Thursday, 25 June 2009
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I Feel Like I Don't Satisfy My BF
The other day, my boyfriend and I were messing around. I couldn't get him off. We were rushed for time, so it was kind of difficult to take my time. But still - I always take care of his needs no matter what kind of situation we're in. This time I didn't and I feel horrible. I feel like I'm the worst person in the world and that he wasn't enjoying himself. He assured me that he liked it, and that he was "almost there" blahblahblah. Now I'm actually scared to do it again for fear that this will happen again.
Has this ever happened to you? Guys, have you ever not satisfied your woman?
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That's weird...sorry I can't be more encouraging. My guy goes off like clockwork. Anything I do, if I do it long enough, he'll orgasm. >.< He has never been able to make me come, but that's a different story...
Yes, you should never have sex again because of one negative experience. Let this be a lesson to everyone.
Oh actually, if he felt like he was in a hurry, it would make it harder for him to orgasm. I know that it's really difficult for some people to orgasm if they feel like they need to and they're not just sitting back and enjoying the sensations. That's probably it.
I never start without the finishing.....
People telling their sex stories online are just wacky, what has this world come to?
HELL YEAH.
FUCKING PISS ME OFF!!!! geez..
It happens. There's a whole heap of reasons why your guy may not have orgasmed, and it's nothing to do with you.
If he was feeling pressured, that's a huge give away as to why.
It's a common perception that guys always orgasm and it's just a problem for girls.
Don't sweat it, chalk it up to experience and keep going :)
Usually it's the other way around, but I always like it anyway.
It is what it is..... I like doing more than being done for but hey, thats just me =p
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - lol.
Chances are he was under stress because he was thinking, "I need to get off before x amount of time." which in turn made him unable to have an orgasm.
stop beating yourself up about it. sometimes guys get distracted by things. at worst, the distraction could be "someone else", but more often than not there's something on his mind that he might not know how to share with you. it's going to happen once in a while, and putting pressure on him by beating up on yourself isn't going to improve anything. relax and let the two of you slide.
if it becomes a regular occurrence, then there's something else happening, and it would not be a good idea to jump to conclusions about the cause. if he'll talk to you about it honestly, that's a good thing. if he keeps brushing you off, then it could be that he's already gone.
it's never easy. sorry.
only the french know what is sensual... though I could be wrong, its important to understand that men dont' find gratification from sex.. they find companionship. Its your way of telling us we're great.
Its not a need, we actually probably do a better job ourselves. its about having a companion. And its the same for girls. Listen, testoterone is a very complex little chemical in a man. we have a pretty good hold of the situation.
We just like sex, but we know when you're bored, or just doing it for the sake of it.
Well unfortunately, you're now feeling what many guys feel whenever they have sex with their girlfriend/wife. Most guys feel a sense of failure if they don't get their significant other to have an orgasm and, as many people know, women usually require more time to build up to one.
At any rate, relax. Sex is still very pleasurable for a guy even if he doesn't have an orgasm, and your boyfriend was probably proud of himself for not blowing before you. (as lame as that may seem)
@InTheThin@xanga - agreed. xP
chill out. its over and done with. wouldn't it be better for you to speak with your boyfriend about what you can do to satisfy him instead of letting yourself down? The more you discourage yourself, the more you'll turn down the opportunity(if you really seek to getting him off, that is) to satisfy him.
It happened with me and my ex a lot, especially when we were pressed for time. I feel like I want to tell you not to worry about it, but I used to worry about precisely the same thing. :/
If all else fails, ask him if there's something new he'd like to try and see how that pans out. ;)
not enough info...what were you doing? intercourse, hand, mouth, what?
Being in a hurry makes it harder to go. Don't worry about it, and I'm sure you satisfy him. Don't stop doing it because that would be unsatisfying for him. We all have awkward moments, don't let them ruin intamacy for good.
just like having sex, sometimes I don't get off. sometimes it just doesn't happen! pleeease don't beat yourself up, lol, trust me, I'm pretty sure he went and took care of himself later on that day. if it's never been a problem before, I would think of what an awesome gf you must be if this is the first time, and let it be.don't make it a mountain...a totally cock-blocking, anti-orgasm mountain :)
haha did you just ask " Guys have you ever not satisfied your women"
Protip : a chick is never satisfied with anything ever.
yeah he was just distracted....but i do feel its unfair guys can get off easier the women...lol
A few times I get tired with what I'm doing to him but he's always telling me how good it feels, so I don't mind if I don't get him to finish--and neither does he. However, he has never been able to make me come and he feels horrible about it. I just tell him that I'm broken though. ;D.
Stuff like that happens. Like all things in life, sex cannot always be a pleasant experience. It's normal to have some hiccups, so to speak.
Think about it like this--you [probably] don't get off every time you two fool around but most of the time it's still absolutely enjoyable, right? Exactly.
maybe he has delayed ejaculation. it's not your fault if your bf can't get off. you can't think like that.