apologize for such a long comment. im sorry i dont know the answer to your questions. i hope the situation works out for the best of all three parties. good luck in college.

@xthread@xanga - I definitely agree. =]

If you trust him, let him do this.
Girls & Guys can be "just friends".

I'm truly sorry, but this is all shady. 

I would NOT like this at all... I don't even like the idea of a girl spending the night in my boyfriend's room when a bunch of other guys are crashing there, too. Unless they're related or an in-law, OR if they were staying in the same room as the parents (I did that with MY best friend a summer ago... And while we're very platonic, I know my boyfriend would not like the idea of us having our own room together, and I understand that.).

I don't like it.