Two of my friends from college (one was my roommate junior year!) are getting married. They are adorable; we were in the same section of our marching band together and I'd always catch him sneaking glances at her . . . and as of August 1, they'll be Mr. and Mrs. _________, which is crazy.
I looked through their registry and it was a lot of basic stuff that they'll probably need, like silverware and sheets and bowls, but I want to get them something special and I have no idea what.
So here are my questions:
-Is it worth asking her "what do you
really want"?
-How much do you spend on a wedding gift? I've known both of them for three years and, like I said, roomed with her for a year.
-What would you want if you were getting married in a month?
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Well to be honest I cant answer this question without knowing the people.
Personally, if I got married I'd rather people stick to what I asked for unless it was money OR something big and amazing (Like a paid cruise/trip/vacation) lol.
I'd actually want a really cute, unique mailbox. That, or a plain white mailbox with a paint set to go with it so I could paint it together with my husband, like Mr. Fredricksen did with his wife in the movie Up.
Get them a Gift Certificate for Home Sense or something. That way they can pick out their own stuff! Thats what I'd want.
You'd win me over if you bought a unique set of silverware... seriously. That or a car hahaha, just kidding.
If I was getting married in a month, I'd want a billion dollars.
you should stick to the wedding registry, even though it seems a bit informal... it's the only way you can guarantee they will like their gift. that's what a registry is for! otherwise, you risk getting them something that will never be used or returned for cash.
generally, the amount you spend on a gift is relative to how well you know them / how close you are to them. ie, i would spend about $100 on a friend; $50-75 for a coworker, and $200+ for my best friend. but, the amount you spend is entirely up to you and what you are comfortable with; wedding gifts are actually not required and its just a nice gesture!
ooh! You could get something on the registry, and then something special, like a tea set for two, or something you know what both of them like (like tickets to an amusment park or something). Or try to get something out of them, lol. Or the picture here- the teddy bears is always a great idea- or a build-a-bear wedding suit thing where they can put each other's voices, or your voice message to both of them :D
I can't believe so many people are getting married (and engaged! I know more than 10 couples that were engaged THIS YEAR and 8 of them haven't even been dating for a year yet, lol). I know 6 couples that are getting married this summer.... wooow. So far, I'm unable to attend any of the weddings though :-/
Honestly, having just gotten married myself, I'd say stick with the registry. Or call her and ask her if there's a specific thing she's really hoping to get from her registry. As far as how much to spend, it really depends on how much you can afford. Some people gave us $200, and some gave us $25. It all depends on what you can afford:)
Good luck!
-Katie
A friend of mine is getting married in August as well.... Instead of getting LITTLE items, a group of us are thinking of pooling money together and get them something BIG; a new fridge, a 42 inch tv, a really expensive vacuum cleaner, etc. But do stick with the registry, it's should be special when they realize it's from you, not because it's some pricey item. Write a note or something?
personally i think it a good idea to ask them what they really need.
get them something from the registry. That's what it's for. But write a really sweet note in the card.
Give them something from the registry and then some personal touch -- handmade card, sweet note, maybe even a small scrapbook.
@InTheThin@xanga - Sooooooooo cute
At the last wedding I attended, I wanted to make sure I got them something that was useful AND unique. I looked at the couple's wedding registry to get a sense of the patterns and styles that they liked and then went to etsy.com and had someone custom make a set of bowls (they asked for bowls in their registry) with their names and designed so that it would match the bedding other people were buying off their registry. It's a lot more work (I made sure the person making them was used to working in that style and provided sketches) but they loved them!
As a college student, wedding gift choices were pretty limited. I spent about $45 total with shipping, which I thought was a pretty acceptable amount. :) Only thing is I'd make sure to place the order a couple months early. Even doing that I only just barely got the gifts in time, since we ran into some problems with the firing. So worth the effort though!
Target gift card. :)
http://miniyou.ca/
^ Ha , those figurines are soo cute . :]
careful with that, because you might get something like a house, a car, a fridge, a home movie cinema as the answer... lol.
Dildo.
I just got married a year and a half ago, and I have to say... stick to the registry. I can't tell you how much useless crap I got because people wanted to be "different and original" The reason people make registries is because it's stuff they need... stuff they can actually use. So, I would go with either something from the registry, cash, or a gift card from the store(s) they are registered at.
Go with the registry
i'd say get a bigger part of the gift from the registry - just to make sure they get what they really need.
if you want to do something additional, like a little trinket from some place you used to hang out, or a tacky poster or something, that would be fun. or like some other people said, just customize housewares to their personal tastes.
i'm usually the craft-person, i'd probably hand paint coffee mugs or a cookie jar myself. but that just me
I am about to get married in four days...eep. Anyways, if you have a picture of the two of them in band together. Decorate a nice frame and have the picture enlarged to fit the frame. That way they can see themselves before they started going out and how much they have changed together. I know me and my fh would love that. One of my good friends is paying for my photographer if you have that kind of money. But really make something personal. Maybe a frame decorated with things from college days. Something unique for them.
send pictures of the band :)
@joycemiles@xanga - i like that idea. the build a bear with their voice message to each other. it'll give them a pleasant surprise :]