WYD Someone Who Didn't Speak Your Native Language?

Monday, 06 July 2009

WYD Someone Who Didn't Speak Your Native Language?
It is very common these days for people to know more than one language due to graduation requirements at various schools, cultural/family backgrounds, and for the sake of discovering an entirely new culture different from your own.

Could you see yourself dating somebody who didn't speak your native language?
Could you see yourself learning his/her native language (assuming you don't already know it), and conversing with your SO mostly/entirely in that language?

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I can see myself dating someone who didnt speak my native language.. and though it would be hard, I would be willing to learn his language.
- 7/6/2009 12:07 PM
- aiinos@xanga (message)
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Yes I would! my ex gf is from Hong Kong and spoke Cantonese..I wanted to learn her language as she tried to learn mine...
- 7/6/2009 12:07 PM
- NiDH0GG@xanga (message)
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maybe. i would kind of want them to communicate with my mother and father who don't speak english.
- 7/6/2009 12:08 PM
- shaggyglasses@xanga (message)
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Yes, even though it would be a little harder.
- 7/6/2009 12:11 PM
- decembriel@xanga (message)
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I have completely sworn off dating... but in the past I have dated a few guys who had English as a second language.
- 7/6/2009 12:17 PM
- echois23@xanga (message)
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I wouldn't mind at all... but that may require some time
- 7/6/2009 12:20 PM
- jeimusu@xanga (message)
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I don't know.

I'd need him to comunicate with my parents somehow. My family. Now my culture. :/
- 7/6/2009 12:22 PM
- milubbles@xanga (message)
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I've actually never dated anyone that spoke my native language. It just never came to be that way. LOL My current boyfriend is Chinese and I'm Laotian. My ex was Japanese. My ex before that was Caucausian. And so forth....(I could go on). I've never had a problem, really. And I learned some new words along the way.
- 7/6/2009 12:23 PM
- mysteriousromantic@xanga (message)
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my bf and I both cant speak the native language of each other.
He's an Italian n Spanish mix and I'm a Chinese
but since we both speak fluent English it's totally cool:)
but of course, we both want to learn the native language of each other to make it easier to communicate with each other's family:/
- 7/6/2009 12:32 PM
- Vivian_IDS@xanga (message)
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WEll if they didnt speak my native language but I could speak with them, sure. IT would definately be awkward at family reunions though.
- 7/6/2009 12:34 PM
- wolvenchic@xanga (message)
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If he doesn't speak my native language at ALL then I don't see how I could make that relationship work unless someone learns the other language.
I dated a Romanian for a few months but he had very good English since he'd been in Canada for about 6 years at that point in time. He tried to teach me some words and if we had lasted I really wanted to learn that language so I could talk to him in Romanian and I would of wanted our kids to learn it also but we didn't make it that far lol.
- 7/6/2009 12:34 PM
- kaybaby666@xanga (message)
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Unfortunately I actually like speaking to people I date so sorry, no go. I can deal with an accent or not-so-perfect-english but if they didn't speak it at all I dont know how it would work.
I would love to learn a new language! It would be so fun and so romantic. ♥
I would enjoy teaching them Spanish.
- 7/6/2009 12:45 PM
- MangoWOW@xanga (message)
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It would be hard- but I would be able to do it. I guess I've been teaching english so much, but the people I teach learn really quickly so it would just be a matter of time :) I'm teaching my boyfriend Japanese because 2 languages is waaay better than one!
- 7/6/2009 12:49 PM
- joycemiles@xanga (message)
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i'm too selfish for that.
so no.
xo
- 7/6/2009 12:51 PM
- JessxMaxine@xanga (message)
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If they were really good at speaking English & knew another language, then probably. Especially if they knew Spanish.
- 7/6/2009 12:51 PM
- fiery_redhead (message)
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I used to want to date ONLY Koreans because I loved the feeling of having zero language barrier; switching to English from Korean whatever with ease was a luxury after the first korean bf. However, as long as ENGLISH is spoken fluently, I think that's all it matters. If the guy didn't speak ENGLISH (it was only our common language) then even if I do learn their language, we'd have issues in communications....
- 7/6/2009 12:57 PM
- kor_girl@xanga (message)
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haha. I don't know, I don't even speak my native language!
- 7/6/2009 1:15 PM
- naguyin@xanga (message)
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lol, i would try
- 7/6/2009 1:31 PM
- givemecoke@xanga (message)
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Im mexican and my bf is german
he is fluent on spanish and im triying to learn german :D
- 7/6/2009 1:38 PM
- utopiadeuncuerpoperfecto@xanga (message)
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i'm chinese, my boyfriend is white. he barely knows 5 words in cantonese. he wants to learn though :)
- 7/6/2009 2:14 PM
- ayeHEARTyoo@xanga (message)
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I totally would, but that's because I speak two languages already. If he didn't speak either of the languages I know...well, how would we communicate?
- 7/6/2009 2:22 PM
- LaBellaMorena (message)
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Yes; I'm trilingual and I love learning linguistics and new languages.
It would totally keep me interested in the relationship (the culture/language). I'm all for that, possibly bc of my own diverse background.
- 7/6/2009 2:26 PM
- imperfect_smash@xanga (message)
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i don't think I would if I wasn't at least proficient in their language or they in mine. Communication is important in dating.
- 7/6/2009 2:34 PM
- GaMeGurLsH@xanga (message)
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I would just teach them my native language
- 7/6/2009 2:46 PM
- WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga (message)
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of course!
- 7/6/2009 2:51 PM
- MissPixieGlitter@xanga (message)
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