Monday, 29 June 2009
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Have You Been On A "Secret Date"?
Lately my close guy friend and I have drifted apart over the past year as he enlisted in the army. We have this sort of on and off relationship going on and over the past four years of our friendship; he actually had a girlfriend which kind of soured things between us. They've broken up and all but I think he may still like her. Despite all that, there have been rumors about us going around, which we both pretty much just ignore.A few weeks ago, he invited me to a dinner party as it was compulsory for all of them to bring dates. I can't say I wasn't expecting it but I did feel rather surprised he asked me since he had so many other female friends.
However, just yesterday when we were out for dinner with friends, one of them asked him who he brought. And even though I was just seated next to him, he just remained silent. Everyone started joking about possible candidates and soon the matter was dropped.
What puzzles me is that he didn't just say it was me.
Have you ever been on a "secret date" before? Did he (or she) deny it? What did you do?
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Comments (11)
Inviting a friend to a dinner party doesn't mean it was a "date". Maybe he just knew you'd be available on the date it was set for and thought it'd be nice to ask you to come along. However, it was kind of weird he didn't just say he'd asked you to come when asked about the person he brought as his guest.
He probably just didn't want to start up the rumors again.
He probably didn't want to explain himself to your friends who would have made a big deal about you being his date as they've been doing so far... O_o
I've dated one of of my ex's after we broke up and because I didn't want to be judged (they can't help themselves) or criticised about my actions (neither did he) I didn't tell anyone. When they asked who I'm dating, I just made up a name and used that as the name of my ex so they wouldn't know who. It stopped after a month and a half because it got too complicated (emotionally) but I can understand how you might feel. If you guys talked about it, although it may have been awkward to bring it up, it would've been easier. My ex and I both discussed and agreed it's better if nobody knew about it so our friends wouldnt give us crap for it. lol
Nope.
Cant say that i've been on a secret date before...but from a guy's perspective, he prolly just didn't want you to be the subject of the rumors again so he remained silent. Don't think too much of it
Wow that's like...a quiet burn. I've never been brought as a shameful date, but I've been asked on dates that weren't called "dates", which kind of reduced their romantic qualities. Hang-out dates, sort of. Does that count?
Um never been a "secret date", but my boyfriend and I broke up for 6 months, but during that time we were in an awkward semi-relationship. I remember one time I was visiting him, and was about to leave when his dad called, so he was talking with him for a while..and then because I was going to be late for my bus, he told his dad that he "actually have to run an errand." Afterwards, I asked him why I became an "errand," and he never told me, but I think it's because his parents really liked me and if they knew that I was spending time with him that'd give them false hope? Granted we do end up back together..
But that was it.
he was probably shy to say it was you because he thought you didn't feel the same way
@goofball4@xanga - thinking the same thing.
He's probably just shy. ask him what;s up. or maybe the rumors... =T
i'm doing that right now with a guy but i'm having mix feelings about him and i'm not sure if my friends would like him. i usually don't care about what people think sometimes but now, i'm just not too sure anymore.
I would say that he didn't know how he would answer the inevitable questions that would follow. He doesn't know what the date meant to him or to you.