Wednesday, 01 July 2009
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My Boyfriend's Cousin Kissed Me
The other day, I was spending time with my boyfriend's cousin "Tim". He later kissed me on the lips. Fairly innocent, but very weird. I told "Tim" that it wasn't appropriate since I am his cousin's girlfriend. Tim responded by saying, "It was fairly innocent. I respect you and my cousin." After this happened, I told my boyfriend, "Carl," about the whole situation. Carl's response was, "I saw this coming from a mile away. It was bound to happen. I'm sorry that my cousin is an asshole."
What am I to do? I don't want to be the girl that forces a wedge between two close cousins, but I am extremely weirded out by the situation. My friends have told me to avoid Tim at all costs. But I don't want the friendship I have with Tim to suffer because of this fiasco.
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Listen to your friends. Avoid him.
Yeeahh...if that happened to me, I wouldn't know what to do. My boyfriend and his cousin are like brothers...not to mention that his cousin is married and has a kid! XD
I wouldn't say avoid him. Talk to him. Tell him how you felt about it and that what he was doing was overstepping your personal-space bounds, even if it was "innocent". There's nothing better than some good communication to solve problems! :)
Avoid him.
AVOID him. =) simplee.
Why were you close enough to this guy for him to "steal" a kiss? It seems like there's more to the story that you aren't telling.
Stay away from him. ><
So, you don't want to drive a wedge between Tim and Carl, and you don't want your friendship with Tim to suffer.
At what point do you realize that you telling your boyfriend about something you could've handled and squashed on your own officially drives a wedge between the two, and incredibly damages your friendship with Tim? Not only is Tim going to feel uncomfortable enough as it is for being an idiot, but even more so knowing you ratted the situation out to his cousin, your boyfriend; and your boyfriend is not going to feel good about you hanging out with him anymore. If the boyfriend saw it coming from miles away, and it happened, he's not going to like knowing you ever hang out with that guy. I sure as hell wouldn't...
you kind of have a thing for timmy too don't you?
don't lie. admit it.
Think of Tim like you think of the plague, and avoid him.
Your friends are right. Avoid him.
Avoid him for a while, it'll send the message that his actions were very inappropriate and you aren't willing to deal with his behavior. And then when you start talking to him again sit him down and talk to him about the boundaries. Tell him while he might have thought it was innocent that you didn't appreciate the gesture.
Definitely avoid him. He obviously can't respect boundaries.
Just don't give him time to do that stuff- and if you must hang out with him, try not to be alone- and be with a group of AT LEAST 3 before you hang out. And if this Tim still tries to come after you, then just avoid him.
@i_r_keiko@xanga - I agree. It definitely seems like there's a missing part from the story...
My name is Tim, by the way
Is that it?
Your boyfriend knows his cousin better than you do. Your judgment was not good. Listen to him, AVOID HIM.
stay awayyyyy.
stay away.....
I like how most people are advising to stay away. This isn't like some bully on the playground or something, and shouldn't we be encouraging people to face their problems and try to come up with solutions that actually produce results rather than just, "oh avoid him". Since the two guys are family, chances are that total avoidance is not possible anyway. It makes more sense to me to talk it out, maybe get both of them involved in a conversation. Still, it's encouraging that so many here are ready to take on life's challenges.
Um, he's a creeper. stay away. he should've gotten a slap in the face. at the very least, youcould at least be angry at him. 'friends' don't do that. this is not a 'friendship'. take a closer look.
It would be really awkward. But you probably could've handled the "Tim" situation without telling your SO. You didn't drive a wedge between Tim and Carl's relationship. Tim did when he kissed you. And Tim but a wedge in you two's relationship when he kissed you. So basically, this is all Tim's fault.
Stay away!
Talking to him about your feelings and such will give him more reasons to like you and consider that you're falling for him (by assuming you care a whole lot), which I'm guessing is not what you want.
Avoid avoid avoid!
@i_r_keiko@xanga - @testubebaby@xanga - seriously.
listen to your boyfriend and move on. i mean, if your bf saw it coming, he doesn't blame you and you at least told him straight away, right? and it's your bf's cousin, it's not like you're going to see him very often anyways... don't make a big deal of it but just be aware.
yeah, avoiding is the best thing to do...
"I saw this coming from a mile away. It was bound to happen. I'm sorry that my cousin is an asshole."
XDDD