Tuesday, 07 July 2009
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I'm The Only GF Without A Promise Ring
Not just any ring.... but a Promise Ring. A ring that says, "I love you and I promise to always love you." Even if you're in a really good relationship... isn't nice to have that little symbol on your finger so you can show if off to your friends, or show it off to the haters so they know not to mess with you.
I really want one. But I don't want to get it just because it's something I want. I want it to be given to me because the gift giver really wants me to have it. Do you get it?
I've tried dropping hints. Like singing "if you liked it then you should've put a ring on it..." every so often. Or even going to Wal-Mart and being like, "oh look, let's try on rings. Oh, look, I think I'm a size 5." But that didn't work.
So tonight I found out that yet another one of my friends got a promise ring. I was kind of sad because I was hoping to get one for my birthday or even our anniversary. But nope. So I kind of blurted it out without thinking, "Did you know ____ got a promise ring? I'm like the only girlfriend without one. So sad."
I know what he's thinking now. He's thinking he's gotta buy me one too so I'm not the only one without one. And that's the reason he's going to buy it, because I want one. I wanted him to get me one because he wanted to. So now when he does give it to me, I don't think I even want it anymore. Because I won't be receiving it for the right reasons.
So basically, if I accept it, I'm gonna feel stupid because it's gonna be quite a meaningless object. But I'll also feel stupid for rejecting it, because I told him that I wanted one.
Stupid huh.
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All I can think of this is, Spoiled!
Get over yourself...
Why the hell would you want a promise ring? It's like a damn consolation prize for not being engaged.
@GiantUnicorn@xanga - +1
Boo frickin' hoo.
Let's whine about how spoiled we are and take the people we love for granted.
God damn.
So why exactly do you want a promise ring? cuz everyone else has one? cuz your need you boyfriend to give you jewlery to prove his love to you? to everyone else? uhh ok... i can see where that relationship is going.... dooown the drain.
in my opinion i dont even know what the point of a promise ring is. all my friends had a promise ring back in the day, but i never got one from my bf. then my bf and i ended up breaking up. and all my friends that got promise rings eventually ended up breaking up too. so much for that, huh?
it doenst really sound like you want one for any reason other than the fact that everyone else has one and you're jealous. and you say you want your guy to get you a ring cuz he wants to, yet you put all that pressure on him with those hints... and then basically ask him for one. hmm yeah sure...
little do you know if you keep pressuring him he's going to take off running and be half way across the country before you even realize what happened.
I got a "promise" ring one time....and then i left him.
Let things just happen!
I don't have one yet either from my current bf and I'd rather wait for the engagement ring!
Honestly... I think promise rings are ridiculous. What is the point? Can't you people just chill out and wait till you're engaged to get a ring? Geesh.
meh, I got an engagement ring and that didn't mean shit... we ended up breaking up the engagement.
you don't need a ring to remember that he loves you or you love him.
its just a ring.
Hey, for the longest time I was the only girl that had never gotten flowers for Valentines Day. Yeah, it sucked, but I wasn't going to be so shallow as to think I had to get some just because everyone around me did. It still mattered to me a little, though, so I told my current boyfriend this past V-Day and he drew me a rose. Just for me. He didn't get me a real flower and I couldn't exactly show it off to anyone because I didn't have anyone to show it off to. And, yeah, he didn't give it to me of his own accord but because of the fact I wanted it. But the fact that he cared enough to give me something I wanted still meant something. Who needs a ring or flowers when you've got something that no one else does, someone that cares about you enough to care more about you than showing his claim over you with some stupid little token of affection.
People have a tendancy to dissapoint if you want something specific. Try not to have your expectations so high. He cared enough to want to get it for you at all, right?
this is pretty materialistic lol, do you need a physical symbol to show that he'll "promise" to love you forever?
oh my lol we have almost the same personality.
"I wanted him to get me one because he wanted to. So now when he does give it to me, I don't think I even want it anymore. Because I won't be receiving it for the right reasons. "
but we're not even in that stage yet lol....
