Meeting Guys: How, When, and Where?

Wednesday, 08 July 2009

Meeting Guys: How, When, and Where?
Miss Antelope

Alrighty, here's a question all women have been and are still trying to figure out: Where is the best place to meet men? My friends and I always discuss this and we have yet to find a final answer, if there is one at all. We discussed places such as gyms, coffee shops, bars, clubs, bookstores and jobs. All have potential, but what actually works best? I came across this website that suggested the following four tactics:

1) Free websites such as: Downtoearth.com, Craigslist.com, PlentyofFish.com, OkCupid.com, and IntellectConnect.com

2) Have your friends play matchmaker.

3) Bookstores and coffee shops that let you hang around.

4) Work a part-time job where you can work among dudes.

Do you agree with this matchmaking tips? Do you know any secrets to meeting guys you want to spill?

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Depends on the type of person you are looking for. If you like biker dudes hang around a bike shop. If you like nerds go to a video game store. Indie guys; Coffee shops.
If you just want to meet someone who has good references ask some friends.
So I guess I do agree with the tips
- 7/8/2009 2:11 PM
- GiantUnicorn@xanga (message)
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4 sounds like the biggest waste of time and effort haha
- 7/8/2009 2:16 PM
- atmaster@xanga (message)
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I'm going to have to agree with atmaster and say you're going to have to be full of sheer desperadoes to do number 4 for the benefit of finding a man.
- 7/8/2009 2:25 PM
- TheSecretLifeOfPandas@xanga (message)
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Coffee shops are good. Come by a certain tennis club and I know at least one guy you could meet there *cough*
- 7/8/2009 2:25 PM
- Roadlesstaken@xanga (message)
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Dog parks come to mind...
- 7/8/2009 2:50 PM
- LonerB@xanga (message)
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work-release programs
- 7/8/2009 2:58 PM
- Theophilus166@xanga (message)
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Depending how you're in your career, social networking events can be a relatively decent place to meet new people; guy or girl. It's casual and most people show up in business attire or business casual, so you know they look good in a suit (wink) and it's often set in a time frame that depends on "after work drinks" so it's a bit chill. I've met my ex at one of these and I had to really think about whether I was going to WORK with him or DATE him. Couldn't do both, that would NOT ethical... lol

Friends of friends are good, my current boyfriend and I met at a wine bar through a friend. Of course, due to my bf's insistent disclaimer about being "shy" I did ALL the work; track his ass down, ask him out for the first two dates while he weighed the options of attraction and interest with me, and I was quite assertive in my role. Anyways, that how I'd recommend but don't let your friends be match makers for you... THEY THINK they know what you mean when you say "MY TYPE" but usually, I find that they (your friends) often misdiagnose what your type IS. :) Group setting meetings are better and when it's not a "nudge nudge, hint hint" of a "blind" meeting.
- 7/8/2009 2:58 PM
- kor_girl@xanga (message)
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During the summer around here, there are usually a lot of guys out at the lakes on their jet-skis and boats.. that would be another way, possibly? The job thing can be kind of iffy. I'm not sure if you mean working with other guys or a place where a bunch of guys come in. I see a bunch of good looking guys at my job when they come in but because I have to wear a uniform, many people think that I am still in high school. Therefore, most of those cute guys don't even bother!
- 7/8/2009 3:03 PM
- fiery_redhead (message)
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i have met several women at the health food store or just the food store in general. book stores have been good too.
- 7/8/2009 3:11 PM
- buddy71@xanga (message)
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Your best bet is through friends. I dunno why but if I introduce a guy to my family I don't wanna say I met them at some jankie ass bar.
And at school/college, it just depends on what school/college u go to.
- 7/8/2009 3:28 PM
- Jess
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friends of friends, networking. Like computer geeks? Hang out at a computer store and pretend to be a helpless clueless computer user :)
- 7/8/2009 4:18 PM
- sorjai@xanga (message)
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Thru friends is the best...stay away from craig's list.
- 7/8/2009 4:36 PM
- GaMeGurLsH@xanga (message)
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Reality sucks

You could always just meet them on xanga! =]
- 7/8/2009 5:28 PM
- JeRtle@xanga (message)
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the hot lifeguard at the beach hanging around the fire station to meet sexy firefighters lol I don't want to meet geeks at coffee shops or bookstores
- 7/8/2009 6:38 PM
- alice
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I guess not even girls find it hard to get to know the dudes that are potentially serious, the guys also find it hard. Good people always seem to be hiding, what we can always see are playboys and sluts.

Just go out to new places and do more new stuff, get to know new people.
@atmaster@xanga - I think (4) is the most economical, if you fail to meet new guys, you can still get your paid, at least you not paying anything for it :)
- 7/8/2009 8:07 PM
- kawcha@xanga (message)
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see thats the beauty of love. you never know when youll find it and itll creep up on you when you least expect it. if you fo searching for it at "hotspots" youll never find love...but when you have finally let down your guard and are walking around a bookstore (or wherever least expected) a mr right will enter your life....and youll have a happy ending. :)

at least thats how its happened for me...just let things fall into place themselves and everything turns out alright.
- 7/8/2009 9:27 PM
- kieri126@xanga (message)
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you never know, they could be anywhere. like outside your window... waiting... watching... :P
- 7/8/2009 10:19 PM
- nolan_kun@xanga (message)
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ummm not really. get out more often.. if you're old enough, go to a club or a bar or whatever. Go out with your friends.. let them introduce you to their MALE or female friends.
- 7/8/2009 10:35 PM
- aiinos@xanga (message)
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something that's always worked for me? doing absolutly nothing...yeah for some reason when i'm actually not looking for a guy is when i wind up meeting one. when i'm out searching thats when i come back empty handed. go figure, right?
- 7/9/2009 12:27 AM
- xo_smileforme_ox@xanga (message)
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Everywhere is possible.
- 7/9/2009 5:08 AM
- vyncci@xanga (message)
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@GiantUnicorn@xanga -
If you want a geek, hang around a video store. However, if you want a nerd, hang around physics, chemistry, and engineering labs. Especually the ones that have a graduate school. Plenty of nerds there.
- 7/9/2009 10:28 AM
- IronfistXI@xanga (message)
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@vyncci@xanga - I agree.
- 7/9/2009 2:01 PM
- SupperMick@xanga (message)
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i met this new guy thru my cousin & this guy shes tlaking to. im close to both of 'em & the guy i met is the brother of the other guy . haha. wel, i knew of him before. buht we were never offically introduced until now. & im shure he did too, since my cousin asked him if i was cute. TWICE! haha anyways
THE BEST WAY TO FIND GUYS IS TO NOT LOOK FOR THEM! >:[
- 7/9/2009 6:43 PM
- xkhmerbby@xanga (message)
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The Apple store. A Datingish writer even posted a weblog entry about this some time ago. I'm not even kidding--I got hit on right off the bat at the Apple store and all I was trying to do was buy a new Ipod. Also, I'm pretty ordinary-looking, so hey, not only are they cute, smart, and just geeky enough to be endearing, they ALSO HAVE LOW STANDARDS!
Ironically enough, I haven't gone back since... Hm...
- 7/9/2009 10:27 PM
- the_bonsai_tree@xanga (message)
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GO TO FUCKING GRAD SCHOOL. it's a total sausagefest, you can't go wrong. everybody wins!

alternatively, you can feel free to drop by my place...
- 7/9/2009 11:02 PM
- TheNotoriousGOD@xanga (message)
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