Monday, 06 July 2009
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WYD Someone Who Didn't Speak Your Native Language?
It is very common these days for people to know more than one language due to graduation requirements at various schools, cultural/family backgrounds, and for the sake of discovering an entirely new culture different from your own.
Could you see yourself dating somebody who didn't speak your native language?
Could you see yourself learning his/her native language (assuming you don't already know it), and conversing with your SO mostly/entirely in that language?
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If I didn't know their language already, it would be very difficult; I'd probably get a friend to interpret everything at first. The only other language I can speak is Japanese, so if I can get through that it's fine :)
met. married. learnt german. Life is still going great.
It was never about the language for me, it was about the person. He learnt better english by talking with me....and I learnt german through a 1 1/2 year intensive course. Languages are not my forte.
I would not change a second. Ever.
One of my teachers said that around 60% of communication is body language, over 35% is how you say your stuff and the rest is what you say. I mostly agree with the that.
But I can't help but feel cynical about people making relationships with people that don't speak their language. Don't throw me the whole love argument here because most people say that communication is key in the relationship. Most of our communications now seems to be without body language via telephone, text, etc.
omg I'm trailing off here... need sleep lol
Yes and I am.
But the thing that I'm worried about are my parents: they don't speak english that well so communication is going to be difficult.
already dating someone who doesn't speak Cantonese my native language....and I don't speak Dutch either, so we have to communicate in English (and sometimes German). But guess we will have to learn each other's mother tongue soon :p
Of course =), I'd love to learn a new language!
yeah i guess
No. I probably wouldn't unless I just find her that attractive in the physical department as well as the personality department. I don't think I've ever met someone like some of the stories I've just read by people's comments where two people who do not know each person's language--at all--and hit it off, then some months down the line decided to get married. I find those stories too improbable and far-fetched.
I speak Cantonese and if my girlfriend or gf-to be doesn't know the language AND the culture, it's a no-go for me. That's the deal-breaker. My last two gf's were both Chinese and spoke Cantonese and they both knew our culture fairly well, which makes dating that much more easier because you have so much in common to begin with. After all, you need common ground to start a conversation. Otherwise, it'll never go anywhere beyond the superficial answers or at least, that's what I believe.
Worst case scenario, if she can't speak my native tongue, then at least broken English.
I think it would be fun :)
I love accents and I love languages so it'd be an adventure for me
I don't think I'd date anyone who didn't have some proficiency in one of the languages that I'm able to converse in. However, should that shared language not be her native language, I would become conversationally fluent in hers in order to be able to communicate with her family.
I would also not have a relationship with anyone not able to speak or not willing to learn Corean, as to be able to speak with my parents and extended relatives.
If my significant other and I couldn't speak... we wouldn't be dating. How do you fall in love with someone who you can't talk to?
However, if I was bilingual, it wouldn't be a problem, just as long as if we moved to America, he learned English so he wouldn't be one of "those" people who can't assimilate. I HATE that. If you move to a country, you learn the language that most people there speak. Period.
wait. i speak english and chinese. if my bf knew englighs, we can communicate. but if we didn't have a common tongue, then i would say no.
i dated a caucasian and it was hard for him to not understand chinese because my parents speak broken english. i would love to date someone who can communicate with my parents fluently. i think that would foster stronger bonds and mkaes thigns easier for everyone
I wouldn't mind.
I'm Korean, but I can barely speak it. My boyfriend on the other hand, can speak Chinese. :D
My boyfriend is white/Mexican and I've very recently been speaking Vietnamese around him so I'd like to think he's learning some things. The only reason why I wouldn't like to date someone who didn't speak my native language is because my mom's kind of a dick and doesn't approve of anyone that's NOT Vietnamese and would just speak in Vietnamese around him all the time just so he would KNOW that he's not welcomed. That's what she did to my white brother-in-law. But other than that, I don't care. :)
I'm trilingual, so I wouldn't mind it. If the guy spoke a language other than the ones I already know, I'll try to learn it. :)
I kinda think it's a little romantic to be able to talk with your SO, and nobody can understand what you're saying but the two of you. I'd be open to dating someone who spoke another language, as long as they were willing to try to learn mine while I try to learn theirs.
i don't see a problem dating someone who didn't speak my native language as long as their english is good. i've always dated caucasian, korean, viet and chinese men who didn't speak my native language and the relationships were great even though they didn't last. i've always thought it to be that if you both can understand and speak a universal language like english then anything can happen.
yes, the guy I'm dating right now is bilingual though so he speaks both french and english fluently. i think it's pretty neat and sexy :)
... why not?