Oh wow, I completely understand where you're coming from. *hugs* I've had pretty much the same issue with my boyfriend, wanting that little symbol of committment and trying to drop hints so its not just me asking for it, except he even says to my mom/friends/coworkers that he's gonna get me a ring and then when time passes they all start asking and I'm like "nope, nothing yet.." 

@QuantumStorm@xanga - I don't need one. I'd like one. There's a difference. I'm not going to dump him if I don't get one (obviously, else I'd've already done so), it'd just be a nice bit of reassurance at times. 

You're 19, right?  Why would you want something so typically high school as a promise ring?  I was married at 19.

@jeezshoua@xanga - ice cream, a girls true best friend ! well that and chocolate, and "the notebook"

my boyfriend and i have been together for six years now and he hasn't purchased me a promise ring and the thought that i never had one has never upset me. i'm not going to be like the rest and yell at you for your actions and reasons for it but i do want you to realize that not every girl on this planet gets a promise ring. i've had friends who had a promise ring just to show it off to the world that they had one and the next day, it was no big deal and she ended up wearing it like it was a piece of everyday jewlery than a promise ring. she would just wear it about once a week because the big hype over her ring didn't last as long as she thought it would. most of the girls that did get a promise ring basically told their boyfriends that they wanted one though (don't be fooled into thinking they guys just spontaneously bought it). if you have a great relationship, focus on that instead. be happy that you have a loving/committed relationship...if you keep pressuring him, sooner or later he might get the hint that you are moving too fast for his pace and then you might be left alone all because you wanted a piece of jewelry to wear around your finger. in my opinion, wait for the real thing; the engagement ring. thats the ring that counts...the ring that every girl wishes for; not the promise ring. if anything, the promise ring was a hoax to begin with that companies created just to make more money from people each year. be glad that you don't have to symbolize your relationship with a piece of metal like everyone elses; that fact that you don't means so much more.

@QuantumStorm@xanga - Thanks, that makes me feel a little more sane. Having lived together for years and now having to move across the state without him, it'd just be a nice thing to look at once in awhile to remind myself of everything. Carrying around a photo makes me looks insane lol. 

Honey, I'm going to tell you this: promise rings don't mean shit.

I know how bitter this is going to make me sound, but promises are just words. Rings can be representation of those words, but that doesn't have anything to do with the intent to keep them or make them true. How do I know this? Because I got a promise ring once. He said he knew I was the one. He said he wanted to marry me. He asked me to please take this ring as a promise that he would one day (when he was ready to make that level of commitment) replace it with another important, significant ring that would eventually be replaced with yet another ring.

He did all of that, sure. He even promised to love me forever before God and our families and friends. Guess what? He didn't. His promises were empty, meaningless, hurtful lies that he told himself and me. Now, after nine months of marriage and five years together total? Divorce is on the horizon and I'm a single mother to a three month old little girl that we paid $9,000 to create because turns out he didn't really want to marry me, he didn't really love me, he doesn't want to be with me.

I still have his promise ring, would you like it?  I'll mail it to you. It's real nice.

my boyfriend gave me one, but then we were just like what the hell, let's just be engaged. so now we are<3

Promise rings are for people who can't afford engagement rings, or are kidding themselves about what is really going on. I remember when promise rings meant "I promise I"m going to marry you, I can't buy the diamond ring now so here's what I can give you, a silver ring and my heart, and the second I can get it to you its yours" yet somehow since then the promise of a promise ring has faded, its become a cheap way for guys to make girls think they're in it for the long run. That $10 ring is just going to turn your finger green anyway.

aw i know how you feel. but know that a ring doesn't really mean that much. i was with my ex for almost four years and he got me a promise ring after about two and a half years. it was about 500 dollars, which is a lot for him. i loved it, i thought it was the cutest thing he could do and i was so excited to know that he took our relationship seriously. well, obviously thats not the case. he didn't keep his promise. and it's definitely not any easier with the ring involved. it just makes me think that since he got me the ring, this wasn't supposed to happen. what i'm saying is that it's so much more important to appreciate the person your with, than to worry about a ring. all that matters is that the love is actually there.

If he's still with you, then he obviously has some commitment to you. You don't need a ring to prove that. Don't base your happiness on other people's relationships.

Um, if you want one so badly, why couldn't you just as your boyfriend to get you one. Me and my boyfriend (we've been together for 2.5 years and counting) talked about getting them (as a promise to stay together), and we'll get them when the time is right...although it will very likely turn into engagement rings--even better!

By the way, getting a promise ring doesn't mean that your boyfriend promises to love you forever and ever and ever. It's whatever you make the promise to be. I think you're taking this a bit extreme...you sound so materialistic. Isn't it enough that your boyfriend loves you?