Miss Walrus
Before I started seeing my current boy, I was
thisclose to starting a relationship with someone else. Someone equally as intelligent, attractive & hilarious as the current boy, but with one tiny issue: He was jobless.
There's some weird quirks I can handle when it comes to potential mates, like an affinity to Star Wars or a love of metal music, but when I found out this dude didn't had a job, I decided that was one weird quirk I couldn't stomach.
There are some situations where being jobless is acceptable - like still being in high school or college or a recent grad - but other than that, I think having a job is pretty (okay, VERY) important.
What about you - would you date someone without a job? If so, under what circumstances?
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Was he in-between jobs? Or was he never going to look for one?
I won't say no, but it's highly unlikely. Unless of course they were laid off, and were actively seeking work and desired to work and not be a lazy ass who lives off of unemployment insurance just "because they can" and don't really need to. I find men with no job to be a huge TURNOFF. A guy's gotta have ambitions, good work ethic, dedication, and passion for what they do.. in my personal opinion. ♥
Only if he was a full-time student!
If he was a student, yes. Or if he was in the process of looking for a job.
in this economy and they were actively looking for one and doing their best.
I totally agree. But I don't think I would. I mean, I'm only 17, so not alot of my guy friends have jobs, but if I were a grown woman, looking for a potential mate...nuh uh. You need a job buddy.
I've dated people without jobs before. It's sometimes a rough road to go down.
@Pieces_of_a_Melody@xanga - I agree with you. I see so many people try to ride on the coat tails of others & it's so stupid & greedy.
I understand times are tough but there are people doing whatever they can to support themselves & others who depend on them, so what would be their excuse? If I had to flip burgers or mop the floors until something better came along, I would.There's dignity in all work. One guy I work with has a college degree & a family to support but he's working in retail because no one is hiring in his field but he's not embarrassed.
Not unless she was not a student. It would probably in most situations indicate she is incompetent or plain out lazy. I like girls who are well-educated and motivated in life.
My boyfriend had a job last year, until September. He's been looking since... so it's been about 8 months. So yes I would.
In these circumstances, it's not hard to be a little more forgiving of the unemployed. It would depend on his attitude, whether he is a discouraged worker or just on the rebound for another job.
when you're in highschool or college, being jobless is definitely on the [okay]. it's not TOO great, but I guess I'd roll with it, [most of the time, no]. but when you graduated from college, and you're jobless, plus you're not looking, then buhbye
only if she was between jobs.
I would have a very hard time doing so, I would think. I'm a full time student and uhm...I have a job, too. I suppose there are some circumstances - "I'm laid off" *Slutty side of me says - "Let me help you with that"*, "I'm a full time student" or "I'm physically unable to, right now." *Workers comp is what I was talking about.* Those are probably the only excuses I would consider excused... I can't really picture myself marrying the guy who's number 34 in the unemployment line. If you want a job bad enough, you'll find one.
Only if he is a full-time student would I date a jobless guy.
My boyfriend is currently jobless. He still goes to school, high school. He had a job, but put it on hold cause he needed to catch up and went to day school (he's still in summer school.) He's 19, turning 20 this december. He stopped going to school a bit after middle school and early high school years because he mom had past - he's an only child & his dad was never there. He's no bum. Really determined to finish and has goals.
It depends on the situation. Like how hard are they looking for a job, and if they ever held down a job before and how they feel about manual labor and what not. But in most cases, no dating a jobless person means you'd be carryinig that person until you break up.
since i'm not in college anymore so my answer would be know. maybe if i was still in college, i would date a jobless college guy but now that i have a career of my own and living on my own, i would have to say no. i don't need him to always pick up the bill or buy me nice gifts but if he's same age with me or older and is just unemployed then hell no. in between jobs, we can discuss later.
I would, since I can only class my job as a work experience/work placement I dont know how long it was last for, there is a waiting list at the training provider ready to send more people down.
ina bad economy many good guys are jobless or having to take crappy jobs to survuve. I am glad that guys are not so picky when it comes to females. I was in grad school (& recently graduated) paying my own bills and females were getting many more scholarships than me and had parents paying for everything. The double standard annoys me - if you want to be provided for them dont act as if you want independence and if you want independence then stop having to depend on your parents and/or boyfriend/husbands to support you, seriously!
I am seeing a women who is not working. It does put a lot of strain on the relationship, as she has a lot of time on her hands, and wants me around, and is contacting me all the time. She hardly has any money, but I still love her, and want to be with her. I am afraid after she does start to work, or realtionship may change for the worse. I just hope she remembers everything I have done for her, and she wants me in her life still.
Yes, I'm currently seeing someone who does not have a job. It is really hard because I feel like so much of our conversation revolves around his looking for work. And with so many displaced workers out there...well it hasn't been so easy for him. Paitent is trly needed when dating someone without a job, and that is not one of strong points.
I don't want to say NO, but I don't want to say YES either. I've been with a guy who didn't have a job and who was always AVAILIBLE to hang out all the time. I don't WANT to be with a person like that it makes them look pitiful. Under some circumstances if they were in between jobs and is willingly to find a job than I would. If they got fired from their job I would, but if they weren't looking for a job and was always availible to hangout then I wouldn't.
My boyfriend hasnt had a job since I met him, over a year ago. It doesnt make him any less of a good boyfriend. Ok, we dont go out for meals and such often, but when we are able to it is more of a special occasion than "where shall we go this week?" can be.
And in the current financial climate, its not easy to find one.
Dont knock it straight away.
No, unless he's in grad school and fully funded. I made that mistake once. I also won't date someone who hates his job.