Tuesday, 07 July 2009

  • I'm The Only GF Without A Promise Ring

      

    Not just any ring.... but a Promise Ring. A ring that says, "I love you and I promise to always love you." Even if you're in a really good relationship... isn't nice to have that little symbol on your finger so you can show if off to your friends, or show it off to the haters so they know not to mess with you.

    I really want one. But I don't want to get it just because it's something I want. I want it to be given to me because the gift giver really wants me to have it. Do you get it?

    I've tried dropping hints. Like singing "if you liked it then you should've put a ring on it..." every so often. Or even going to Wal-Mart and being like, "oh look, let's try on rings. Oh, look, I think I'm a size 5." But that didn't work.

    So tonight I found out that yet another one of my friends got a promise ring. I was kind of sad because I was hoping to get one for my birthday or even our anniversary. But nope. So I kind of blurted it out without thinking, "Did you know ____ got a promise ring? I'm like the only girlfriend without one. So sad."

    I know what he's thinking now. He's thinking he's gotta buy me one too so I'm not the only one without one. And that's the reason he's going to buy it, because I want one. I wanted him to get me one because he wanted to. So now when he does give it to me, I don't think I even want it anymore. Because I won't be receiving it for the right reasons.

    So basically, if I accept it, I'm gonna feel stupid because it's gonna be quite a meaningless object. But I'll also feel stupid for rejecting it, because I told him that I wanted one.

    Stupid huh.

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Comments (511)

  • makemethin_x3@xanga

    @JordanneElizabeth@xanga - haha, i 100% agree :]
  • coconut_dream@xanga

    Looks like we can`t have our cake and eat it too.
    At least you have a boyfriend, which many girls out there would like.
    And what were you planning on doing with the ring if it didn`t work out? Take it to the jeweler`s for cash back?
  • softaswater@xanga

    youre an idiot. a promise ring seriously? are you in third grade or the fifties?
  • alamodest@revelife

    Although I got one myself, I think promise rings are just an excuse to spend money. Promise rings are just a visual representation of your relationship, which you can exchange for other types of jewelry, a teddy bear, a kiss, etc. Whatever the object/act is, it has to have that meaning of commitment embedded to it. The next ring is an engagement ring, which promises that you will marry, then the wedding, which makes the bond legal.


    I think you should be happy that your relationship isn't (or shouldn't) revolve around material things. I had a guy once who bought me so much stuff, but I ended up dumping him and marrying the guy that didn't give me much material things but lots of quality time! You're worth so much more than jewelry. It's just knowing your priorities... and knowing the guy that you're with is someone you'd want to eventually marry.


    It won't hurt to ask him for a promise ring cutely! :)
  • KciAmelia@xanga

    If he loves you and you love him you shouldn't need a ring to show off. Being with someone isn't about showing off or showing up your friends, it's about eachother and the love you two share. I understand how you feel, believe me I do, but do you really need a promise ring so you know he loves you? Be thankful enough to have someone and unless you are wanting an engagement ring.. get over it.
  • iam_samarie@xanga

    Well you've gotten a lot of negative comments on this, so I'm going to say something nice, lol. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years [in september]. We've gone through a lot! And this year I said I wanted a ring. I told him it didn't even need to be a promise ring or an engagement ring, just a ring. That was four months ago, and this past weekend for my birthday he got me a promise ring :) I'm happy about it. He had me show him all these rings like I liked so he could get an idea of what to get me because he wanted to get me something we would both like. I realize that rings aren't MUST HAVE and that it doesn't really prove his love; but it's a nice gesture. I wouldn't have loved him any less, and I wouldn't have been upset if I didn't get a ring. I don't think it makes you selfish to want a ring. I'm thankful for Zac, and having my promise ring just lets me show off what a great guy I have<3 hehe.
  • ourdystopia@xanga

    He wouldn't be with you if he didn't like/love you.  Your emotional connection with him should reign over your desire for materialistic symbols.  Bearing him as your boyfriend in the public eye should mean ten times more than any ring could communicate.  In fact, when and if I get married, I want to opt out of buying rings.  I find it silly that love is supposed to be "eternally locked" in diamonds/gold.  It's absurd. 


    Even though I understand and sympathize with your feelings, I'm really shocked you had the nerve to ask someone to spend that kind of money on you.  Rings like that aren't necessarily cheap.  Instead of buying you a promise ring, what you should really be asking him for is verification that he loves you.  That way if anyone ever wanted to boast about their so-called promise rings, you can always brag about how you and your boyfriend have an other-wordly bond that they are too brainwashed into today's material world to understand.
  • Ghosts_of_Angels@xanga

    A promise ring is just an object people use to make it seem like their fleeting highschool relationships are meaningful. And even if he gave it to you without you dropping all of your hints...he's probably only doing it so you'll think he "loves" you and you  won't realize he's actually a douchebag...as most highschool guys are. Seriously, if you have to get or give a promise ring to legitimize your relationship...chances are it's a shitty relationship to begin with.
  • KatrinaReads@xanga

    Yeah, you kinda messed that one up. It's always better to have a sincere, honest, heart-to heart talk about something instead of just hinting around and then getting exasperated when the guy doesn't catch on.

    It would be much better if you had just told him that you would really appreciate a promise ring and that it would mean so much to you.
  • oshun

    okay so i kinda get you. i wanted one also.....i still do but i want him to give me one  because he love me. my boyfriend never heard of a promise ring before well he heard promise ring by tiffany evans but he didnt think none of it. what im saying is you going to get your boyfriend thinking you just want him to buy you stuff but not for the love.{kinda like a golddigger} but i no from being where you at now you not you just want one. its nice to have somthing on your finger showing the one you in love with and love bought you something so speacil..and plus i love rings! talk to him and tell him how you feel instead of pressing him. :) gud luck!!!-oshun
  • f1yboO@xanga

    make sure its a Tiffany's!  haha

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