You should not be wanting a promise ring just so you can show off to your friends and tick off your haters. Come on--you probably don't have one because your significant other can see how immature you are. Please, don't make him feel guilty just because all your other girlfriends have promise rings! Watch as about half of those relationships fall apart and those rings are gotten rid of.
Having a promise ring doesn't mean you love each other more than if you didn't have them. As my sarcastic teacher put it, "A promise ring means you promise to stay together until someone better comes along." It's hard not to, but try not to quantify your love and relationship with your boyfriend by infusing so much meaning into a small ring.
My first initiate thought of this post and you was, Grow Up.
I'm sorry to burst your bubble but even if he gives you a promise ring, it don't mean that he loves you more than he does (if) or that your relationship will last till death due us part. I mean, look around. Even a couple who made a promise for better or for worst and till death due us part in front of hundreds, thousands of people end up going their separate ways at the end. A ring cannot keep you two forever or make you two stronger. It goes way beyond than that.
Tell your boyfriend to save his money and buy you ice cream instead.
I got my boyfriend a promise ring months ago, and we've been together for year and 3 months. He still hasnt gotten me one when it was his idea to get them in the first place. It kind of does put me down, but i don't just want one because all my other friends have one. (and they all do, even though they've only been dating for a couple months and have only seen each other 1 time in person....blah!) Anyways- I'm not going to whine to him that I want one. If he wants to get me one, he will. When the time's right, he'll get you one, don't worry :)
a promise ring doesn't mean your friends are loved more or their boyfriends plan to be with them forever. it's a promise, but we all know how promises can be broken.
xo.
promises are for those who don't instinctively trust.
@xDark_horizonx@xanga - Not true at all.
Peer pressure makes your head hurt.
things will happen, if they are meant to.yes, it is stupid. the concept of a "promise ring" is inane because if i have love i don't need "that little symbol on [my] finger so [i ]can show if off to [my] friends, or show it off to the haters so they know not to mess with [me]." (haters? really?) i don't even need a wedding ring.
but what's more pathetic is wanting one because all your friends have one.
i dont have any promise ring too. but i dont mind. i know he loves me. just stop whining about such a small thing. the reason you are with him because u just want to have a promise ring so that you can show off to ur friends? wtf??
Just for the record, I believe the picture above is of a purity ring, not a promise ring...different promise implied (purity ring = no sex before marriage, promise ring = ...you might get engaged one day...maybe?).
I think you're freaking out over nothing. I posted a couple of months ago about a friend of mine who spent hundreds of dollars buying his girlfriend a promise ring, (which she actually chose not to wear). And guess what? Despite the fact that they discussed a wedding timeline and even went to my parents for "pre-engagement counseling", they are not together anymore.
Put your trust in your boyfriend, not in your jewelry.
@iseetheworldinhiseyes19@xanga - Truth is a matter of opinion.
Promise rings are pretty pointless, according to me. I mean, a promise ring, an engagement ring AND THEN a wedding ring? Too many rings, not enough ring fingers! lol.
But on a slightly more serious note: if you know your boyfriend loves you & you love him, then that should be just enough; more than enough.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Not that long at all, but we love each other a lot. I alwaaays joke around about promise rings, engagement rings & wedding rings. We'll be walking by a jewellery store and I'll turn to him and be like "Omgosh, I know! You walked me by here to propose!!" But of course I'm joking. Firstly, it's too early to commit, and secondly who needs a ring at this point in our relationship? I did want one at one point but I've come to realize that it's just a simple little ring. I can wait til an engagement/wedding.
:)
And just cuz your friends have it, it doesn't mean their relationship or their boyfriends love them any more than yours does. :) It's just an object.
I have to say that if you really want a ring, you should just buy it yourself. Maybe your boyfriend isn't the type of person who buys rings for his girlfriend. Just be thankful you have him.