Thursday, 09 July 2009
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I'm Doing Horrible Things In His Dreams
My ex-boyfriend was telling me the other day that he was having a lot of bad dreams about me. I guess that would really be a nightmare....but anyway, he was telling me about these dreams. I mean, I guess they weren't that bad, but to him, it was HELL. He didn't give me specifics but he told me that each of them involved me doing something sexual with another male. Either that, or leaving him for another male to do something sexual. He's thinking that they're a "sign" or something. I assure him that they aren't signs for anything, I mean, I'm definitely not getting sexually involved with anyone. I'm not "crushing" or anything. I don't even think anyone is cute. Basically, I really don't understand what they could be a sign of.But then I got to thinking. My ex and I had been dating for, like, 7 months when I had a couple of dreams about him and one of his really close female friends. I only had two of them, and at the time, they were "oh haha, that would be crazy" kinda things. Both of them dealt with my ex and his friend being together behind my back. [In each of them, she got beat down.] But about a year into our relationship, he cheated on me. With her.
When I first found it, it was a year after it happened, and both of them were all "I'm a different person" blah blah. But either way, it happened. And at the time, the dream thing didn't register to me. But when my ex told me about all the dreams he was having, I started thinking and remembered....and my dreams pretty much foretold the future.
Now I'm saying, do his dreams mean something? Are they foretelling something about me that I know nothing about yet? What if only MY dreams mean something? Have you had any dreams about your SO that came true later on? Has your SO told you about any nightmares he/she's had about you that have come true/not came true?
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Dreams like those could be a "sign of insecurity." I remembered my bf had bad dreams about me in the beginning of our relationship, but it never happened as his dream. I think it might have something to do with your bf's worries or something is bothering him. Try talking to each other more and spend more time with each other and that may help. Don't get beat up over dreams. Hope this'll help.
my bf once had a dream abt me leaving with some other guy right in front of him..but thats never gonna happen.that dream was dreamt like 2 years back...
ive had dreams of me running away from the bf with one of my exes.. which i'd never do
i think it's all the insecurities in your subconcious mind, as long as you dont act on it, its all good.I had a dream that I was an animorph. I don't really believe that means anything. Don't read so deeply into it dear.....
Dreams are your brain's way of taking fragmented information and trying to piece it together in a relevant manner or reviewing it before dumping the memory. Don't waste your time tying up your relationship on something like that.
He's your ex, why does it matter?
If you go off with another guy, it's not his business to care
one night i had a dream that my boyfriend cheated on me with some random girl. when i woke up the next morning, i told him about it. he had the exact same dream, but with a different girl than the one that was in my dream! it was so weird! A week later, he got into an arguement over texting with a girl he went to high school with. I don't know what it was about or what the girl looked like, I just knew he was upset about it. Two days after the arguement, I stumbled across a picture of the girl that was in my dream on Facebook. The girl in my dream was the same girl he had been in an arguement with!
@musicforyourmom@xanga - It's her ex...lol. They're not together.
Ive had some dreams like walking in on my boyfriend cheating..but those are because subconsciously or maybe not so secretly are afraid of that which can cause those dreams...I have had some dreams come true..and others not (for instance my cat and a bear talking to me)..lmao..some dreams may tell you something...and some may just be crazy, creative, or nightmares..it depends on how superstitious you are..I think it might be just a coincidence, or just you know that somethings going on (like cheating) which you think about which leads to a dream.
Yes, you have to cheat now. It's fate.
I think you're thinking too much into this...dream interpretation is complicated and it's also not the most reliable...sort of like...astrology. Dreams rarely mean what they literally show...its always something else. For example: a dream about someone cheating shows in fact that you are 'insecure' about something
This reminds me of Julius Caesar minus the whole murder and fighting crap. Idk.. these dreams are obviously trying to tell you that this relationship with him... is not gonna work.
its just insecurities.
Wait... This is your ex-boyfriend right? I'm not really understanding what the issue is. Maybe I'm slow. I don't think it can predict things insomuch as it can bring to mind things already there. (Not barring the possibility that you are someone spiritual who could dream dreams) Anywho...
it's his worst fears coming to him at night.
why does it matter if he's your ex?Seriously, he needs to relax a little. Dreams come from your own subconscious, whether hunches or fears. Maybe you knew him better than he knew himself, deep down, and you knew he was at risk of cheating. Maybe it was utterly random.
But his dreams sound like the product of his own masculine fears, that his previous exclusive partner now has the freedom to find someone else. He's probably only just subconsciously fearful now that he doesn't have you to himself.
If you guys are broken up and intend to stay that way, he really just needs to get over his crazy dreams. I mean, he can't help having them (and I understand they must be torturous) but he would do himself a favor if he stopped being so superstitious. Just because your dreams came true doesn't mean his are the same.
Besides, so what if you DO move on to someone else? Eventually, it's inevitable. That's what breaking up is for... moving on, whether that one day involves another partner or not.
My boyfriend has had dreams like that, in all honesty I wouldn't do anything that he said I had done in his dream, so like your ex here, it sounds like it's just his own insecurities that are affecting his dreams, stuff that he's worried would happen.
No it doesn't mean anything. Why don't you assure him by having more sexytime with him and only him? Maybe he's subconsciously saying he wants to see you with another man doing it in front of him hahaha or he wants to do the man? O_O
@Fairywife@xanga - Haha oh my gosh, I'm embarrassed. For some reason I thought they were still dating even though she said ex. Lol my bad, I've been brain dead these last few days.
No...dreams portray things that you fear...or want it to happen.
Look at it this way:
1. If your ex bf is having detailed sex dreams about you and another male, then that probably means he wants to see some actions. o_o
2. If your ex bf is hurting because of these dreams, however, it means that he's insecure and getting the taste of his own medicine. :D
Dreams don't foretell anything. They're just tellings of insecurity.
... wait.
he cheated on you, and you still talk to him? :S
Yes. Dreams are our unconscious way of telling us there is something wrong that needs to be addressed.
As far as the dream thing goes, you were probably already paranoid about the two of them, thus it entered into your subconscious and came out in the dreams. In his case, he's likely just remembering how he cheated and projecting that onto you.
What's more interesting to me in this post is why it matters. He's your ex. You can't cheat on him. And all the SO stuff at the end doesn't make sense either. He's not your SO. He's an ex-SO.
Really, the larger issue here is you two need to get back together or stop talking and caring about his sex dreams.
I don't think dreams foretell the future, but I DO think that they show concerns that he might not even know he has. These dreams are probably just a way for your brain to tell you.. I'm a little worried about this happening. It doesn't mean it will happen... but it's definitely an issue you guys should address..
@scrapbook_romance - agree agree!!!