So emails between Governor Mark Sanford and his Argentinian mistress
have leaked. I was pretty curious - Meredith Vieira read excerpts from them on the Today Show dryly - and found some online.
I was expecting something really smutty, to be honest, and I was sort of charmed by his writing.
Three and finally, while all the things above are all too true — at the same time we are in a hopelessly — or as you put it impossible — or how about combine and simply say hopelessly impossible situation of love. How in the world this lightening strike snuck up on us I am still not quite sure. As I have said to you before I certainly had a special feeling about you from the first time we met, but these feelings were contained and I genuinely enjoyed our special friendship and the comparing of all too many personal notes (and yes this is true even if you did occasionally tantalize me with sexual details over the years!) — but it was all safe. Where we are is not. I have thought about it and in some ways feel I let you down in letting these complications come into a friendship that I hope will last till death.
Poetic! Of course, he did get more physical eventually:
You have a level of sophistication that is so fitting with your beauty. I could digress and say that you have the ability to give magnificently gentle kisses, or that I love your tan lines or that I love the curves of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of night’s light — but hey, that would be going into the sexual details we spoke of at the steakhouse at dinner — and unlike you I would never do that!I don't like how interested I was in reading these. Am I that much of a voyeur that I have to know what these people are saying to each other? Or am I just curious about what other people write in their love notes so I can compare them to my own?
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curiosity shouldn't always be suffocated...
I don't care about stuff like that, because it's none of my business.
I think it's sad that their private conversations of the most intimate type are now public fodder. They are both going through a traumatic dissolution of a loving relationship, and now nothing is sacred.
He seems like a true gentleman.
Curiosity is part of the human condition. We can't help but wonder, and it manifests itself in some people to a higher degree than in others.
Frankly, I find it rather upsetting that his most private of messages were leaked to the general public, subject to their scrutiny. Apparently, nothing is sacred anymore.
However, I would be putty in the hands of a man that writes me letters like those.
I have no doubt that this man fell in love with a woman other than his wife. Likewise, I am also sure that he still loved his wife. What he alluded to about an impossible relationship is one that I know, firsthand, to be possible. Sometimes a man, or woman, marries a person and then, years later, in the form of someone who isn't their legal mate, find their true sole mate. This is such a perplexing and chaotic situation. In the case of Mr. Sanford, my Governor, he met a woman of a different culture, a flower of a woman who combined sophistication and grace, an erotic specimen of a woman....this woman was not a Plain Jane, not to say his wife was but this woman was not "white bread," she was Latin, which I am sure was something that drew Mr. Sanford to her initially.....He wanted to drive a foreign sports car, he got tired of a Chevy, so to speak....and I am sure he like how this new vehicle felt, too. However, most men can be drawn to a flame but never get burned....To get burned, meaning to fall head over heals in love, one must really have more than just a physical attraction. I fell in love with a woman of a different culture, she was Asian, and I found her to be my true sole mate....and I know of the impossibility of such a situation but dove into the fire regardless. She was a graceful flower but, moreover, she understood me to a depth my wife never did and does not now.....Does anyone realize what it is like to truely understood by a mate? It is an awesome feeling. The flipside to all of this: What I was doing/what I did was entirely unfair to my wife, my family, and my lover.....and I knew it but my selfishness intruded rudely. I chose to stay with my wife...we have a child together....I know that this is not a clear cut decision but it is the one that I chose.....I still think of my lover every single day! She is always on my mind...and she always will be.....we will always be a part of each other's lives. I can relate to Governor Sanford's plight. When he says that he spent the last five days "crying in Argentina, I know that he wasn't telling a lie. I hope this man makes it through all of this and comes to a complete peace with himself, and that he choses the woman that brings unto him the most comfort, whether that be his wife or the "other" woman.
Regards,
Reldas