Thursday, 25 June 2009
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Ever Dated Two Similar People?
So, I met this guy at a party. He's decent, nice, funny, cute. We got each other's emails, Facebook, mobile number - all just after one day of meeting. But here's the problem. When he talks on the phone, he just reminds me of my ex - who I really dislike. Actually my ex's most annoying thing must probably be the way he spoke on the phone. I can't explain it, but it was boring - really boring. However, this guy is better. At least he doesn't make me want to hang up on him five minutes into the conversation.
So, what I'm asking for is not how to solve this problem, because I think I can figure out myself (which is get over it and move on).
So I'm asking have you ever dated two very similar people, in whatever aspect that may be? If you have, did it work?
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Yes, and they were similiar in the aspect that they were girls. No, the first one didn't work out, or I wouldn't be dating the second one.
Everyone i've dated has told me the same things and dumped me the same way -.-
Sounds like you have unresolved issues with your ex if you're painting some of his unqualities on to your current interest.
Let it go, and don't worry about it. The human mind is a funny thing: it can be tricked into seeing or hearing what it wants to hear.
I have dated guys with some similar traits but not completely the same in every way possible.
Yeah, but I just would call it my type. Over 6'0 ft, brown hair, stocky built jocks. My last 5 boyfriends resembled each other so much they could have been cousins. Now, I'm dating my first guy outside of my normal: a 5'11, Italian, chemistry loving book worm. And I know those extra few inches of height shouldn't count but they do. I know I'm conscious of how "different" he is from my exes. But I just keep telling myself...they are exes for a reason, time to try something different.
I say stick with it, but if you find yourself constantly focusing on the similarities let it go. It isn't really fair to always compare anyways, you know?
Good luck.
I've dated some girls that may be similar in some ways, yes.
plenty of times, same assholes
I'm sure everyone does. The reason being that when looking for someone, we're attracted to certain things. It's what we like. So therefore, we look for it.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - omg, you always make me laugh when I read your comments. Considering I'm usually at work when I read them, this is so not appropriate :P
@Vaguely_Aware21@xanga - Hehe, sorry about that.
lol..i have never really dated the same guys. my sisters get mad at me for that. i always for the exact oppisate of my ex. hopeing that will work for me. it doesnt.
I haven't DATED two similar guys, but I've liked them. In fact, I dated the second one simply because he reminded me so much of the guy I liked the first time.
My ex sounds EXACTLY like my current boyfriend. But their personalities are nothing alike. My ex was cocky, football player, heavy drinker, band geek. Now I'm dating a nice, video-gamer, punk guy XD But I swear...their voices are exactly the same.
And yes, it's working just great between us xP.
my current boyfriend reminds me of (but is not completely like) my ex sometimes and it is working out. we have dated for almost 3 years now.
I have a friend named B and when he and I first met, we had instant chemistry. We just clicked, flirted, joked and always had fun. So I thought it was good chemistry to DATE; WRONG I was SO WRONG, in spite of all the qualities that deem us as a "good couple" I had practically no physical attraction for the guy. Too bad eh? Now we're just friends and he's cool with that... Funny thing is, I just met this guy J and although it was the first time we've met (at a friend's bbq), we instantly clicked. It felt like how it was when I first met B; of course because of that previous experience, I knew what was going on... but now it's at that semi-awkward state with J when I see him at other parties because he's flirting and we're joking, while others are counting down until I say "no, I'm not interested in you like that" etc. O_o J and B are really alike; personality wise, I instantly clicked with BOTH of them and unfortunately for both, I feel no physical chemistry.
So I can understand your issue but if you can get over it, you should definitely give this guy a try. The phone mannerism can't be that huge of a deal, eh? Maybe soon, you'll only remember how THIS guy is on the phone and not how your ex was?
I think no and I'm glad.
I think it's all right, as long as both guys don't have similar bad traits. I like really goofy guys who aren't afraid to act gay sometimes and don't have a "I must be Mr. Macho 24/7" complex. I also like them above 5'11" and somewhat slim but toned. The two guys I've dated both fit those characteristics, and one I dated for 2-3 years while the other I dated for 3 weeks because he was two-timing me.
Well, if that's the case I suggest the two of you just be friends. O.o
yes but the ways the were similar was more positive then negative! but boring? ew! if he can be boring you now I am not hopeful for this to be a long term thing. you want to spend your life with boring? nah.
All of my boyfriends have been pretty different. At one point my current boyfriend acted like the ex right before him with weird PDA's but when we got back together after me breaking up with him, he got out of that phase. So now he's completely different than anyone I've ever been with.
just about every guy that i've dated so far has some similar qualities to an ex of mines. i don't know what it is, but i'm just attracted to that quality. it does get a little distracting when you kinda like that person but he reminds you of someone you dislike. i say if you really like that person then you're going to have to block that quality away but if it bothers you then you should just move on.
yeah i guess you can say that. but like you said, just move on and get over it.
The guy I am with now is similar to my ex that I hate. They're similar in some way but not every. They're lips look alike even if my present bf's are bigger lol. I thought of my ex once while kissing him and I was so disgusted haha, but it's okay. I get over it and I know he is much better than the other one in many many ways and no one can probably top him for knowing me well enough. He knows me as much as my best friend that has known me for 8 years.
We've been together for 2 years so I know him well enough now to know they are not the same anymore. I don't even think about my ex anymore.
How I can help you to solve your problem is just, well... move on! =P It's impossible they are identical.
All the guys I've met have been very different. Or maybe I didn't see their similarities. Maybe you can try to do that. See past the similar voice and find other things that are unique about him.
ive dated 3. and they all connect in some weird way... but my current boyfriend tried his best to prove that he's not like them. he is in a way like them, but just... dunno there's something thats different and it all works out.
yupz=]