Okay, so I know this sounds somewhat shallow, but when I started dating my boyfriend I was convinced that his wardrobe needed a makeover. I'm a big advocate of wearing clothes that express individuality and show your personality; however, this was not the case. Garments were chosen strictly because they were on the sale rack half price, not because he truly loved what he was wearing.
We eventually talked about it, and he admitted to me that for years he had been uncertain of what he could wear that fit who he was. He wanted clothes that were laid back, affordable, but still more stylish than the off brand jeans in the clearance section of the nearest discount department store. His sister had tried to intervene before, but the clothes she chose for him just didn't feel like the right fit. I could tell he was uncomfortable and didn't feel like himself, so one day we went shopping at a few different stores that I thought matched his personality.
Now, he walks down the street donning American Eagle. He looks more stylish, he feels more relaxed, and the overall he is happier with the general outcome. It turns out that he wanted the change all along, he just didn't know where to look. With my guidance, he has learned what he likes and what he doesn't like. When we go shopping now, he picks out clothes on his own that both look and feel great.
What about you? Do you help your SO pick out what to wear?
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o.0 why would I guy care about his "outfits" Jeans check shirt check boxers? thats a yes or no really ;3
Most guys really don't care about their appearence as much as women do.
Every now and then my boyfriend and I might say, "You pick something for me and I'll pick something for you," but generally we stay out of each other's closets.
My favorite store is American Eagle. It must have been fun dressing him up in different styles.
I do sometimes. However, if he wants to wear a cutoff and shorts on the weekends, i'm down for that. I actually don't really like going shopping, unless its for electronics or car parts. =P When we do go shopping, I take advice from him and he also does from me but i do most of the online shopping for our clothes =)
Nope. That's weird imo.
I love it! But he has the funkiest style. Sort of metro. I encourage him to move somewhat away from that lol, seeing as I like guys dressing more sporty.
The only time I helped my girlfriend pick out something to wear was when we were deciding what she should wear for my cousin's wedding. My dad was getting on my case because my girlfriend usually wears somewhat sexy style clothing and as my dad puts it, she exposes too much cleavage. My brother thinks the same too, yet mutual friends believe otherwise.
I only help my boyfriend with his clothes on special occasions, or if something looks too small. He doesn't care.
your version of individuality and personality sound more like trying to fit in.
Idk, I sometimes give him feedback but on the whole he picks out what he likes and doesn't like.
I ask him for preferences regularly, though.
When I read this title the first thing I thought up was the many time my ex would have a wardrobe malfunction and flash a nip to me.
I don't really care what my husband wears. He goes between band T-shirts, polo shirts, and button-down shirts (with jeans, khakis, or dress pants depending.) And no matter what, he's still the man I married, and he's still the man I love. Some girls would probably cringe at some of what he wears, but it's never mattered to me. I find him handsome, no matter what:) (I know, I know...super cheesy, but we've only been married 2 weeks, so you gotta cut me some slack.;))
-Katie
I never told either of my exes what to wear, and they never told me what to wear. (If one of them had had his way, I would have probably worn baggy jeans and sweatshirts everywhere. He was big on modesty...too big on it. If we had stayed together longer, he probably would have been telling me what to wear...no thanks!)
I think if I dated a guy who wanted my fashion advice, I'd give it to him. But he would have to ask me first.
@akatiegirl - I have never understood what women have against band t-shirts. I love it when men wear them. Then I at least know what kind of music he likes, and most people like talking about their favorite bands, so when someone wears a band T-shirt, I think, "cool. now I know what to talk about with them!"
Whoever I'm dating, I'll only complain if he dresses better than I do. Either I step up my game or make him back down. =P
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - hahahahaa. xD
No, but I've noticed ever since he started dating me he got a little more stylish
i've never dated a guy who didn't have some kind of a fashion sense. but if he did, i would so tell him to go back and change.
As long as he has clothes on in public, and they're not full of holes (unless they were intended to have them) my SO's wardrobe is none of my concern. I wear what I like, he wears what he likes.
Lol kinda yeah :] i like picking out clothes for guys
I think it's okay to help your boyfriend choose out some clothes from time to time. I mean, it's not girly on the guy's part or anything... and it's probably fun for you. :P
But my boyfriend has amazing style so if anything, he'd pick out MY clothes. Well, no he wouldn't. I dress pretty decently. Although whenever we do go to the mall, we'll walk by stores (or into some) and look at the clothes together and comment on if we like it on us, if we should buy it, etc. But that's probably just because we both actualllly love buying clothes! LOL
I actually had the same situation happen to me. My boyfriend had, for several years, not gone shopping - his mother would come back with clothes for him. Naturally, as a high schooler, he'd just wear whatever his mother picked out along with his band jacket and some incredibly old shorts (I, from personal experience, find that fellow band members are more accepting of whatever fashion one sports).
A few months ago, [as first year freshmen], he talked to me about the issue of his clothing, bringing up the fact that he needed some new clothes and wanted me to pick some out. He also told me that he wanted a wardrobe that doesn't hide his body (since 90% of his clothes were too baggy and he's pretty thin). He also wanted nicer shoes to wear out on special dates since all he had were dress shoes, flipflops and running shoes - no happy medium. So, we went to American Eagle, Abercrombie&Fitch and Journeys.
It's not that I wanted to dictate what he should (or not wear), but that he wanted my input as a friend and as a girlfriend. Since he wanted to his clothes to be nicer and more form-fitting, I stepped up and helped him reach that goal. Never mind the fact that he and I both wanted him to be dressed in that style :)
In any case, he's actually got a sense of style that I have. So sometimes when I can't decide what to wear, I ask for his input. Same for him -- he'll ask me what color or pants or something he should put on.
Nope.
My bf likes picking me out clothes, and he actually always picks out clothes I would like. lol.
But I love whatever he wears cuz I love his style, and I wouldnt ever want him to change it
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Sometimes, but rarely. I just usually comment when I think something shouldn't be worn and give a better alternative.
Definitely, and he's a lot more open to the idea now that he's in the workforce and needs to stop wearing his clothes from high school...