On the brink of a fun-filled holiday weekend, I asked my boyfriend what he wanted to do when it came to celebrating the 4th of July. Naturally, we agreed on taking part in the fireworks and various festivities; however, when I asked him for his insight on all of the specific details, he drew a blank.
I don't know about you, but I am
always the one who makes the plans, pays attention to detail, and ensures that our night go relatively smoothly. Sure, I'm all about "going with the flow" to have a good time, but it was just last week that I thought to call ahead, only to find out that the restaurant was closed for the night. There are many other instances where we run into problems due to inadequate planning, therefore I make it a neurotic point to keep all of our plans in check.
Come on, I know one of you looks up the movie times and makes the dinner reservations. Is it you or your SO who makes the plans in your relationship?
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Both of us. It's actually pretty even most of the time.
well when i had an so we shared it the plans.
We both make plans whenever we do. It's a compromise. We stick to our strengths. He makes sure we have everything we need, like money, the right clothes, directions to where we're going, while I make sure we're not doing something too randomly and out of impulse, like making sure a place isn't too far away, checking times if we need to, and making sure we have a back-up plan just in case something goes wrong.
Usually, though, we don't plan things that much. We preffer to just up and do things. If we have money and want to see a big new movie we'll just up and go to the theater and see whatever's playing when we get there. If that doesn't work, we'll go to a nearby store and browse, even if we don't buy anything.
Hm... dunno. I just follow through 98% of the time.
What good is a plan that isn't followed through with? *tsk tsk*
We do it together. Every time.
usually we just go with the flow. but if it's an important night or we want to watch a movie, i usually make the plans. lol
I make the plans. I'm the more social one.
Both my SO and myself are pretty even in our indecisiveness, but since we haven't really had the chance to really go on a nice "date" it hasn't been too much of a bother. However, I've got a feeling that once we have more time to spend time with each other, we'll both end up melding our plans together as we go.
Honestly, this is the kind of relationship I enjoy; we both contribute as much and as equally as we are able. :þ
Both.
xo
*points to self*
Me. Mostly me.
I usually have to make the plans... because I can't get him to.
I tend to have the typical style of relationship where the female (me) begs to do something but can never come up with a plan on my own thus leaving the plan-making up the the male.
I'm better at planning friendly outings. Like I know how to make group beach visits and get all my friends together for lunch and a movie. All that jazz. I'm horrible at planning dates.
....me.........
My bf and I both make plans. He's in charge whenever I visit him in his hometown while I make all the plans when he comes visit me. However, we hardly ever follow through most of the plans that I make since my family is strict and doesn't like it when my bf and I go out. Also, he's much more meticulous than I am. =)
We both do really, though I'm the more "neurotic" one... but I don't mind. It's just a part of our personalities. It meshes pretty well :)
yeah, and yup!
He comes up with the general concept, I come up with the details. AKA he says "let's do dinner and a movie" so I pick Steak'n'Shake on the way to go see "The Propsal" at 10. Otherwise he'd just keep tubing or gaming and say "well you never said with anything!" lol.
Neither of us go with details. We both decide what we want to do, and then we do it...if it doesn't work out, we do something else. My fiancé and I have never been ones for reservations or small things, either. It's pretty much all spontaneity, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
My boyfriend always says "it's up to you. I don't care." -___- So I make most of the decisions. As for plans, we usually go with the flow.
But there are some instances where he'll plan ... if it's somewhere he really wants to go.
Im the planner, unfortunately. lol. he did some planning though, like if its something special for me or w/e, he did it.
both. but generally he's the leader like 40:60 ratio.
sometimes it just really depends on what that certain plan or thing is. most of the times i am the one that makes sure the whole plan works out smoothly because i always like to think ahead. i have this habit of always making sure i'm five steps ahead of everything just in case something doesn't go as expected. if something were to happen unexpectedly if we went with the flow, it seems as though we would be in a state of panic. i'm a planner and always have been and he's grown used to that after being with me for the last six years. my boyfriend on the other hand helps in making the decisions and plans...he's just not that great at planning and thinking about the what ifs in life. but then again, he's grown on me a little as well. so sometimes we do it his way: spontaneously. so i guess i'd have to say it would be a little of both but most of the time, i do feel as though its me.
the planning has always been me and then he usually gets the last word on just about everything unless my mind is already made up, then i just drag him along.
I do. But we usually end up doing the same things in different orders.
I used to make all of the plans. Then as our relationship progressed, we both decided together what to do, especially if we knew there were no group plans for the weekend (we both refuse to just sit at home and do the same thing on fridays and saturdays, so we at least find things to do those nights). Now we run into problems because we will both make plans with our own friends (like we will go to so-and-so's house for drinks) and then our seperate plans conflict. usually we compromise though, so it's no problem. i'm glad that he helps make our plans now though, because that initial pressure was rough and i always felt like a bit of a failure if i couldn't come up with something fun to do.