Sunday, 28 June 2009
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This Does Not Need to Be A Taboo Subject.
It's not every day I have the chance to have awkward conversations with two of my ex-boyfriends. I'll leave them nameless, though they both read my blog. It was like having your brother have to give you "the talk". Not quite as awkward as all that, but for their sakes and mine, I'll continue this on a different tangent. Or not.
Why is masturbation such a taboo subject? Wouldn't it be better for a person to relieve the sexual tension that builds up naturally in a way that isn't sex? I don't have sex, but that doesn't mean that I have to wait until my wedding day for my sexual hormones to kick in. I am a woman, and it is even more of a danger for a women to mention masturbation than for a man to.
I mean, look at American Pie. How more blatant of an example does one need? Sex isn't the only way to be satisfied. It's just the one that it is okay to talk about. Everywhere, on every station and on every TV program you can find things showing sex, talking about sex or suggesting sex. (And on that note - just because we see sex everywhere does not mean we are open about it. It just means that we like to look, then condemn it with devout speeches about immorality).
But masturbation is seen as dirty. Why is that? What is so wrong about discovering the things that your body can do? Is it wrong to want to know yourself, your limitations and your possibilities? Masturbation is something that is hardwired into our brains. Children as young as two have been documented pleasuring themselves. Do they know it is bad? No. Do they think it dirty? No. It is a way for them to learn about themselves and their surroundings. I believe that as a human, God would want us to know ourselves as much as we know, love and trust Him. I see nothing wrong in it.
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Hear hear! There's nothing immoral and wrong about a quick rub-out!
Oh..this was religious?
The sides seem pretty black and white. Either you say it's immoral and adulterous and secretly do it, or you do it and aren't ashamed of it.
I, personally, think there's nothing wrong with doing it or even talking about it.
Well, y'know, a lot of people who think masturbation is a taboo subject are also churchgoers, and in church they don't like masturbation. Something about wasting seed...
I learned in Med Psych that children as young as 15 months can "pleasure" themselves....and honestly, I didn't know about female masturbation until this last year and I'm 23. =( I don't think it's dirty but it's something private that sometimes it's difficult to discuss with other people, especially in the conservative Asian culture.
I see nothing wrong with doing it or talking about it either its actually been medically proven to be very healthy for you, especially for men! Men need to get rid of their sperm a few times a week to make room for new sperm or else it decrease their chance of good sperm reaching the woman's egg.
I think masturbation should be promoted more because it GREATLY lowers your chance of STDs and pregnancy!
There's definitely nothing wrong with it. Unfortunately I only know one person out of all my friends who is comfortable reciprocating if I ever bring up sexuality, and vice versa. As liberal as the world wants to pretend it is, we still live in a narrow minded conservative society that looks down on old taboo topics, but we have to admit we've come a long way - at least no one is freaking out when a woman shows a bit of ankle anymore.
I saw on a documentary that in the womb, several developing female fetuses were found stroking the area around the clitoris.
Unfortunately its suppressed in females but encouraged and normal around males. This makes me very sad. Personally I think both men AND women need to know what pleases themselves before going into a sexual relationship with a partner. This way it is more successful and less frustrating for both parties. I also think this is a great way for both parties to relive sexual tension without jumping into sexual relationships at very young ages.
If / when I have children I am certainly not going to allow this to become taboo. Its criminal to the human form and needs.
Anyone ever see the Seinfeld episode where they make a bet on how long everyone will last before doing it? HAHA.
Nothing wrong with it, I just choose NOT to do it.
God wants us to masturbate?
so u like pokin urself huh? haha jk i think 90%-95% people do it...but i have never surveyed. i dont think there is anything wrong with it in fact before i had my son there were somedays where i couldnt even continue my day without fingering myself or gettin fucked. swear. we all do it men and women alike but what else is there to talk about. technique's, the way u rotate ur finger around ur clit or the wrist movements on ur dick.how many times u masterbate, what u masterbate to, different positions u masterbate in, new sex toys u masterbate with,how u stick ur middle and index fingers in ur vagina opening to the knuckle over and over when u masterbate, how much cum usuanlly cums out when u masterbate, how a man can not give u an orgasm like ur own finger on ur clit........whoa! i need to stop.
i think people dont talk about it because it is a personal thing...me,myself, and i.
I don't think there is anything wrong with maturbating! Or talking about it. But if you are talking about it to someone who is uncomfortable then respect that and talk to someone else about it. <3
Hahaha wanna go out have some coffee and talk about masterbation?
Hm. I don't really see the point of bring God into this... but I agree with you. I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating.
I think it's so taboo because we make everything related to sex "dirty" or "improper" or whatever. But, you're right, most people masturbate, some don't, and, generally, I've found the people who don't can't bring themselves to because it's 'uncomfortable' or 'gross'.
On the flip side, it's a good release.
Agreed.
Well I'm glad you blogged about it! Yay for masturbation!
@ViciousGrin63@xanga - No. definitely not. it's like having sex with yourself, why would you want that? God made sex to be between a man and a woman when they're married. it's a great thing, a unifying thing. it's meant to unify a couple when they're married, as well as give them pleasure. if you're masturbating, you're becoming unified with yourself. that's not how God intended that.
you can totally control your desires too. its called self-control.
sorry to sound preachy. :/
I'm not sure where you live, but where I come from (the USA) jokes and references to masturbation are heard ALL the time, on TV, radio, and yes, in conversations among friends. I can think of several times just this week where the subject came up between me and friends, and even me and coworkers. And it's been the subject of sitcom episodes, etc.
So, in my experience, it has not been a taboo subject for a very long time.
masturbation is not dirty, its not disgusting. its just supposed to be ur little secret.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - Actually the problem with masturbation among Christians has more to do with lustful images in your mind more so than spilled seed.
i've never thought of masturbation as a bad thing. i love to do it, i love to have my bf watch me do it too.
I really think it depends on who you hang out with. For example, at my bachelorette party, we stopped in to a sex shop and had a long discussion between all of us girls about what the best vibrators and dildos were, both for using with your partner and for masturbation. No embarrassment, no taboo. So it really depends on the company. Personally, I got over my feeling of "Taboo" about it a while ago.
-Katie
I have masturbated since I was 4. My earliest memory was Mom walking in and the look on her face...well, I knew I was doing something bad haha.
Well, I don't consider it bad. :P My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship, so when he isn't here, I love using my *ahem* toys. :)
I completely agree. And I'm glad someone was mature enough to address this often ignored issue in a classy way =]