Okay, so I get that there is a testosterone overdose going on and that some men feel the need to prove their masculinity, but what is up with the constant need to battle it out? What happened to talking things out and finding a solution?
Last week, my ex informed me that he was going to "fight" my current guy. Really? Is that necessary? Being the pacifist that he is, my boyfriend just laughed and made a joke out of it, but it irked me then and it still does now. Are these men just overcompensating for something? Why else would they feel the need to attack the next guy that they feel sniffs out their territory? I'm sorry, but when a girl makes eyes at my man, I don't feel the need to drop kick her into oblivion. Maybe just a personal preference.
Girls, how do you feel about men fighting over you? Guys, what do you think? Can you explain this phenomenon to me?
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i have no insight on this, but... is the picture from fight club? i love that movie.
@shinymeshapples@xanga - lol, no relevance but funny
@shinymeshapples@xanga - are you sure that's fight club? o.o
" I'm sorry, but when a girl makes eyes at my man, I don't feel the need to drop kick her into oblivion."
If a girl wants to look at how hot my boy is, let her.Now, if she wants to approach him and talk about it, then I feel a very driving need to drop kick her into oblivion.
@chayswag@xanga - on second thought, probably not--i don't see brad pitt or edward norton in the picture--but it's kind of got that palaniuk look to it, no?
@shinymeshapples@xanga - yeah, that guy is definitely not as attractive as brad pitt. xD but yes, it does (:
I'm younger than most people around here and probably don't have as much experience as anyone else, but I would say that you've got it spot on. Some guys are so insecure, they need to prove themselves. Some girls like that in a guy; it boosts self-esteem and helps them build their own pedestal. It could also come from the old instinct of chivalry. Opening a door for a girl is kind. Pulling a chair out for them is good manners. But some guys think that if someone gives their girl, or any girl, a sideglance, they must be taken down.
Just my opinion.
Men are territorial. I'm not trying to objectify women, but when a guy starts dating a girl, he sees her as his. No amount of gender sensitivity training will change that. It's just the way guys think.
I know that when I was dating during my senior year in high school I got really protective. So, when a junior punk kept hitting on "my woman," I was mad. At one point, he put his arm around her, so I knocked him over some chairs.
It's kind of an "alpha male" thing. It's not always about the woman, oddly enough. I was upset because the guy knew I was dating the girl, yet he still made passes at her right in front of me. It was a blatant display of disrespect.
I think guys fight over girls for pride's sake. They feel the need to exert dominance over the challenger.
@shinymeshapples@xanga and @chayswag@xanga - That IS Fight Club and the guy IS Brad Pitt. He's just really beat up in that picture.
I think you're right too. Although I think I"m more possessive of my man. I like catching other girls checking him out, I think its a compliment to him and makes me feel good to know that he's mine. However, if it goes any farther than checking him out I feel the need to drop kick her.
I like to blame it on our ancestral caveman instincts.
i think that it's cute, but it's kind of unnecessary, if you find someone new, then you do.
@quicksandbuddy@xanga - Exactly.
This guy hit the nail on the head. Listen to the ONE man who actually answered this question so far.
maybe your ex thought it would win you back if he displayed something old school and archaic. plus he clearly does not understand you. lol
In the "olden" days, men fight for their lover's honor. If a guy insulted your girl friend, instead of laughing with the joker, the boyfriend would challenge the joker and teach him a lesson. THAT is something but your ex who thinks he can win you back if he "fought" your current guy instead of respecting your choice and judgment is just STUPID.
@quicksandbuddy@xanga - 110% agreed.
I wouldn't fight another guy for talking to my girl, but putting his hands on her or blatantly ignoring/disrespecting the fact that she's in a relationship would be grounds for a fight. And amongst men if you're the guy who's acting like a douchebag, no one is going to back you up. "Bro, that's what you get for trying to muscle in on another guy's woman."
It's mine's. NOT yours. BE RESPECTFUL
and BACK THE FUCK OFF
that's all to it.
@chayswag@xanga - @shinymeshapples@xanga - That is definitely Brad Pitt and that's definitely fight club lol.
Immaturity. That's all to it.
DAMNNNN Bradd Pitt ;] LOL.
Ehhhhh, I guess it's the same for me. I'm not the overlyprotective or clingy type, but if some girl was eyeing my boyfriend... then I would be okay with it. I mean he IS hot... who wouldn't be looking at that ROFL. But, if she started to like.... let's say, disgustingly grind on him or like touch him.. well then, we have a problem thereee.
@quicksandbuddy@xanga - Agreed.
yes fight club
yum bradd pitt
You should be asking the other way around too: Why do women fight over men? Even when the guy is a total jerk!
But to answer your question, I guess perhaps it's the show the woman, "This is what I would do for you." It's supposed to get them all hot and bothered and pounce on them or something. And apparently some of these guys have the mindset that, if they win the fight, they win the girl, which isn't necessarily true. If I think a guy is a jerk, him winning a fight won't make me change my opinion.
It's immature. Fighting won't really solve anything. Communication will work so much better.
Same reason animals fight over females for the rights to mate. Humans are an aberration because we've replaced the ability to kick the crap out of somebody with money and personality. Those that have neither stick to their knuckles. And don't tell me you're not in the least bit flattered over the attention.
@coolmonkey@xanga - I like this comment the most so far. I agree on the last bit too.
Natural Selection... Survival of the Fittest?
hey, that means the girl is good enough for the guys to fight over for her.