Friday, 03 July 2009

  • Big Boys Don't Cry

    Miss Gorilla    

    My boyfriend is a fairly masculine creature. He is the strong and protective type who usually comforts me when I break down. He is always supportive and understanding, a sure fire wiper of said girl tears when I am upset. However, lately I have seen a side of him that is much more sensitive and emotional. Don't get me wrong, I know that men have feelings too and I'm glad that he is secure enough to let me see him cry.

    Maybe it's the never-ending stereotype that men don't shed tears, but last night as my boyfriend sobbed in my arms, I felt more than a little weird about it. Of course I comforted him and offered him a wad of tissues when necessary. I love him regardless and I'd rather him be emotional than closed off. Still, I was definitely caught off guard. What do you think about men crying?

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Comments (47)

  • Roadlesstaken@xanga

    Men crying?  Oh that's just an old myth.
  • sozpa@xanga

    Everyone cries once in a while. So what if men cry, too? I'd comfort him and just be there for him as he is always there for me =) And plus... its a side we don't get to see often. They always see us crying or something, but when they cry... I kinda find it cute in a sad way. 
  • PenaltyLife@xanga

    My boyfriend cries when he's sad. It's that simple. I've seen him cry many times, and it's never weirded me out. I guess it's because he's a pretty feminine guy to begin with.

    On time he even sobbed violently and it was scary because he was so upset! But it's great knowing that he trusts me enough that he'd cry in front of me. I think for anybody, it takes some trust to cry in front of other people.
  • Mike_Malignant@xanga

    i havnt cried in at least 6 years but i have no emotions 
  • pansybradshaw@xanga

    i dont dayte guyz who dont cry  & if they dont i dam shur mayke em
  • patience_isnt

    I think men crying is normal, and when my boyfriend doesn't cry about something that should upset him, it kinda bugs me actually.

  • darkjim18@xanga

    depends on the guy really
  • AznFier@xanga

    Can't get Glad? Thinking about getting Sad? The real solution for all men is to get Mad.
  • KasumiCelesta@xanga

    I don't mind if they cry, or even sob enough for me to hold them in my arms if something bad happened. But if it's the drama queen "I-can't-believe-I-lost-to-that-skank-in-the-beauty-pageant" type of crying, I don't want to deal with that.
  • ayeHEARTyoo@xanga

    i have absolutely no problem with men crying. my boyfriend used to have a problem if he cried. he'd get really upset and say something like "girls don't like guys who cry. they want someone stable and strong" and i used to try so hard to make him realize that it was okay to cry. :/

    oh, stereotypes.
  • joycemiles@xanga

    I think it's okay for guys to cry. If he is waay to emotional like me.... then that's a big problem. My boyfriend is a very manly man, but he does have feelings of sadness and loss... so of course I don't mind him crying. I mean, he  has to put up with me... and I cry lots! poor him. I've only seen my boyfriend cry twice... and both of them was my fault. blaah. yeah. now I feel bad. oh well. now I'll just have to write a blog about the second crying incident. haha.
  • Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga

    There was an episode of Friends about this. Bruce Willis was really stiff and unemotional until Rachel broke him down and he started crying all the time and she got really tired of it. I don't think it's taboo for guys to cry, just not the same way as girls, or else it would be bizarre.
  • UnopenedSuitcases@xanga

    @Roadlesstaken@xanga - lol lies!

    But men definitely cries. I've seen a few
  • GiantUnicorn@xanga

    There are only a few times in a mans life when he should cry.
    When he gets married.
    When his first child is born.
    Or someone dies.

    When I see a man cry I just find it such a huge turn off. If I don't cry, why should you be crying?

    But that's just me. To each their own.
  • a_single_raindrop@xanga

    It actually made me fall in love with my boyfriend even more. I saw that he was a human being, and to see him shed tears made me sadd :( lol though everytime he cries, I cry about 100 times more.


    I think I've only seen my boyfriend cry about 3 or 4 times in the 3 years we've been together. It makes me more aware of what I'm doing - because when he cries, it's usually my fault. heh :/

  • XxRainyxMondayxX@xanga

    i like it.  it shows that they have a heart.
  • caminjammers@xanga

    i cried yesterday.
  • xourlastendeavorx@xanga

    I cry a good bit, but i've never cried when with a girl, even the deepest. I feel comfortable but at the same time in an evolutionary sense, TOO much man-emotions can kind of devaluate a man in front of a girl. NOT all girls feel this way but from talking to a lot of female friends they have, in subtle ways, told me of this. 

    I have no problem crying over opera, or art or drama movies and so on around my love. But doing so about certain issues of my own (which I have reason to cry over) I utilize strength and logic as a means to self overcoming. I don't know, but I seek comfort but I do not become a rain cloud.
  • xourlastendeavorx@xanga
    But than again, others have told me of how it brings them closer to the one they love. Its hard and I suspect it depends on who you are and who your with. I cried today.
  • landlockedeyes@xanga

    It's natural.
  • alayshaj@xanga

    I have seen my boyfriend cry countless times. It doesnt make me feel uncomfortable. It does make me sad though, but I try not to cry because I feel like I would be making him feel bad for making me cry or something. 
  • testubebaby@xanga

    acceptable until they reach the point of 'hey aren't you sad too? why aren't you crying with me?'

    don't even remind me.
  • kitkats_guitar12@xanga

    My ex was a very masculine guy, too. He didn't show a lot of emotion, and usually if he did, it was anger, or he was being funny and weird. If I was sad, he would ask whats wrong, but I never cried with him, nor did I ever really tell him what was wrong. If there was a problem he had with me, he would tell me. He was confrontational, I was a "forget it, never bring it up" person. He was super caring though, and very manly. When he broke up with me, he started crying, and we had only been dating for 3 months. It was sooooo weird to be the one comforting. I didn't laugh at him, but after he left, it did make me giggle a little, just because he cared so much that he actually cried. it was the last thing I expected. I didn't cry at all, but I was more the emotional one I thought. I don't know, I except in all ways, if a guy ever needs to cry, i am here for them, but I guess i just didn't expect it. I hope when we start talking to eachother again, we can be good friends.
  • r1bc4g3k1d@xanga

    it's fine if men cry as long as no one's around.

    haha.no i'm kidding, but really... it freaks me out when people cry in front of me, male, female, or hermaphrodite.
  • B2yan_C@xanga

    i just about never cry. only under special circumstances do i shed tears. no, Rudy is not one of them.

    a man who cries is obviously sad. that's what my thought on it is.

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