Friday, 26 June 2009
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"You make me want to be a better person."
I'm going to make this short and sweet: Guys, when you tell a girl, "You make me want to be a better person," what do you mean? Just because I play an active role in your life you want to become philanthropic and save the world? Do you simply want to start to grab an apple instead of that bag of Doritos? Do you actually intend to change, or do I only make you WANT to be better? I don't quite understand the concept.
Girls, has a guy ever told you that you make him want to be a better person? Did he actually change? What did you find he meant by it?
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I think he meant he wants to get rich.
He wants to get in your pants.
Yes. My ex was an alcoholic, but when we were in the relationship, he stopped completely. That really made me so proud of him.
I think it means that whoever is saying that just want to be nicer because he/she thinks you deserve it. They want to improve, so you can be proud of them... and so you can be as happy as possible and all that nice stuff.
Yet again, it might just be that they're trying to use some lame mushy line on you.
My ex used to lie a lot to me, and although he didn't do anything that constituted cheating, he was always lying about what he did with this one girl. He told me once that I made him want to be a better person, that he wanted to treat me the way I deserved to be treated, and that he wanted to return all effort I've ever put into making him happy.
Plus, I talk to him when he does random bad things, like blowing off his guy friend all the time or stealing an orange from the lunch line. I don't think he was talking about being a better person in general, though; I think he specifically meant he wanted to treat me better.
I guess context matters.
Girls, you make us genuinely want to be better people. We know what you're worth and we know how badly we have to reforge ourselves to sustain your ever infinite value. We have to be strong enough to stop the world to melt with you. So we will rethink everything and just try to get this shit right. We know you can do better, so we have to make you see we're the best. For some of us, you're the reason we rolled out of bed. We're on a mission and you best believe shits getting done.
You should want to be with someone who brings out the best in you, constantly challenges you to be a better person, etc. This is how you'll be happy and grow close together through the life experiences, both good and the bad. Being in a relationship where you don't feel this way is already clue that the drive in the relationship is either lacking or lost.
My boyfriend lied a lot just to keep things simple I guess. He would get his stories mixed up, there were some big ones and small white lies. But I, myself, will not tolerate lies of any kind. So after a few slip ups and a lot of arguments, he changed. He catches himself when he's about to tell a lie, and even if he does lie, he corrects himself. It's the effort that makes it so much better.
I've told him that I felt bad because I feel like I'm changing him (not really, but that's what girls say to be modest), and he replied back with a simple, only into a better person.
@drop_of_sunshine@xanga - I agree.
It means you have inspired them to take better care of themselves. Or inspired them in some other positive way.
Nothing else to read into it.
@SamuraiShodown@xanga - That made me smile =)
A guy has told me this once before, he just so happens to be my best friend. We aren't in a relationship or anything.. I guess he finally realized how many times I tried to keep him out of trouble.. and just be safe. He lived up to his word too -- no more into fights and underage drinking.
noone owns this line, except Jack Nicholson =P
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbyP8gbb1hw
Hmm I guess it literally means they want to be a better person, for you, not for themselves. That you inspired them to be a better person.
When you're in a relationship and you become that close to someone, you do start to see what effect your vices/habits have one someone upclose and personal... It does make you want to change those things about you, but it may not be the best thing to do in your favor if it's solely to make someone else happy.
@InTheThin@xanga - For context, my boyfriend says it to me all the time. But this time was in a text message:
"I want you to know, before you start your day or do anything else, that i love you very much. I thank god everyday that i have you in my life. You make me want to be a better person, and just seeing your face makes me incredibly happy. Have a good day baby. I love you more than words can describe."
I know he genuinely meant it, especially since nothing provoked it. No fight, disagreement, anything. I guess I just want perspective as to what he meant by that phrase.
Thanks, guys!
Yes, a guy has told me that. No, he didn't actually change. I have no freaking idea what it means, because obviously it doesn't mean that.
okay, maybe I'm just bitter toward this sort of thing, but if a guy I'm dating says "You make me want to be a better person," then I will proceed to change the channel, because who the hell wants to date someone from a tired cable channel chick flick?
My bf says that to me. He tried to quit smoking before we met, but when I told him I'm very against smoking, that was what mainly drove him to actually quit.
well..that's pretty cute...it has happen to me.
meaning, because of you, i want to change my life around.
losers say this so you won't dump them for being losers.
then they dump you because they are a cheating loser and want to downgrade.
haaha in our relationship, i'm the one who says that, because i'm afraid of not being good enough for him
My boyfriend has said that from time to time.
some guys say it and mean they want to be everything you deserve
THAT'S SO SWEET! that means he like you enough :)
@darkjim18@xanga - I agree.