I love my boyfriend, but there is no doubt in my mind that we can be a bad influence on each other. While he can be my main source of inspiration, sometimes he inspires me to do things that I know aren't for my own good. I know that the same goes for him when it comes to me. We stay up entirely too late, eat way too much junk food, and spend massive amounts of unnecessary cash.
Sometimes, all I need is his approval and as soon as I know that he's on board, I'm in. The more that we encourage each other, the more we make decisions that I know will come back to haunt us later. It is never anything too drastic, just little annoyances that affect our day-to-day lives. How am I suffering as a result? Right now, I'm only poor, tired, and overweight. Good thing he loves me no matter what, right?
Do you and your SO have bad habits?
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No, only you and your "SO" do.
I once had a bf that encouraged me to steal. We called ourselves Bonnie and Clyde. I stopped once I got caught but I wouldn't be surprised if he's still doing it. It was pretty stupid and something I'm NEVER doing again!
nope! but we have developed GOOD habits!
such as, we've encouraged each other to take up more exercise and we cook together etc.!
^___^
I'd say as a rule we develop good habits. The only things that are maybe bad is that he cracks his knuckles too much and he's started (not on purpose) getting me to do it also. I tend to eat past nine and he never did before he met me. But now we're working on both those things :)
I'm not sure, my SO and I were both riddled with bad habits before we even met.
The worst habit my SO's gotten me into is the occasional cigarette after coitus. Other than that, we're pretty good influences on one another.
I will say my SO has had a BAD influence on me! I never used to drink or smoke and now I do both quite often. I also have a horrible habit of constantly popping my body and now I find him doing it as well. When I'm with him we also stay up really late and eat really unhealthy. Eeek...
i have alot of habits with myself.
The worst thing my Sunshine has ever encouraged me to do is ditch school. However, the only reason he did that was because we were both stressed out from the workload on top of our problems at home. He's been trying to get me to kick my perfectionist mentality so I can learn that it's okay to make mistakes. He never pressured me to do anything I didn't want to. When he got me to ditch school I seriously needed it. That day I had been crying. It was a well deserved break. The sad part is that no one even noticed that I'd left durring school, but he had to get a readmit slip at least.
The only bad things that he encourages me to do are things he thinks I should do only every once in a while so I don't drive myself to the looney bin. Otherwise, he's working with me on being more comfortable with myself and accepting less than favorable situations and teaching me to take care of myself rather than always worrying about others even when I'm not doing well. Things like eating better foods and remembering to eat regularly even if I have to stop what I'm doing for a few minutes as well as helping me reach my personal grooming standards. Most importantly, he helps me get my priorities straight. Such as making sure I take care of my needs before I take care of other people's desires. What you need comes before what others want, is basically the teaching.
Totally. Thanks to my SO I am painfully addicted to the computers and my SO picked up my smoking habit... Sigh.
I think everyone develops a bad habit from an SO, whether it be drastic or not. I've noticed that I'll eat a little differently around my boyfriend just because I can and he loves me for me, even though I know I should be sticking to my diet. or maybe he'll be a little bit more passive and closed off just because that's how I am and it's rubbed off on him a bit.Â
But just because we've both developed bad habits off of each other doesn't mean we haven't developed good ones as well. Around him, and even when we're apart, I've noticed that I'm a better person in general. These good habits heavily overpower the bad ones I've picked up.
Last relationship (DURING WINTER) my ex and I stayed in and ordered in WAY too much pizza AND chinese food. I tend to hole myself in when it gets cold so it didn't do us any favors.... and early part of our relationship, we were off the social grid, missed WAY too many bdays from both sides.
not good
not going out with our friends to stay in and cuddle. We both don't want to be "that" couple and we both have a really active life outside each of each other. So we don't let that happen to often..but in the beginning we didn't go out at all, lol. we're better now, I think. I am, anyways. every friday night is my girls night.
@kor_girl@xanga - omg same here!! I think it's something to do wit hthat early nesting stage of the relationship :)
Hahahaha, yeah we have your habits as well as some more of our own. We drink too much and used to smoke pot too much but the arrival of my son toned down the latter. We also curse too much and compete for the grossest farts.
Mm, we like to eat out ... especially at quite pricey and expensive Japanese restaurants. He isn't really careful about money, whereas I am quite stingy. So we make up for it ahah. But lately I've been just whatever and use my credit cards to buy a lot of things.
I guess that's our bad habit ... spending too much money.
haha i hear ya! my old boyfriend and i would gorge ourselves on
junk food- we'd be sitting on the couch watching TV, one of us would
get a hankering for chips/ice cream/chocolate cake, and we'd run right
out and buy it!
pretty soon he made the observation that we
were both gaining weight, though, and then we switched to good habits
by riding bikes and exercising together. so i think it goes both ways
Yes, we eat a lot of junk food. And smoke way to much weed. I love it though
Me: I take everything to heart. If you hurt me, I probably will get sad for the rest of the day. Verrrry sensitive.
Him: Lazy... not SO lazy, but if I ask him to pick me up for someplace, he'll be like just drive yourself... where I CANT DRIVE, im 15 lol.
@coldfaceblush@xanga - Psh, nothing wrong with that.
My bf's a TV junkie, whereas I am not. I am now hooked to a lot of shows thanks to him.
We have developed good habits though: appreciation of nature more (hiking, camping), staying fit, etc.
Nah, I think me and my boyfriend are both good for each other.
i mean people all have bad habits, and if you stay around someone so long, their habits will rub off on you, and yours on them.
my ex and i used to do that too, spend lots of money on useless things and we'd drink too much. it's hard not to be each other's influence when you're around each other so much.
we dont have any major bad habits. but we do spend a lot on food and entertainment but i dont think those are bad habits. those are what most couples do...
but the good things are:
1) i used to hate spending time with nature, but now we enjoy fishing and camping (thanks to him)
2) i used to have a bad taste in fashion and i spent a lot on worthless stuff, but now he advises me when we go out shopping.
and i love him just the way he is. with or without the bad influences.
ohh maybe there is one bad habit i developed with him. my bf is not really the "on time" kinda guy. he's the kind of guy who'd say "im on my way" when actually he just woke up. so sometimes i will use that phrase when im late to something. i'll say im on my way when in fact i am just getting ready. ;P but i still manage to be on time to work and appoinments. :D